ya it seems like Harry's time as a ghost was a major learning experience for him. he learned some of exerting his control over his surroundings like what was pointed out in the excerpt. so ya not only his starborn but his training in GS helps.

Your first and last sentence there both require Harry to be rational and sensible rather than going with an emotional reaction.  This seems unlikely to me.

I agree, but generally speaking trusting context in a discussion with one of the fey is kinda capital S Stupid

Quote from: 2009 lexington signing

    Q:  How big will Toot get?
    A:  Depends on how much influence he has in the world.  That’s how the sidhe gain their size and power.  Mab wasn’t always as big as she is now.


Quote from: 2010 Bitten by Books Q&A:

    #150 Is Toot-toot’s increase in size due to his actions, or the title and followers he has acquired doing Harry’s bidding?”
    It’s due to /Harry’s/ actions, mostly. Toot done hitched his star to Harry’s wagon. As a result, he’s taken actions he never would have taken on his own, some of which had major consequences. Toot has effectively become a much more powerful being than he was as an independent dewdrop faerie. The physical growth is a reflection of that fact.
    I mean gosh, where do you think the Sidhe came from in the first place?

Calling Lea a 'maiden' is stretching it a bit.

Interesting 'deeper' research into Tam Lin though.  My own research was limited to what I could quickly google.

I think that Jim dropped a mention of Tam Lin for two reasons - to show that the most capable knights are independent and piss Mab off and also to show that the mantle can be set aside eventually.

I was thinking it might be a side effect of his crossing over and back.  We've seen him use Soulfire, Hellfire, Winter Knight power, and his own power with a staff, and it wasn't golden.  But I have a hard time believing the WG would take an active roll in things.  Maybe it could have been an angel casting their lot in, but with it coming from his staff, I got the idea it was internal. 

Maybe it could be this 'starborn' power.  We haven't really seen him use starborn power before, so maybe his power turns golden in the presence of an Outsider.

That'd be a handy detection tool.   

"Good and evil" aren't necessarily Touchy Topics, but when they get into things like government things definitely go pear-shaped.  They're topics which easily tray into Touchy Topics in other areas as well.  They're topics where we must be very, very careful to stay on-task and watch what examples we use, because even things like self-defense, justifiable force, individual sovereignty can stray into TT or religious areas.  So there's no ban on "Good/Evil", but we've all got to watch our examples and our tempers.