... As for lash or Alfred, they are DESIGNED to communicate with humans, it is a key function - in Lash's case, absolutely essential ...
I repeat: Lash isn't a separate "entity." She's part of Harry's own mind.
No. She is implanted in his mind. If it was just his mind, how did he learned to speak Etruscan, or Sumerian (is that what the ghouls spoke?), or know how to dislocate his thumb to slip cuffs? Improve his guitar playing? Another entity had to be there whispering in his ear.
The 3rd Law is, "Thou Shalt Not Invade the Mind of Another." That seems pretty straight, but there's ambiguity on what constitutes an "invasion" (I think, after Peabody, the Council lightened-up a bit in their attitudes toward psychomancy). "Control" has its own whole Law of Magic! "Thou Shalt Not Enthrall Another" is the Fourth Law. Again, it's nice and simple on the face of it, but admits of a large gray zone when you interrogate "enthrallment."
Even a 100% mutual & consensual mindlink spell (such Harry & Elaine used) would previously (pre-Peabody) have been seen as at least highly-dubious (likely contributing to fears & allegations of black magic, tho not seen as proof-positive, telling at trial but only circumstantial evidence).
Now they see the need to work on mental defenses, and so they need to work more robustly with the techniques and methods, and so they need to allow such minor and innocuous magics.
The key issue is willingness. In particular, reading the mind of someone who hasn't given their active consent is forbidden.
What about talking? Seems the Merlin was giving orders in the mistfiend fight? Did anyone ask for that? That was a conversation, mind reading is snooping. If I invited you in, and go to get refreshments in the kitchen, mind reading is rummaging thru my desk. Not implied by letting you in.
If we look at another UF world, Atticus has a link with Oberon - he "talks" to him, but no more compulsion than any dog owner would have on his pet. Why can't Harry and Mouse?
I that think Michael is telling Harry he asked in prayer -- and got an answer. That's not mindlink magic.
Unless a prayer IS a mindlink from a higher being.
But also, recall that most creatures don't get soul-gazed at all. Outside of humanity itself, I think it's pretty rare.
Maybe you NEED a soul, and non-sentient beings may not usually have that.