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The Bar / Re: Weird? Pretty much.
« on: May 04, 2022, 02:02:35 AM »
*Waves*

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The Bar / Re: Weird? Pretty much.
« on: February 21, 2022, 09:00:24 PM »
*Waves*

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The Bar / Re: Weird? Pretty much.
« on: October 25, 2021, 07:02:17 AM »
The job is working for a government regulatory agency for waste facilities. So, fun? Maybe not. Interesting? To a point.

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The Bar / Re: Weird? Pretty much.
« on: October 21, 2021, 05:55:34 AM »
*waves back*
That's understandable, but it was good for you to take that step. Now you can rid yourself from that mental load. It's over.
Any new job in sight, yet?
I am waiting to hear back final word on three different jobs I've applied to in the past month, one of which I feel extremely good about because it seems like a good culture fit, the pay and work/life balance are good, and the interviewers went out of their way to compliment me multiple times during the interview. So hopefully I get that one.

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The Bar / Re: Weird? Pretty much.
« on: October 17, 2021, 08:27:03 AM »
*Waves at the Weirdoes* Being unemployed is a strange feeling.I kind of had to do it for my mental health, but I have mixed feelings about it.

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The Bar / Re: Weird? Pretty much.
« on: August 28, 2021, 03:49:41 AM »
So an update on the whole coworker thing: it won't be a problem for much longer because I've decided I'm quitting to avoid burnout

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The Bar / Re: Weird? Pretty much.
« on: August 17, 2021, 02:56:07 AM »
They are lazy and it bothers me because it means I and everyone else have to work harder to make up for the things that they don't do, which just means that there is more stress to go around. If they didn't feel the need to make everyone's work day more difficult I wouldn't care nearly as much but the number of times I have been complained to by customers or idiots from other departments who don't understand or care to see the problem about an aggressively fixable problem makes it very annoying.

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The Bar / Re: Weird? Pretty much.
« on: August 15, 2021, 03:02:22 AM »
Bad coworkers are a pain in the derrière.
Can you tell, what it is, that's so bad about them? Sometimes it helps to say it aloud or write it down.
Are they lazy?
Do they work against you or against each other?
Is it all of them or are there exceptions?
Sometimes it is enough that there are one or two arseholes and the rest is to scared to say or do anything and some join them in doing arseholy things just to be on their good side.
Did you ever talk about the problems?
Does anyone talk about the problems?

What needs to be changed?

Sometimes it gets a bit better just to honestly say something about the situation and one's feelings about it with everyone present. That tells them "We see you. We know who you are. We see what you do. We have been nice about it before,  but there is a line that has been crossed and we won't tolerate that any more." No need to say any names. The ones you mean will know it is them.

I've done that. I said I had enough. I told them we don't have to like each other, but I want people I can trust with work related stuff. We don't have to see each other in private. But would you please behave like adults and just do your job.

After that I thought now I am persona non grata until one if us leaves. And they do look at me with other eyes now. More careful. As if they were afraid to piss me off. And they should be. To be honest, I'm done with being pushed around. And I made that clear.
They are still bullying others but not when they think I might see or hear about that. And I did tell them, that everyone talked to me. EVERYONE!
I never used a threatening voice or said it in threatening words. But I think they understood how angry I was.
It's just two or three out of 20, but they can ruin the whole atmosphere.
I think they were impressed, because I didn't say something for myself but for two others I noticed have been bullied for a long time. And as long as no one says anything they do whatever they want with you, because they can.
I don't need them to like me. They can even hate me. I don't care, as long as they keep their personal stuff out of work. And I do the same.

I want to cite an old woman I had a talk about arrogant people. Those who try to make you feel inferior, because they supposedly have a better life, a better job, more money, are more beautiful, raise their kids better and so on. Everyone knows such people.

The woman told me: "I don't feel inferior anymore. I told myself, that I am somebody, too."
And she was right. Everyone is somebody. If you feel the need to look down on others, then I pity you. Then you don't understand that the person you are looking down at is somebody, too. Just somebody else.



So, the main issue is that store leadership is not interested in doing anything about it. They're lazy but they show up for their shifts and are apparently better than the unknowns and costs of a new hire. No point in management writing them up if nothing is going to be done about it, right? Our current store leader is retiring in two weeks though so I'm sort of hoping if I have to stay here much longer the new store leader will do something about it.

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The Bar / Re: Weird? Pretty much.
« on: August 13, 2021, 12:02:33 AM »
(((((((DC))))))))
I am so glad you had fun!

And about your coworkers, you really did not expect them to change, did you? I hope you can find a way to cope with that, perhaps speaking with them so they change...or just having more patience  :'(
It's less about whether or not I expected them to change and more about whether or not I would get a mental reset and be able to deal with it for longer. Burnout is fun.

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The Bar / Re: Weird? Pretty much.
« on: August 11, 2021, 03:26:15 AM »
Update: I had fun in the big city, but was slightly annoyed at how far everything was apart in various pieces of the metro. Other than that it was a fun weekend and needed break from...well, everything. Unfortunately I came back from vacation and none of my coworkers had changed which has made work the past couple of days very frustrating.

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The Bar / Re: Weird? Pretty much.
« on: July 25, 2021, 03:23:52 AM »
Awesome DC (I mean, the interviews) and I hope you have fun with your vacation. Do you have any plans for it?
I'm probably going to take a trip to a big city to see some friends who live down there. Other than that I'm going to enjoy the time off.

And I'll be honest, I read both 1984 and Brave New World and...hated both of them. They were both awful and nonsensical.  :o

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The Bar / Re: Weird? Pretty much.
« on: July 21, 2021, 04:09:50 AM »
:D Well, perhaps that person has their own issues and that is why they understood that. Again, hopefully you will talk and solve the problem.

How are you doing otherwise, DC? It has been ages since I saw you.
Yeah I dunno. I'm doing pretty well, all things considered. Work is kind of boring me out of my mind lately but that's a bit to be expected. I'm asking for a vacation in a couple of weeks and I have a couple of interviews lined up soon so that's nice.

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The Bar / Re: Weird? Pretty much.
« on: July 18, 2021, 06:52:48 AM »
I don't think so either, and neither do my friends. It's strange because I don't think this person has ever actually met a narcissist or they would be aware of how comical the comparison is.

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The Bar / Re: Weird? Pretty much.
« on: July 17, 2021, 10:31:24 PM »
Indeed. Some specific reason for that comment=

Also... (((((((((((((((((DC)))))))))))))))))))))!!   :) :) :)
I got called a narcissist for making a dumb joke that didn't land. Which...is just beyond reason, if I'm being honest. There's a totally reasonable range of responses to that and that's not it.

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The Bar / Re: Weird? Pretty much.
« on: July 17, 2021, 04:19:52 AM »
I am consistently surprised by the number of grown-ass adults in this world without the emotional capacity to solve simple problems and lash out instead.  :o

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