I understand when to get mental consequences, but if after an arguement (said arguement's goal is to convince me to change my mind ) I'm told that would be mental. however, the goal of the social combat as to get me to change my mind.... so it would be social yes?
As stated YS217 mental conflicts are the rarest and most profound conflicts a character can get. They go beyond just changing your mind or making you angry, they attack the core of who you are, send you crazy or shatter your psych. The kind of abuse necessary to inflict this kind of damage require a great deal of time and energy, the result of established relationships going horribly awry.
So instead of adding weapon ratings to your social attacks, have it bumped up into the mental stress track instead of social stress. Most mortals have very little defence against this sort of attack. Think the difference between the police trying to convince a felon that violence is wrong, as opposed to Clockwork Orange treatment. Your family is being threatened? Thats cause to bump the conflict up into the realm of mental conflict in my books.
Being taken out socially usually only results in a lost argument or egg on your face, whereas a lost mental conflict you can go into psychosis or worse.