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Title: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mr. Mouse on January 21, 2026, 04:10:28 PM
I thought the explanation for why Harry's protection disappeared was disappointing, sort of 'the narrative necessitates Lara be able to touch him and I don't want to bother with Harry having sex with someone else so there it is.'

A better explanation than Mab's would have been: "The protection is a feedback loop between the lover and the beloved. When one of them dies it fades quicker than if mere distance separates them." That gets Jim out of the corner he painted himself into without making it seem that ones later loves don't matter as much, which is an odd position to espouse when writing about characters with multi-century lifespans.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on January 21, 2026, 06:31:52 PM
I thought the explanation for why Harry's protection disappeared was disappointing, sort of 'the narrative necessitates Lara be able to touch him and I don't want to bother with Harry having sex with someone else so there it is.'

A better explanation than Mab's would have been: "The protection is a feedback loop between the lover and the beloved. When one of them dies it fades quicker than if mere distance separates them." That gets Jim out of the corner he painted himself into without making it seem that ones later loves don't matter as much, which is an odd position to espouse when writing about characters with multi-century lifespans.

That really doesn't work either, Harry still burned Lara's lips in White Night five years after his split with Susan.  True, she was still alive, but he had had no contact with her at all in all those years.  To my mind, the love you feel lingers more after one loses a loved one to death than a split up, because you are still loving the memory and there is no distraction from it.  I skimmed the book before I started to read it, and when I saw that question come up, I thought was it more a quick passion than true love between Harry and Murphy?  That actually might have made things more interesting even if disappointing for both Harry and his Murphy shipping fans.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mr. Mouse on January 21, 2026, 07:43:18 PM
That really doesn't work either, Harry still burned Lara's lips in White Night five years after his split with Susan.  True, she was still alive, but he had had no contact with her at all in all those years.  To my mind, the love you feel lingers more after one loses a loved one to death than a split up, because you are still loving the memory and there is no distraction from it. 

Personally, I agree with you about the love lingering more after a loved one dies, especially if one is summoning the shade and playing boardgames with it every night. But narrative necessity triumphs over all.

They might not have had contact, but Harry still felt love for Susan after 5 years and hadn't been with someone else. Susan still felt love for Harry after 5 years and hadn't been with anyone else. Ergo, lack of contact alone doesn't break the protection.

The problem Jim created was that Harry burned Lara while Murphy was alive, but not 4 months later. He needed  Lara to rock Harry's world with a superkiss on Halloween which should have burned her lips off if the protection held. His excuse of "I just fed" from the first date won't hold if she is indeed feeding on him.

Second alternative, Jim could have said it was Odin's scooping her up that broke the connection.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: LaraBeck on January 21, 2026, 11:06:05 PM
I thought the explanation for why Harry's protection disappeared was disappointing, sort of 'the narrative necessitates Lara be able to touch him and I don't want to bother with Harry having sex with someone else so there it is.'

Couldn't agree more. If self-loathing was the cause, Harry should have lost the protection when Susan got turned. And granted, Harry himself says that he never felt as bad as he's feeling in Twelve Months over Murphy, not even when Susan got turned. But come on, it just makes no sense when we have other prior lore like Lara being burned by a wedding ring.

By that metric, will the protection returns as Harry makes peace with himself? It would be logical, except Lara still can touch him at the end of Twelve Months. And what is Murphy returns? (which is likely) Will the protection return?

I felt like there was a lot of seeding doubt into Harry and Murphy's love and I felt that was unnecessary. I mean, sure Jim needed to build up the relationship with Lara, but I don't appreciate trying to soft-retcon Murphy's character or her relationship with Harry.

Not when in the same book Harry tells us that he wanted to spend his life with Murphy.

It was like seeing two completely different Harry's chapter to chapter. I dunno, this was a major disappointment for me in this book, which overall wasn't that great to begin with.

I saw one reviewer saying that the book was soft-reboot of the series, and indeed, I feel that is accurate.

I mean, Lara, who is practically Thomas' mother, now is softer and emphathetic when she was pretty much okay with him being dead a few books in the past. And we're going to play that "she's just misunderstood" game now.

There's a lot of trying to make Lara fit into Murphy's place and I'm not happy with that, yes, partially because I still think Harry and Murphy should be together, but also because it was clumsily done in this book.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: CrusherJen on January 22, 2026, 12:10:23 AM
Since I devoured the whole thing in one sitting, it's difficult for me to sort out if my initial reactions are fully baked or not... but yes, I agree, this doesn't hit well for me at all.

To a degree, the soft-retconning could be attributed to Harry learning more about how the world really works... but in this case I can't buy it. It's too different from what we saw Harry go through after Susan, or even the way we saw Lara get burned one book ago, and I really hate throwing doubt on Murphy's feelings after she died. We got books and books of build up between those two, it feels insincere to even imply "sour grapes" now. It's not just kicking someone when they're down, they're dead, and that just seems mean, in a way the saga typically hasn't been before.

I'm not all that committed to any ship but even if Harry winds up with someone else by the BAT, it doesn't mean that what he had with Karrin wasn't real while they were together, just as what he had with Susan was real at that time.

IMHO, any of the alternative explanations in this thread would have been better than what we got in the book.

It's one thing to have an unreliable narrator (which Harry is), but too much backtracking and retconning can damage a reader's faith in the narrative, creating distance and doubts, and that's not a good thing. Yes, maybe Lara can pull back on her power to some degree, she's probably old and powerful enough to have that much control, but between that AND the oh-so-conveniently waning protection AND Mab's catty little swipe at Murphy, it's all too much.  >:(
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: LaraBeck on January 22, 2026, 12:20:20 AM
We also got Harry saying "she was often wrong" about Murphy, when that's not what we've seen him think about her in all previous books.

We even got a "she held back from you" about Murphy from her shade and from Mab.

And sure, yes, that happened, they both held back IMO, Harry and Murphy, but to point it out solely about Murphy, indeed feels like kicking her when she's down. Harry could have done some introspection about that, it was clear he was "holding himself back" in Peace Talks.

And I mean, that woman was willing to walk through fire for Harry, she got into the battle field for him as much as for the safety of Chicago.

I could argue though, that these comments about Murphy "holding herself back" might be either 1. to seed doubt in their love, or 2. to seed the possibility that nothing will stop that woman from coming back for Harry, because they have unfinished business.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on January 22, 2026, 02:33:25 PM
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To a degree, the soft-retconning could be attributed to Harry learning more about how the world really works... but in this case I can't buy it. It's too different from what we saw Harry go through after Susan, or even the way we saw Lara get burned one book ago, and I really hate throwing doubt on Murphy's feelings after she died. We got books and books of build up between those two, it feels insincere to even imply "sour grapes" now. It's not just kicking someone when they're down, they're dead, and that just seems mean, in a way the saga typically hasn't been before.

As a widow of a marriage of over forty years, it's been my experience that you don't stop loving someone just because they have died.  And my husband died ten years ago, for Harry it had not even been a month since Murphy died!  Then there was the whole thing about Murphy's shade not able to move on because of how she felt for Harry.. So yeah, a kiss from Lara should have burned her face off!  Maybe Mab was messed with that if she can? Because she would also know about the true love thing.  The other thing that bothered me was I thought that Murphy went to Valhalla? 
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: LaraBeck on January 22, 2026, 02:47:24 PM
As a widow of a marriage of over forty years, it's been my experience that you don't stop loving someone just because they have died.  And my husband died ten years ago, for Harry it had not even been a month since Murphy died!  Then there was the whole thing about Murphy's shade not able to move on because of how she felt for Harry.. So yeah, a kiss from Lara should have burned her face off!  Maybe Mab was messed with that if she can? Because she would also know about the true love thing.  The other thing that bothered me was I thought that Murphy went to Valhalla?

Mira, I think this might be one of the few times I've agreed with you so much. So, so much. Love doesn't work like it's been described in this book. Lara should have burned, badly. Mab's explanation is... lacking, something doesn't fit.

About Murphy being in Valhalla, she is. Her shade is not really her, it's just an impression of her at the time of her death. So, nothing in the book contradicts that the real Murphy is in Valhalla.
I still found it so odd that Harry gets Vadderung on the phone (is that easy to communicate with him apparently) but there's no question about Karrin, no intent to find out more, at the very least, to confirm that she's okay?

There are some weird choices in this book, IMO.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on January 22, 2026, 03:20:03 PM
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About Murphy being in Valhalla, she is. Her shade is not really her, it's just an impression of her at the time of her death. So, nothing in the book contradicts that the real Murphy is in Valhalla.
I still found it so odd that Harry gets Vadderung on the phone (is that easy to communicate with him apparently) but there's no question about Karrin, no intent to find out more, at the very least, to confirm that she's okay?

There are some weird choices in this book, IMO.

  Murphy is in Valhalla but her shade isn't?  What is her shade then?  Her soul?  What?  So this might be what the rule is about, by that I mean, if Murphy's shade or soul has moved on, her body might return as a soldier for Odin, but it really isn't her.  So when and if Harry meets up with Murphy as one of Odin's soldiers, it's just her body and not her?  That should be interesting.

A couple of more things about the true love problem, not just the Harry/Susan love and Lara's lips burning after five years of them splitting, but the elaborate moves Thomas and Justine went through to keep from buring him.  To the point where she was wearing a latex suit so Thomas could touch her, then in Changes she has lesbian sex and finally they could have sex?  You mean the two of them were madly in love for all that time and they didn't have sex?  Or Thomas would be okay with Justine being unfaithful with another woman but not a man?  I think it was a cool idea at the time that Jim wrote it, and used it from time to time, but in the long run of the series wasn't really practical..  So now after the whole Murphy/Harry thing that so many fans were heavily invested in, not like they were with Susan/Harry, we get this weak explanation as to why Lara's face isn't burning off now.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: LaraBeck on January 22, 2026, 03:40:41 PM
  Murphy is in Valhalla but her shade isn't?  What is her shade then?  Her soul?  What?  So this might be what the rule is about, by that I mean, if Murphy's shade or soul has moved on, her body might return as a soldier for Odin, but it really isn't her.  So when and if Harry meets up with Murphy as one of Odin's soldiers, it's just her body and not her?  That should be interesting.

A couple of more things about the true love problem, not just the Harry/Susan love and Lara's lips burning after five years of them splitting, but the elaborate moves Thomas and Justine went through to keep from buring him.  To the point where she was wearing a latex suit so Thomas could touch her, then in Changes she has lesbian sex and finally they could have sex?  You mean the two of them were madly in love for all that time and they didn't have sex?  Or Thomas would be okay with Justine being unfaithful with another woman but not a man?  I think it was a cool idea at the time that Jim wrote it, and used it from time to time, but in the long run of the series wasn't really practical..  So now after the whole Murphy/Harry thing that so many fans were heavily invested in, not like they were with Susan/Harry, we get this weak explanation as to why Lara's face isn't burning off now.

No, the shade is not her soul, this was explained in Ghost Story and is again pointed out in Twelve Months. This is not what the "rule" (einherjar) thing is about. Her shade is not Murphy, it's an impression of her, a copy of her at the time of her death. It won't have nothing to do with her memory or who Murphy truly is or where her soul is. Her soul is effectively in Valhalla, for all we know.

If Murphy is to return, it will be her, maybe slightly changed due to the new mantle of power, but it will be her. Just like Harry is still Harry with the mantle. It makes no sense, otherwise, to collect a honored warrior for their qualities, just to null them by turning them into people that they weren't. There's no point in that, if that was the case, they'd collect anyone.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Dina on January 22, 2026, 05:48:46 PM
I agree with LaraBeck about the shade being just a copy. She is not Murphy's soul.

And yes, the true love thing truly disappointed me. It makes not sense. I was ok with Lara touching Harry with all the explanation that she was not trying to fed, bla, bla that worked for BG. Besides, it was not necessary from a narrative POV. Lara could have projected his aura over Harry before feeding (we know the saliva of the whampires and I think their pheromones have a alluring effect) and then, when she actually tried to feed, she could have been burnt, retreat, but still had taken a taste of it. Or directly, Jim could have omitted that scene but added a scene where Mab insisted in Lara feeding from him as part of the alliance, and so Harry made a test of magically feeding Lara without her actually touching him. It would have make sense to do that small test even before when he tried to split Lara and her hunger.

This was the most disappointing thing in the book for me.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on January 22, 2026, 07:56:47 PM
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No, the shade is not her soul, this was explained in Ghost Story and is again pointed out in Twelve Months. This is not what the "rule" (einherjar) thing is about. Her shade is not Murphy, it's an impression of her, a copy of her at the time of her death. It won't have nothing to do with her memory or who Murphy truly is or where her soul is. Her soul is effectively in Valhalla, for all we know.

If Murphy is to return, it will be her, maybe slightly changed due to the new mantle of power, but it will be her. Just like Harry is still Harry with the mantle. It makes no sense, otherwise, to collect a honored warrior for their qualities, just to null them by turning them into people that they weren't. There's no point in that, if that was the case, they'd collect anyone.

That doesn't make sense to me, sorry but it doesn't.. An impression of her, but not her? So why the need to move on?  It's her soul that moves on.  As an einherjar she won't have any mantle of power, non of the einherjar we've met have any power, they have their skills as warriors, this is why they were selected, but they have no power.
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I could argue though, that these comments about Murphy "holding herself back" might be either 1. to seed doubt in their love, or 2. to seed the possibility that nothing will stop that woman from coming back for Harry, because they have unfinished business.

Again, if Murphy was holding herself  back presumably out of love for Harry and his love still held true, then it shouldn't matter whether Lara had just eaten or not, her lips still should have burned off.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Snark Knight on January 22, 2026, 08:03:13 PM
No, the shade is not her soul, this was explained in Ghost Story and is again pointed out in Twelve Months. This is not what the "rule" (einherjar) thing is about. Her shade is not Murphy, it's an impression of her, a copy of her at the time of her death. It won't have nothing to do with her memory or who Murphy truly is or where her soul is. Her soul is effectively in Valhalla, for all we know.

Also, think back to Grave Peril, where Harry purposefully flatlined to create a shade of himself, a copy at the moment of (near) death, to help him double-team Kravos' nightmare ghost.

The shade accomplished his unfinished business when they won, and just faded away.  The actual Harry returned to his body thanks to the girls keeping it viable with CPR.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: LaraBeck on January 22, 2026, 08:07:08 PM
That doesn't make sense to me, sorry but it doesn't.. An impression of her, but not her? So why the need to move on?  It's her soul that moves on.  As an einherjar she won't have any mantle of power, non of the einherjar we've met have any power, they have their skills as warriors, this is why they were selected, but they have no power.

Yes, by the lore/mythology or whatever you wanna call it in the books, that's how shades work, they're not the souls of the deceased. The point is reinforced in Twelve Months and it doesn't contradict what we already knew since Ghost Story, so there's no continuity error there in this regard, at least. The shade is not Murphy, or Murphy's soul. Her soul is already where it's supposed to be, apparently.

I dunno how she'll come back, an einherjar or whatever, but in any case, it does not make sense that she changes, or that she's suddenly an empty vessel. The people recruited are recruited for who they are, it makes no sense to redefine that, so all the more reason to believe she'll be the same and not a "different" person than she was when she was alive.

Also, think back to Grave Peril, where Harry purposefully flatlined to create a shade of himself, a copy at the moment of (near) death, to help him double-team Kravos' nightmare ghost.

The shade accomplished his unfinished business when they won, and just faded away.  The actual Harry returned to his body thanks to the girls keeping it viable with CPR.

Yes, I imagine Murphy's shade faded away when Harry "let go" of her.

Again, if Murphy was holding herself  back presumably out of love for Harry and his love still held true, then it shouldn't matter whether Lara had just eaten or not, her lips still should have burned off.

I do agree with you on that.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Dina on January 22, 2026, 09:34:37 PM
I think the one who needed to move on was Harry, not the shade.

Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Snark Knight on January 25, 2026, 03:13:34 PM
Yes, I imagine Murphy's shade faded away when Harry "let go" of her.

I'm not done the book quite yet, so granted I might be wrong on this if there's confirmation I've yet to get to that Karrin's shade does just dissipate.

But I'd actually be kind of surprised if that's her fate.  She seems like a *prime* recruit for Uriel's Shade PD, that Harry got a brief look at in Ghost Story.  Working with the ghosts of her father and her old partner, staying in (albeit a very different theater of) the fight?  I'd be surprised if she's not inducted already, and Harry's summonings were just pulling her away from working cases.

I could see her maybe ceasing to take Harry's calls anymore if she starts to think that contact is doing more harm than good to him, though.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on January 25, 2026, 04:43:33 PM
I'm not done the book quite yet, so granted I might be wrong on this if there's confirmation I've yet to get to that Karrin's shade does just dissipate.

But I'd actually be kind of surprised if that's her fate.  She seems like a *prime* recruit for Uriel's Shade PD, that Harry got a brief look at in Ghost Story.  Working with the ghosts of her father and her old partner, staying in (albeit a very different theater of) the fight?  I'd be surprised if she's not inducted already, and Harry's summonings were just pulling her away from working cases.

I could see her maybe ceasing to take Harry's calls anymore if she starts to think that contact is doing more harm than good to him, though.

  I think it's souls that work with Uriel, not shades or ghosts if they are souless..  It all gets very confusing. 
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Snark Knight on January 25, 2026, 06:43:43 PM
  I think it's souls that work with Uriel, not shades or ghosts if they are souless..  It all gets very confusing.

I'm not properly sure whether Murphy pere or Carmichael were full souls or just shades, but Uriel certainly seemed to think he could use Sir Stuart.  Wasn't he a shade?  Mort said his retinue were shades, and almost any entity he encountered who thought it was the real person was just in denial.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on January 26, 2026, 01:54:54 PM
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I'm not properly sure whether Murphy pere or Carmichael were full souls or just shades, but Uriel certainly seemed to think he could use Sir Stuart.  Wasn't he a shade?  Mort said his retinue were shades, and almost any entity he encountered who thought it was the real person was just in denial.

Yes, still confusing!  At the end of Ghost Story when Harry thought he was moving on, if I remember correctly he thought he was going to his judgement.

Anyway, back to the true love thing, I just reread the part where Harry and Id Harry talk about why Lara didn't burn him when they kissed.  Id Harry does question it and what true feelings really were.  Nothing satisfactory.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: edf on January 26, 2026, 02:30:30 PM
I'm hoping that the True Love and other burning conditions get a more satisfactory explanation later.   

My initial WAG is that the emotional residue left behind is what actually causes the burning.  That's why a wedding ring can burn even if it hasn't been worn recently.  It can soak up "love" like a certain shroud can soak up belief.   Grief may actually burn out the feelings (literally lost love) while pining for someone helps renew it.   
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: LaraBeck on January 26, 2026, 02:40:39 PM
Let me just point out this interview (recent) where Jim talks about the love protection.

Watch from about min 38:40 it's a couple of minutes where he talks about this.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xg5GxQb_rXo (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xg5GxQb_rXo)

Let me know your thoughts if you figure out something from it related to this, what's your interpretation.

Though, I should say, I find JB to be somewhat inconsistent lately.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on January 26, 2026, 03:46:01 PM
Let me just point out this interview (recent) where Jim talks about the love protection.

Watch from about min 38:40
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xg5GxQb_rXo (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xg5GxQb_rXo)

Let me know your thoughts if you figure out something from it related to this, what's your interpretation.

Though, I should say, I find JB to be somewhat inconsistent lately.

That will have to wait until later, thank you though for sending the link.  I just don't have time this morning to listen and digest it.  My personal opinion is at the beginning of the series, the whole "true love" thing sounded great and worked great for the beginning of the series, but at the same time writing that Jim sort of wrote himself into a corner.  The concept of true love burning a White Court vampire was pretty cut and dried, it has been debated extensively for years here on this forum.  Then with the Thomas/Justine thing it started to get fuzzy.  For years Thomas nibbled on Justine and that feeding helped to keep her sane and there was no burning then though it was clear that Thomas at the very least liked her very much, then in Blood Rites, she was willing to die feeding him to save his life, and he was willing to die rather than kill her by feeding her to death.  Enter true love, from then on they were a couple but went to great lengths to avoid Thomas being burned on contact, like Justine wearing a laytex suit at a nightclub so they could snuggle.  No word about sex between them, though after Harry was "killed" and Thomas was grieving, Justine comes home with a lesbian girlfriend, they have sex with paves the way for Thomas and her to have relations.  If it was that simple, why hadn't that been done after they realized they truly loved one another?  And why a lesbian?  Wouldn't a one night stand with some guy do? I just find that wierd, not intended to be a judgement about gay sex.  Also at the end of White Night, Harry practically burns Lara's lips off because he still loved Susan and hadn't been with another woman for five years since she left.  What I am saying is Jim's original concept of the true love's protection thing was really cool, down to touching a wedding ring or a rose given in true love burning.. However jump ahead twenty years, true love really gets in the way of the narrative, especially after all the build up to Harry and Murphy, her dying violently in Harry's arms, and him very much grieving for her in Twelve Months.  As the saying goes, please Jim don't pee up our backs and call it rain!  I do understand he had created a problem for himself, and in order to move on with the story which now means Harry has to have a close relationship with Lara could only come up with some very lame excuses as to why it didn't burn when she kissed him.. Jim shouldn't have tried, in my opinion.  Yeah, other problems, like the very good questions Harry's Id was asking him, was it really true love between him and Murphy?  Or just seemed that way?  Of course that would have pissed off the H/M shippers, but would have made sense in a lot of ways.. Or could just a doubt about truly loving Murphy or vice versa do it? 
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: LaraBeck on January 26, 2026, 04:05:37 PM
Yeah, again, to me, trying to push the narrative toward a relationship between Harry and Lara, either if it turns romantic or if it's just about Harry getting "a taste of sexy", is doing a number of things to the overall story that Jim is not handling well, or at least, is not coming through to some of us, this matter feels very retconny. I find it disingenuous >:(
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Dina on January 26, 2026, 06:14:27 PM
Things would have been easier if Harry had not burnt Lara in PT/BG. Not True Love. But since it happened, the easiest way to deal with it was not to have the long kiss scene in TM. Have Lara began feeding and then burn. She still would have tasted Harry and liked it and the rest of the book would be more or less the same, only the sexy scene with all its effect in Harry's mind would be shorter.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: LaraBeck on January 26, 2026, 06:57:58 PM
Things would have been easier if Harry had not burnt Lara in PT/BG. Not True Love. But since it happened, the easiest way to deal with it was not to have the long kiss scene in TM. Have Lara began feeding and then burn. She still would have tasted Harry and liked it and the rest of the book would be more or less the same, only the sexy scene with all its effect in Harry's mind would be shorter.

Yes, that would have worked.

Honestly, I think many of us would have been so disappointed if Harry had not burned Lara in Peace Talks, I mean, it was him and Murphy, hard to believe they wouldn't have True Love™ all things considered. And in a book that is mostly about Harry mourning the woman he loved as Twelve Months was, it is hard to have that love being so questioned now by things that could have been fixed in a different way, because Lara being "sated" doesn't really work and Mab's explanation of Harry's self-loathing doesn't either. It's like we keep adding insult to the injury that was Murphy's death, because we (Jim) is rushing this situationship with Lara. I dunno, I've heard people saying that's the point, that it is on purpose, perhaps I'd believe that if Harry wasn't so lustful toward her or worse, was trying so hard to justify trusting her.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Dina on January 26, 2026, 09:23:50 PM
Well, my experience is different. I never believed Harry loved Murphy, at least not True Love, so I was surprised when he actually burnt Lara. I always thought their love was the love of a dear friend or sibling. More than many romantic loves, granted, but not True Love.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: LaraBeck on January 26, 2026, 10:11:20 PM
Well, my experience is different. I never believed Harry loved Murphy, at least not True Love, so I was surprised when he actually burnt Lara. I always thought their love was the love of a dear friend or sibling. More than many romantic loves, granted, but not True Love.

Hm, I'm shook. I would understand to some level the "they were better friends than lovers" that some readers feel about them, regardless of my shipping heart, but I don't think they ever read as siblings or just friends. Interesting.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Dina on January 26, 2026, 10:37:46 PM
By Changes, I had the theory that someone was playing tricks with Harry's mind, making him believe that he was in love with Karrin when he was not. In my opinion, he talked too much.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Bad Alias on January 26, 2026, 11:12:33 PM
Watch from about min 38:40 it's a couple of minutes where he talks about this.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xg5GxQb_rXo (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xg5GxQb_rXo)
He does say that Susan is still out there. Murphy isn't. He does say Susan is still out there and Harry still pines for her. So maybe the person has to be alive and there has to be a certain present emotional stance towards them. Jim said Harry didn't know about Maggie. That suggests that knowing about Maggie would change his emotional stance enough to break the protection.

This lends validity to what Mab says in 12 Months about Harry's feelings being the reason he isn't protected anymore. It's probably several factors all working together that determines protection. In Blood Rites we saw that Harry was less protected than Arturo because Harry hadn't been with Susan for a long time. So time is probably another factor.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: LaraBeck on January 27, 2026, 12:25:08 AM
Jim said Harry didn't know about Maggie. That suggests that knowing about Maggie would change his emotional stance enough to break the protection.

Now that is an interesting point. Harry definitely feels way different about Susan after he learns about Maggie, so I think you might be onto something. And indeed, in that case Mab's explanation could, potentially (though I'm still not 100% on board) maybe work.

I thought it was so Harry though, when he asked Mab if she was saying that death defeats love, because it's obviously a Princess Bride reference. I think, of all the excuses, like Harry here, I don't want to believe that death changes the protection, though. That's so depressing. I'd say Harry's self-loathing, his (IMO) self-centerness in his grief, his guilt, and how belief tends to work in the Dresden universe would be slightly more convincing a reason for why the True Love™ protection goes away. Though still a cheap excuse. If that were the case though, if Harry starts to feel better about it, if he embraces Murphy's memory, would the protection return? Probably not.

I will say this, too, that I found a bit hard to digest in this book: I don't have a problem with Harry grieving, I'll start with that, it was necessary, it is raw and it is painful. I wished we had seen a little less of "Karrin is dead and oh how much this hurts me" and more "Karrin is dead and that's unfair because Karrin was x, y and z" I mean, he tells us more times how wonderful Michael is in any of the books than he thinks about Murphy in this one, when it'd be the appropriate book to do it. There's a lot of things that you feel when you lose someone, yes, guilt, anger, denial, but also longing, and the memories of the best about them replay in your head making you miss them more, want them more. I felt there wasn't enough longing or enough memories. And I still can't believe we didn't learn when her birthday was in a full year of story.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: g33k on January 27, 2026, 12:35:09 AM
... though after Harry was "killed" and Thomas was grieving, Justine comes home with a lesbian girlfriend, they have sex with paves the way for Thomas and her to have relations.  If it was that simple, why hadn't that been done after they realized they truly loved one another?  And why a lesbian?  Wouldn't a one night stand with some guy do? ...
We don't know Justine's "solution" was a lesbian... she could easily have been bi!  I strongly suspect House Raith selects their "Does" for a strongly-middle Kinsey-scale score.

I think Thomas was pretty clearly established as straight, so "some guy" wouldn't much appeal to Thomas (while the "two girls" fantasy is among the very-most-popular amongst straight guys).  Justine (and/or Nemesis) could just have been playing to that.

Seems to be the easiest/obvious explanation, tho:  Thomas being straight (known) and Justine being bi (surmised) makes the "FMF" solution work better than the "MFM" solution.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Bad Alias on January 27, 2026, 12:51:28 AM
I can't say I flat out disagree with any of your specific points about deficits in recent books except maybe about Karrin's death. I didn't really like the idea of them being together. I didn't hate it. (If I was Jim, it would be Elaine, and she'd probably end up being Kumori or a Kumori fake out). I think Karrin had it mostly right in Proven Guilty except for thinking she would grow old with someone. I didn't think she should have counted on growing old when I read Proven Guilty. Point being, I don't think they were a good fit.

I'm not going to even suggest Karrin deserved to die, but I do think either that her character arc should have ended in death or a power up. It looks like we got both. I'm sure she's coming back. Almost certainly in the BAT.

On the Lara/Harry romance, Harry likes her and is attracted to her, but that seems to be about it so far. The only thing that's changed in 12 months is he has a tighter grip on her. Previously, he always ended up with the upper hand anyway. I do see how a genuine romance could develop from here, and I do actually like the idea.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Dina on January 27, 2026, 01:45:24 AM
I think Justine had sex every time she needed to break the protection, but I do not think it was with the same person. So, it would be "Sex with Thomas, sex with a random person" in loop. And that random person could be a lesbian or a man, no matter to anything.

And what LaraBeck (by the way, I love the name "Lara") says about Harry's reaction to Murphy's death fits my feeling  :)
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: g33k on January 27, 2026, 02:37:52 AM
... I will say this, too, that I found a bit hard to digest in this book: I don't have a problem with Harry grieving, I'll start with that, it was necessary, it is raw and it is painful. I wished we had seen a little less of "Karrin is dead and oh how much this hurts me" and more "Karrin is dead and that's unfair because Karrin was x, y and z" I mean, he tells us more times how wonderful Michael is in any of the books than he thinks about Murphy in this one, when it'd be the appropriate book to do it. There's a lot of things that you feel when you lose someone, yes, guilt, anger, denial, but also longing, and the memories of the best about them replay in your head making you miss them more, want them more. I felt there wasn't enough longing or enough memories. And I still can't believe we didn't learn when her birthday was in a full year of story.

I think Jim feels that Harry was so locked in his grief for the first part of the book, every good memory of Murph just slid immediately to the trauma.  I suspect strongly that Harry summoning Karrin's shade was part of what kept him locked there.

We did see him move on, though; like you, I look forward to seeing more of his good memories of her!
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Dina on January 27, 2026, 06:12:02 AM
That makes sense, actually.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on January 27, 2026, 02:55:41 PM
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I will say this, too, that I found a bit hard to digest in this book: I don't have a problem with Harry grieving, I'll start with that, it was necessary, it is raw and it is painful. I wished we had seen a little less of "Karrin is dead and oh how much this hurts me" and more "Karrin is dead and that's unfair because Karrin was x, y and z" I mean, he tells us more times how wonderful Michael is in any of the books than he thinks about Murphy in this one, when it'd be the appropriate book to do it. There's a lot of things that you feel when you lose someone, yes, guilt, anger, denial, but also longing, and the memories of the best about them replay in your head making you miss them more, want them more. I felt there wasn't enough longing or enough memories. And I still can't believe we didn't learn when her birthday was in a full year of story.
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I think I can take a stab at that from my own experience sadly.  Harry is suffering from serious PTSD, bad enough that the whole city came down around his ears and lots of people died violently, that is bad enough, but the woman he loved was shot and died in his arms.  He has PTSD from that! That vision plays over and over in his head, he is trying to function, and he is sort of functioning, but the damnest things will trigger that horrible film clip in his head.  It will be a long time before he heals enough to where the event becomes an old film clip in his head that he can move past and go on to remember the good stuff. 
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We don't know Justine's "solution" was a lesbian... she could easily have been bi!  I strongly suspect House Raith selects their "Does" for a strongly-middle Kinsey-scale score.

I think Thomas was pretty clearly established as straight, so "some guy" wouldn't much appeal to Thomas (while the "two girls" fantasy is among the very-most-popular amongst straight guys).  Justine (and/or Nemesis) could just have been playing to that.

Seems to be the easiest/obvious explanation, tho:  Thomas being straight (known) and Justine being bi (surmised) makes the "FMF" solution work better than the "MFM" solution.

How?  It shouldn't be any different, it just seemed weird.

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I can't say I flat out disagree with any of your specific points about deficits in recent books except maybe about Karrin's death. I didn't really like the idea of them being together. I didn't hate it. (If I was Jim, it would be Elaine, and she'd probably end up being Kumori or a Kumori fake out). I think Karrin had it mostly right in Proven Guilty except for thinking she would grow old with someone. I didn't think she should have counted on growing old when I read Proven Guilty. Point being, I don't think they were a good fit.

I agree with you, I also thought at the time that Murphy had it right when she turned Harry down in Proven Guilty.  Good friends and loving each other as comrades in arms etc. was a good fit, but as lovers? No.  Yes, her growing old as Harry stayed young and hardy is a very good reason from her point of view.  Murphy always likes to be in the middle of any battle Harry was fighting.  Not so much when she is 80 and he is in his prime or still considered a young wizard. just her ego alone wouldn't have been able to handle that.  I don't think Harry saw that, but I think she knew that and was honest with him.   I am not sure if Jim was merely giving into pressure from Shippers or if he had something else in mind.  Actually I think he did, and at some point Harry is going to have another bubble burst and it will hurt.  There are hints in 12 Months that though Harry may have or thought he truly loved Murphy, she didn't truly love him.  She loved him, but not in the true love sense, that's why Harry isn't protected.  It's hinted at in 12 Months, the debate Harry has with his ID, his ID questions whether or not what he and Murphy had was true love.  In his fight with Mab, when Harry tells her that Murphy truly loved him, her answer was, "perhaps."  Then she covers that by saying she didn't  or doesn't have access to that part of Murphy's mind.  You believe that? I don't, and since she said, "perhaps," Mab wasn't lying either

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I'm not going to even suggest Karrin deserved to die, but I do think either that her character arc should have ended in death or a power up. It looks like we got both. I'm sure she's coming back. Almost certainly in the BAT.

The thing is, it got to the point where she didn't do much for the story, in my opinion.  Once she was off the police force, I think Jim found it hard to find a good fit for her.  Actually when she does appear in the BAT, that's when I think she will burst Harry's bubble, that what she felt wasn't true love.  I think she will try and let him down gently, but it will still hurt a lot. 

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On the Lara/Harry romance, Harry likes her and is attracted to her, but that seems to be about it so far. The only thing that's changed in 12 months is he has a tighter grip on her. Previously, he always ended up with the upper hand anyway. I do see how a genuine romance could develop from here, and I do actually like the idea.

The chemistry between the two of them has always been good.  There has always been a degree of mutual respect between them, Lara doesn't lecture Harry.  I think that's what really got old with Murphy for my part.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Bad Alias on January 27, 2026, 08:21:10 PM
Jim was planning on Murphy dying since book 11 or so. He didn't seem sure which book.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on January 27, 2026, 09:55:44 PM
Jim was planning on Murphy dying since book 11 or so. He didn't seem sure which book.

That makes sense.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Torsten on January 28, 2026, 09:58:10 PM
I've been wondering if all of his self loathing makes a difference here. He doesn't think he deserves anything good, let alone love. Maybe that makes a difference.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Bad Alias on January 28, 2026, 11:15:36 PM
I'd say it definitely makes a difference, but a lot of things make a difference.
This is from late in 12 Months:
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Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: earthexile313 on January 29, 2026, 01:23:25 AM
I've been assuming for awhile that the instance where Harry burned Lara at the end of White Night was a reveal hidden in plain sight. Lara finds it strange and unbelievable that Harry still bears the protection of Susan's love from years ago... but it wasn't from her at all. It was from only moments before.

Because we now know that Harry and Lash 'conceived' Bonea in a moment of love and connection that gave rise to new life. Harry has love for Susan, but the being he went home and wept for that night was Lash. And she let herself be destroyed for the love of him, saving him from Lasciel's damnation. That interaction was what shielded Harry from the Hunger that night.

This new idea about Harry's self-loathing interfering with the protection just seems to make that fit better, to me.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: LaraBeck on January 29, 2026, 12:50:07 PM
I've been wondering if all of his self loathing makes a difference here. He doesn't think he deserves anything good, let alone love. Maybe that makes a difference.

That's what Mab's explanation was about.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on January 29, 2026, 02:03:09 PM
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This new idea about Harry's self-loathing interfering with the protection just seems to make that fit better, to me.

Yeah, but... That's why there has been problems with the concept from the start!  How do you define true love?  Harry may feel self loathing at the moment, he is grieving, he feels guilt about all the people that died under his banner that allowed him to fight.  He feels guilty because he wasn't able to keep Murphy physically out of the fight, though it was Mab's banner that made it possible, and ultimately Murphy's choice.. Having said that, what does that have to do with true love? Harry still believes he truly loved Murphy, and whether he thinks he deserves it or not, how does that change Murphy's supposed true love for him?  I say it doesn't, true love isn't a logical emotion, often it defies logic!

So no, I don't think Harry's current feelings of guilt and self-loathing over what has recently happened to him and his actions have anything to do with him not being protected.  In my opinion it was Mab's answer when Harry told her that Murphy truly loved him.. She said, "perhaps."  Lots of wiggle room in that answer without Mab having to lie about it.  If she said that Murphy did, then she would have to explain why Harry wasn't protected.  If she said that Murphy didn't truly love him then she'd make matters worse as far as her knight goes.  She says she didn't have access to that part of Murphy's mind, but that could be avoidance on her part as well.  Mab is good at that, it serves her purpose without having to lie. 

I also think this is the set up for Mirror Mirror, Harry states at one point in 12 Months that he wishes he could go back and redo the part where Murphy get's shot.  I think this is his motive for going back, and that's when he is going to learn that what Murphy felt for him was love, but not true love.

Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: g33k on January 29, 2026, 04:13:06 PM
I've been assuming for awhile that the instance where Harry burned Lara at the end of White Night was a reveal hidden in plain sight. Lara finds it strange and unbelievable that Harry still bears the protection of Susan's love from years ago... but it wasn't from her at all. It was from only moments before.

Because we now know that Harry and Lash 'conceived' Bonea in a moment of love and connection that gave rise to new life. Harry has love for Susan, but the being he went home and wept for that night was Lash. And she let herself be destroyed for the love of him, saving him from Lasciel's damnation. That interaction was what shielded Harry from the Hunger that night.

This new idea about Harry's self-loathing interfering with the protection just seems to make that fit better, to me.
It's an interesting theory but I don't think it holds together, for two reasons:
In the book, Lara can tell that the protection was years-old, not brand-new.
And WoJ has stated that the "True Love" protection can only arise between two equals, not from an unequal relation (such as parent/child, etc); any form of dependence prevents it.  I don't think Lasciel's Shadow -- nor "Lash" -- can in any way be a "equal" to Harry, as she was wholly-dependent on Harry for her very existence.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Bad Alias on January 29, 2026, 07:12:18 PM
I also think this is the set up for Mirror Mirror, Harry states at one point in 12 Months that he wishes he could go back and redo the part where Murphy get's shot.  I think this is his motive for going back, and that's when he is going to learn that what Murphy felt for him was love, but not true love.
Mirror Mirror isn't a time travel book and our Harry doesn't choose to go. The alternate Harry pulls him. Book 22 is going to be the time travel book so Jim can go back and fix all the continuity errors.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on January 29, 2026, 07:48:27 PM
Mirror Mirror isn't a time travel book and our Harry doesn't choose to go. The alternate Harry pulls him. Book 22 is going to be the time travel book so Jim can go back and fix all the continuity errors.
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And WoJ has stated that the "True Love" protection can only arise between two equals, not from an unequal relation (such as parent/child, etc); any form of dependence prevents it.  I don't think Lasciel's Shadow -- nor "Lash" -- can in any way be a "equal" to Harry, as she was wholly-dependent on Harry for her very existence.

Define "equals" in a relationship.  I wouldn't call Harry and Susan equals nor Harry and Murphy, and honestly were Justine and Thomas really equals?   If dependence prevents the protection, then there was a problem in all three of the above cases.  You could say that Murphy/Harry may have been the most equal, but in a lot of ways not.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Bad Alias on January 29, 2026, 09:00:05 PM
There are a lot of people here who keep saying it's a time travel book. I don't know why.

Alternate universe, Evil Harry brings Harries over to take the fall for him
 (I've always thought he leaves their bodies behind). The difference is caused by a choice "near the end of Grave Peril." The Red Court won the war.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: LaraBeck on January 29, 2026, 09:30:38 PM
There are a lot of people here who keep saying it's a time travel book. I don't know why.

Alternate universe, Evil Harry brings Harries over to take the fall for him
 (I've always thought he leaves their bodies behind). The difference is caused by a choice "near the end of Grave Peril." The Red Court won the war.

Yeah, I'm not sure why exactly but Mirror Mirror always gets confused with the Time Travel book, which now we know is going to be, most likely, book 22.

Yeah, but... That's why there has been problems with the concept from the start!  How do you define true love?  Harry may feel self loathing at the moment, he is grieving, he feels guilt about all the people that died under his banner that allowed him to fight.  He feels guilty because he wasn't able to keep Murphy physically out of the fight, though it was Mab's banner that made it possible, and ultimately Murphy's choice.. Having said that, what does that have to do with true love? Harry still believes he truly loved Murphy, and whether he thinks he deserves it or not, how does that change Murphy's supposed true love for him?  I say it doesn't, true love isn't a logical emotion, often it defies logic!

So no, I don't think Harry's current feelings of guilt and self-loathing over what has recently happened to him and his actions have anything to do with him not being protected.

I would agree up until this point.

I do belive what Harry and Murphy had was True Love™, I mean, to me if what Susan and Harry had was by canon standards was, Harry and Murphy better had it too, it was, IMO, a much more believable love story.

The way I see, there are two answers for why we're seeing the seed of doubt in Twelve Months:
1. There's something nefarious going on, something that Mab is doing. I mean, I wouldn't be surprised at this point. Harry's feeling of self-loathing are not enough.
2. Jim messed up. He wants to shoehorn in the relationship with Lara and he realized he made a mistake by announcing that Harry and Murphy had True Love™ in Peace Talks (he could have just not put it there and it would have been one of those things that make Harry and Murphy's story more tragic. I honestly don't think he cared that much about what "shippers" had to say about that or we wouldn't be here in the first place).

Personally, I want to believe is the first one, I know it's probably the second one, which makes me lose a lot of respect for him. This is not a minor detail in the series, IMO.

Because we now know that Harry and Lash 'conceived' Bonea in a moment of love and connection that gave rise to new life. Harry has love for Susan, but the being he went home and wept for that night was Lash. And she let herself be destroyed for the love of him, saving him from Lasciel's damnation. That interaction was what shielded Harry from the Hunger that night.

It's not possible. 1. Jim has stated that there is both a physical component and a spiritual component to the True Love™ protection settling in place, and it is born out of mutual love.

2. Harry was never in love with Las or "loved" her as a woman/partner. They were not in a romantic relationship. As far as what's on the page, he cared for her, they were friends.
I've seen some takes that Bonea was created by Harry having a sort of secret relationship with Lash in his head but his own AlternaHarry (ID Harry) tells him in Skin Game that he's been a fool for not taking her up on her "offers" of sexual intimacy. Bonea was born of an act of love, yes, sacrifice, Lash sacrifice out of love for Harry, whether romantic or not, but it was pretty much unilateral. They didn't act together.

And WoJ has stated that the "True Love" protection can only arise between two equals, not from an unequal relation (such as parent/child, etc); any form of dependence prevents it.

This. It is a matter of two consenting adults giving to one another in equal measure.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on January 29, 2026, 10:31:07 PM
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I do belive what Harry and Murphy had was True Love™, I mean, to me if what Susan and Harry had was by canon standards was, Harry and Murphy better had it too, it was, IMO, a much more believable love story.

  I think there were problems with both relationships.  I am not saying what Harry felt for Susan wasn't true love, he was protected after all.  However I have problems with whether or not she felt it for him. Murphy's original reason for not wanting to have a relationship with Harry is very valid, and that hadn't changed by the time she died.  I just think that though she enjoyed the sexual relationship and the excitement of going into battle with Harry, I think in the back of her mind it was lurking.  "When I am an elderly 80, Harry will be still a young wizard in his prime." 
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Bad Alias on January 29, 2026, 10:47:56 PM
However I have problems with whether or not she felt it for him. Murphy's original reason for not wanting to have a relationship with Harry is very valid, and that hadn't changed by the time she died.
The problems were never whether or not she loved Harry.

"When I am an elderly 80, Harry will be still a young wizard in his prime."
That's the one thing from her Proven Guilty speech I never agreed with.

And we know they had True Love because Harry burned Lara in Peace Talks.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: peterwiggin94 on January 30, 2026, 02:49:10 PM
This is just speculation on my part but I suspect that Murphy becoming a Valkyrie stopped the protection. We know that people swapped bits of souls during physical contact which sometimes leads to protection from WCV. Odin is giving Murphy unusual afterlife which presumably includes her soul somehow. Mab and Odin are allied and, after Odin does something to Murphy, Harry is now free to marry Lara. I think Odin helped Mab change Murphy in a way that frees Harry up.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on January 30, 2026, 03:28:00 PM

  Murphy isn't becoming a Valkyrie, she is becoming a Einherjar, not the same thing!
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This is just speculation on my part but I suspect that Murphy becoming a Valkyrie stopped the protection. We know that people swapped bits of souls during physical contact which sometimes leads to protection from WCV. Odin is giving Murphy unusual afterlife which presumably includes her soul somehow. Mab and Odin are allied and, after Odin does something to Murphy, Harry is now free to marry Lara. I think Odin helped Mab change Murphy in a way that frees Harry up.

Actually the Valkyrie do apparently have souls, because in 12 Months Harry actually begins to soul gaze Bear.  I have my own theory as to why Mab wants Harry to marry Lara, it goes back to why Margaret married Lord Raith, or at least mated with him. However I need to carefully reread the book before I present it.

Something else Mab said that caught my eye that in my opinion puts into question whether or not Murphy loved Harry in a way that would give him true love's protection. 
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"She was a woman who knew her mind.  That had nothing to do with you, wizard."

So yes, Murphy may have loved Harry, but that doesn't mean she didn't have her own reservations about it.
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That's the one thing from her Proven Guilty speech I never agreed with.

And we know they had True Love because Harry burned Lara in Peace Talks.

It shouldn't have stopped with Murphy's death then. 
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Bad Alias on January 30, 2026, 05:59:28 PM
  Murphy isn't becoming a Valkyrie, she is becoming a Einherjar, not the same thing!
Lately I've wondered if she might become a Valkyrie. Every Einherjar we've seen has been a man. In the Murphy short story, Gard hinted that Murphy fit the Valkyrie mold. I don't think she'll be a Valkyrie, but I do think it's possible.

It shouldn't have stopped with Murphy's death then. 
Well, it did stop with Murphy's death and Dresden's emotional state. Jim hinted Susan's death and/or Harry's knowledge of her betrayal of him, or even him not  loving her anymore could have ended the protection. Check out this video a little after 38 minutes in. https://youtu.be/Xg5GxQb_rXo?si=ns4nv7dcaevqduvm (https://youtu.be/Xg5GxQb_rXo?si=ns4nv7dcaevqduvm)

There's not much in the series before this point about how true love protection works except time weakens it and sex with another breaks it.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: LaraBeck on January 30, 2026, 08:12:06 PM
In any case, if suddenly self-doubt/self-loathing (Harry) or a measure of resentment toward the other partner (Susan), can kill the True Love protection, it means that Jim is watering down the concept of True Love™ right? Suddenly, he has other ideas in mind (Lara) and the concept has stopped being useful so we're eroding its meaning now. Because it went from this super rare, super important experience shared between two people, that was so spirtual and physically important that it left a literal mark on the participants, and now it can be destroyed with pretty much anything. It's a disappointment, to me, and makes me trust Jim a lot less.

I hope there's some hidden reason here that's yet to be revealed, tbh.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Bad Alias on January 30, 2026, 08:21:03 PM
it means that Jim is watering down the concept of True Love™ right? Suddenly, he has other ideas in mind (Lara) and the concept has stopped being useful so we're eroding its meaning now. Because it went from this super rare, super important experience shared between two people, that was so spirtual and physically important that it left a literal mark on the participants, and now it can be destroyed with pretty much anything.
But it isn't one thing. It's at least two, in this case. Murphy's death and Harry's self loathing. Mab's statement suggests that Susan's death might even play a part in it.

We already knew time played a part in it. We knew it was more than just sex with someone else that can affect it.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Dina on January 30, 2026, 09:28:18 PM
Time does not affect it, doesn't it? That is why Harry was protected several years after Maggie was conceived.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Bad Alias on January 30, 2026, 10:20:38 PM
Time does not affect it, doesn't it? That is why Harry was protected several years after Maggie was conceived.
Harry was more affected in Blood Rites than Arturo. As you can see from the quotes below, Arturo is barely affected and Harry is strongly affected. But even though Harry is affected, he's beyond control or feeding.

And regarding Harry's emotional state, you will notice that Thomas uses the present tense when speaking of their love. This supports the idea that how former lovers currently feel about each other matters.

The final part about a "the strongest touch of another life" could be taken to mean Susan being alive is important.

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“Arturo,” she said warmly. She took his hands, and they did more social cheek kissing. I shook my head while they did, and managed to shove my libido out of the driver’s seat of my brain. Captain of my own soul (even if my pants were considering mutiny), I began focusing my thoughts, building up a barrier to shield them. “You are an angel,” Arturo said to her. His voice was steady and kind and not at all that of a man having most of his blood channeled south of his belly button. How the hell could he not have reacted to her presence? “An angel to come here so quickly. To help me.”

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“The last time you were with anyone, it was with Susan. You love each other. Her touch, her love is still upon you, and still protecting you.”
“If that’s true, then why I am still adjusting my pants every time Lara walks by?”
Thomas shrugged. “You’re human. She’s lovely and you haven’t gotten any in a while. But trust me, Harry. None of the White Court could wholly control or feed from you now.”
I frowned. “But it was a year ago.”
Thomas shrugged. “If there hasn’t been anyone else, then it’s still the strongest touch of another life on your own.”
Emphasis added.

This all fits with what we see in 12 Months. I don't think Harry's protection is gone because Murphy is dead or because of how much he blames himself for her (and maybe Susan's) death(s). I think it is because of everything working together.

Before 12 Months, I wouldn't have thought anything but sex would break the protection, but it doesn't contradict anything I can think of that we have seen in the other books.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on January 30, 2026, 10:24:57 PM
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There's not much in the series before this point about how true love protection works except time weakens it and sex with another breaks it.

Yes, well I have always had a problem with the sex thing.  Because there is no distinction in the act itself it's been debated a lot in the past on this forum that supposedly if one is raped, that breaks true love protection.  Rape is an act of assault, violence, has nothing to do with pleasure, love, or unfaithfulness, so how can it break true love? 

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In any case, if suddenly self-doubt/self-loathing (Harry) or a measure of resentment toward the other partner (Susan), can kill the True Love protection, it means that Jim is watering down the concept of True Love™ right? Suddenly, he has other ideas in mind (Lara) and the concept has stopped being useful so we're eroding its meaning now. Because it went from this super rare, super important experience shared between two people, that was so spirtual and physically important that it left a literal mark on the participants, and now it can be destroyed with pretty much anything. It's a disappointment, to me, and makes me trust Jim a lot less.

I totally agree, it went from something precious and beautiful to something kind of cheap.  As Mary Poppins told Jane and Michael in the movie of the same name..  She was talking about promises, but in this case this is what true love has become, "like pie crust, easily made and easily broken..."  That ain't what true love should be!
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Dina on January 30, 2026, 10:31:54 PM
Ah yes,Bad Alias, time of being together, yes that seems to count.

Something I agree with LaraBeck and it has bothered me for a while is that when Jim introduced the idea of True Love is was supposedly be very rare, but Harry had it twice, Thomas have it, Arturo have it, I think Inari had it (I don't remember right now if it was True Love or just love). I bet Michael and Charity and Will and Georgia will be True Lovers too!
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Bad Alias on January 30, 2026, 11:26:18 PM
Dina, yes, true love, not just love. The main characters are people with very rare character traits to begin with, so that can explain it. But it has come up a lot in the series. It does make it feel less rare.

Mira, I remember that being debated here a time or two. I don't think there's anything but theories on either side of that debate.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: KurtinStGeorge on January 31, 2026, 04:54:14 AM
Here is how I saw the true love conversation in TM and why Mab’s version of it can be defended, but even my explanation isn’t perfect.  Short version, it’s complicated and that is a problem in and of itself.

When Thomas first told Harry that objects or people touched by true love is a kind of poisson for the White Court or at least House Raith, it was straightforward and easy to understand.  The exceptions or what can disable true love protection appeared to be easy to grasp as well.  Now that Harry is no longer protected, Mab tells Harry true love protection is more like a complex equation and one incorrect variable can give the answer a null value.  “That love protection no longer adds up Harry, sorry.”

Here is how Mab’s explanation works.  I can say that if Murphy had survived the battle, but she had been severely injured, maybe crippled for life, Harry would have still blamed himself and felt unworthy of being loved, because feeling guilty is what Harry does, but Murphy remaining alive would have held the love protection together, even though it would take time before Harry once again felt worthy of her love.  Simply feeling unworthy of being loved only ends true love protection if the other partner isn’t there to help sustain it.  So, Mab’s explanation can work, sort of, but damn it’s messy.

I disliked Mab being able to explain; or fully explain, how Harry’s love protection disappeared.  I can’t remember which novel; maybe it was Death Masks, Harry asked Bob to conduct a search and Bob told Harry that he couldn’t do it.  The reason Bob gave is because Bob is a memory spirit and he would be crossing boundaries into spiritual areas he wasn’t meant to cross.  I think something similar for Mab; though not exactly the same, would have worked much better than what we actually got.  When Harry asked why his love protection had vanished Mab might have told Harry something like this:

“My Knight.  Of course I am aware of love protection and how it protected you from Lara Raith and others of her kind.  I was once mortal once.  I know what love is and I can recognize it in others, as I recognized your brother was in love.  But love and emotions in general are not where I excel.  I can tell you what I know, but in truth my sister the Summer Queen is better suited to answer this question, but I do not recommend that you seek her council in this matter.  She lacks my sense of humor; and frankly, I don’t think she likes you.”

Then, whether Jim had Mab give the exact same explanation of how love protection works or came up with a slightly different explanation, it would have created some wiggle room in the reader’s mind.  I think a lot of people would be much more happy if Mab’s explanation seemed incomplete or was questionable because Mab didn’t fully grasp how love protection works.  Then we could make up our own explanations to fill in the gaps.  I think the way Jim had Mab explain love protection to Harry, it seemed watered down or as others hasn’t put it, less special than our earlier understanding.

Actually, I think the kiss scene between Lara and Harry needed some serious improvement as well.  I think more was wrong with it than Lara not being burned.  However, I think that issue needs a separate post of its own.  I might not be able to get to it until tomorrow, but I do have something to say about that.
 
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Bad Alias on January 31, 2026, 05:48:55 AM
It was Death Masks. Bob said he's a spirit of intellect and the shroud was a matter of faith.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Dina on January 31, 2026, 06:26:58 AM
I agree that would have been better, Kurtis.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on January 31, 2026, 01:39:01 PM
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Here is how Mab’s explanation works.  I can say that if Murphy had survived the battle, but she had been severely injured, maybe crippled for life, Harry would have still blamed himself and felt unworthy of being loved, because feeling guilty is what Harry does, but Murphy remaining alive would have held the love protection together, even though it would take time before Harry once again felt worthy of her love.  Simply feeling unworthy of being loved only ends true love protection if the other partner isn’t there to help sustain it.  So, Mab’s explanation can work, sort of, but damn it’s messy.

Not only messy, but true love doesn't work that way, if a person loves their partner truly, it doesn't matter how the partner feels about it, it continues. True love isn't logical, that's what sets it apart.  Just a thought, it's been centuries since or if she ever felt it that Mab has had felt true love for anyone.

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“My Knight.  Of course I am aware of love protection and how it protected you from Lara Raith and others of her kind.  I was once mortal once.  I know what love is and I can recognize it in others, as I recognized your brother was in love.  But love and emotions in general are not where I excel.  I can tell you what I know, but in truth my sister the Summer Queen is better suited to answer this question, but I do not recommend that you seek her council in this matter.  She lacks my sense of humor; and frankly, I don’t think she likes you.”

Might have been a bit better, but at the same time doesn't work because true love cannot be discussed with someone who thinks they have it logically.  Instead of the Summer Queen, Mab may have suggested that Harry talk about it to Molly.  I still think the better solution though it would piss a lot of Murphy/Harry shippers off, would have been that it wasn't true love after all. Don't even try to explain it, because it is so complicated.  And yes, Harry and Murphy's relationship was complicated.

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Then, whether Jim had Mab give the exact same explanation of how love protection works or came up with a slightly different explanation, it would have created some wiggle room in the reader’s mind.  I think a lot of people would be much more happy if Mab’s explanation seemed incomplete or was questionable because Mab didn’t fully grasp how love protection works.  Then we could make up our own explanations to fill in the gaps.  I think the way Jim had Mab explain love protection to Harry, it seemed watered down or as others hasn’t put it, less special than our earlier understanding.

Or goes back to our understanding was correct, but what Harry and Murphy had wasn't true love for all the appearance that it was.  Why?  Just a personal opinion, but based on the last few books I don't think it would ultimately worked out between the two. 
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Dina on January 31, 2026, 07:40:36 PM
Not only messy, but true love doesn't work that way, if a person loves their partner truly, it doesn't matter how the partner feels about it, it continues. True love isn't logical, that's what sets it apart.  Just a thought, it's been centuries since or if she ever felt it that Mab has had felt true love for anyone.

It does matter though, that is why Harry was not protected when he was with Luccio. He Loved her but she did not.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: LaraBeck on January 31, 2026, 09:20:49 PM
It does matter though, that is why Harry was not protected when he was with Luccio. He Loved her but she did not.

I would have said that he cared about her, but didn't love her. I don't remember him even thinking he might. That's around the same time as he realized Karrin had some deeper feelings for Kincaid besides horny, so he was on the rebound, IMO. Actually the whole Kincaid situationship is a big "tell me you like Harry Dresden without telling me you like Harry Dresden" moment for Karrin and the same can be said about Luccio, she was basically Wizard Murphy.

But I do agree that the lore so far is not exactly that true love is ilogical, what it is is a mutual communion, a mutual coming together in mind, soul, body, but it is mutual. But sure, once it has settled can be disturbed, not the love itself, but the mark it left, by the action of just one individual. Now, before 12M, the disturbance had to be physical, that was what we knew, now, it can be, let's say spiritual too.

Still, the more I sit with this book, the more in awe I am at the five stars reviews. I think parts of this book were good, the grief part is well done. But there's a lot about the lore that is ... meh, either out of nowhere or soft-retcon, there's a lot of ilogical decisions made, and a lot of stuff that feel like Jim just needed to "fix" *cough Justine cough* in order to move on to the book he really wants to write: MM.

And the more I sit with this Lara/Harry/Murphy/True Love™ situationship, the more it feels like Jim just wants to push the narrative into a direction where there is a romance between Harry and Lara or at the very least, there is the titillating possibility of a sexual partnership, and so he just had to fix the whole Ture Love™ thing in whichever way he could, and this was his best.

This makes me concerned about where the series is going. I've been worried since Battle Ground, tbh, and this book did not soothe me. Why? Because to me this is an important part of the series. I know that the romantic life of our protagonist is not the main reason why most people read these books, and it's not even mine, but I'd said is not unimportant. For a guy like Harry who is very much about "where his heart is" his sentimental life is important, as it is his choice of romantic partner and his struggle to find them or keep them. I genuinely think that part is lacking in the series (we can do romance without going into paranormal romance territory) and my wish would always be that we get to see Harry actually fighting to win and keep the person he loves, he has never done that, and I thought it'd be with Murphy, but oh well...
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Dina on January 31, 2026, 09:57:59 PM
Ah, it all depends of what you care about. For example, the inconsistency in the soulgaze and the true love thing bothered me, but I still love the book, it is actually of my favourites right now and I had no time to reread it yet. It's just that for me the good parts far outweigh the bad ones.

And yes, Harry realizes what is going on with Luccio because he is genuinely shocked he is not protected from whampires. He is sure of his love, so he knows she does not love him so much and he begins thinking why she seems so perfectly in love if she is not. And he begins actually thinking. But, we can argue that Harry himself may be wrong. He may think that protection only comes for people mutually in love, but he may be wrong. I don't remember a whampire explicitly saying so.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: LaraBeck on January 31, 2026, 10:37:52 PM
Ah, it all depends of what you care about. For example, the inconsistency in the soulgaze and the true love thing bothered me, but I still love the book, it is actually of my favourites right now and I had no time to reread it yet. It's just that for me the good parts far outweigh the bad ones.

And yes, Harry realizes what is going on with Luccio because he is genuinely shocked he is not protected from whampires. He is sure of his love, so he knows she does not love him so much and he begins thinking why she seems so perfectly in love if she is not. And he begins actually thinking. But, we can argue that Harry himself may be wrong. He may think that protection only comes for people mutually in love, but he may be wrong. I don't remember a whampire explicitly saying so.

So, I went back to Turn Coat, when this is touched upon. Alright, I didn't remember how exactly it went, but I guess that yeah, the subtext here could be interpreted as Harry thinking he might me in love. I don't agree with that interpretation, as I feel like he was more disappointed that it wasn't going into that direction, I see him more like lamenting they'll never get a chance to go there. But I can concede the point.

About the overall book, for me Battle Ground was that book that had more things that I liked vs the things I didn't like, even though the thing I didn't like, I hated with a passion. Twelve Months is more like a 50/50 and I'm being very generous there. And again, I repeat that is not the lack of action or a lack of "a main villain" like I see pointed out in reviews that are not so favorable of this book around the internet, it is about other deeper things, some of which I've mentioned here.

But there's always a book that's going to be like that in a collection of 18, I guess.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Bad Alias on January 31, 2026, 10:40:40 PM
Jim has said that True Love Protection comes from two equals loving each other.

Not only messy, but true love doesn't work that way, if a person loves their partner truly, it doesn't matter how the partner feels about it, it continues. True love isn't logical, that's what sets it apart. 
True Love and True Love Protection aren't the same thing.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Dina on February 01, 2026, 02:58:45 AM
About the overall book, for me Battle Ground was that book that had more things that I liked vs the things I didn't like, even though the thing I didn't like, I hated with a passion. Twelve Months is more like a 50/50 and I'm being very generous there. And again, I repeat that is not the lack of action or a lack of "a main villain" like I see pointed out in reviews that are not so favorable of this book around the internet, it is about other deeper things, some of which I've mentioned here.

That is what people is complaining about? Not my case, clearly.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Bad Alias on February 01, 2026, 08:20:28 AM
Regarding having more action or a main villain, I do think I would have liked 12 Months more if there was an overarching plot moving through the year other than Dresden's healing.

For example, if Harry had a little war with the ghouls or we see Harry doing something about Etri.

It wasn't that I didn't enjoy the book. It just felt a little disjointed to me. Others have described it as a collection of short stories throughout a year. I can't say I disagree.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: LaraBeck on February 01, 2026, 12:05:33 PM
Regarding having more action or a main villain, I do think I would have liked 12 Months more if there was an overarching plot moving through the year other than Dresden's healing.

I was so sure this is what we were going to get, and instead it was 10 months of little stories. I don't mind either, but I have to concede the point to all the people who thought we would get 12 short stories.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on February 01, 2026, 02:12:35 PM

  We all know that true love burns a White Court Vampire, that true love before the first feeding can block or kill the Hunger Demon, who happens to be an Outsider all together. Why?  That never has been fully explained.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Bad Alias on February 01, 2026, 07:27:57 PM
I was so sure this is what we were going to get, and instead it was 10 months of little stories. I don't mind either, but I have to concede the point to all the people who thought we would get 12 short stories.
The weird part for me is that it also doesn't feel like a collection of short stories either.

Something I hadn't considered until now is that it also really doesn't feel like a case file either. It isn't a Dresden Files book. It could be a Dresden Journal Book, but not a Dresden File.

I think a short story collection with an overarching plot or multiple highly related overarching plots would have fit the Dresden Files conceit better.

I don't think meeting the conceit is necessary for my enjoyment of the series. I'm sure if his journal entries were mostly case files, he would also have a lot of non case file entries as well. Like, "I was training Fitz on x this week and realized y is a really good way of doing x," or completely irrelevant to wizarding parenting thoughts. So the conceit of these being Harry's journals still works.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: KurtinStGeorge on February 02, 2026, 02:14:51 AM
Jim was planning on Murphy dying since book 11 or so. He didn't seem sure which book.

This is a minor point but I think it's funny.  Well, maybe more confusing than funny.

I've seen a video that came out sometime after Battle Ground was released; probably in 2021, where Jim answered the question, "When did you decide to kill Murphy."  And you are correct, Jim said it was around time Turn Coat was released.

However, there is a new interview video that was recorded a few days before TM was released where Jim was asked the same question.  Jim's answer: "I always planed to kill her off."

I have no idea which answer is true; and theoretically, they could both be lies or both be partially true.  Example: Jim could have made the decision to kill Murphy off after he finished writing Blood Rites; or any other novel before Turn Coat, in which case both statements are false.  On the other hand, Jim may have always known he was going to kill off Murphy but he didn't decide which novel it would happen in until after Turn Coat was released.  In that case both statements contain part of the truth.  I would guess the second scenario is probably the correct one, but only Jim knows for sure.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: LaraBeck on February 02, 2026, 02:25:08 AM
This is a minor point but I think it's funny.  Well, maybe more confusing than funny.

I've seen a video that came out sometime after Battle Ground was released; probably in 2021, where Jim answered the question, "When did you decide to kill Murphy."  And you are correct, Jim said it was around time Turn Coat was released.

However, there is a new interview video that was recorded a few days before TM was released where Jim was asked the same question.  Jim's answer: "I always planed to kill her off."

I have no idea which answer is true; and theoretically, they could both be lies or both be partially true.  Example: Jim could have made the decision to kill Murphy off after he finished writing Blood Rites; or any other novel before Turn Coat, in which case both statements are false.  On the other hand, Jim may have always known he was going to kill off Murphy but he didn't decide which novel it would happen in until after Turn Coat was released.  In that case both statements contain part of the truth.  I would guess the second scenario is probably the correct one, but only Jim knows for sure.

Yeah, I remember the interviews from around 2023 where he would say that he knew he was going to kill her like 10 or 15 years ago.

In a recent AMA he was asked what was the biggest change he made to the overall story, and he said that it was murphy's death.

Then in some recent meet & greet or something, someone reported that Jim said that he knew she was going to die in book 10, that'd be Small Favor, but that he was feeling it out since Grave Peril, when we see the Sight of her.

So, all slightly different versions.

I went through alternating between hope and despair about this (as a Murphy fan) since Battle Ground, I always felt that thematically, and considering all the build up around her character, Butcher did what he did because it was the only way to power her up to be able to stand at the end with Harry.

Then, when I heard those first interviews post BG when he was very dismissive of the few questions he got about Murphy and happily saying "well, sometimes people die", plus the shoehorning of Lara into that space (that extends to 12Months IMO), made me think that nope, we've lost her forever.

But then with these more recent comments, and other people that attended his events reporting (again) that he said that "her story is not over yet", I think that maybe indeed she is and was always meant to be one of the characters that make it to the end, but he realized early on that he would need to power her up eventually. It's a two for one situation, you give Harry what he wants and needs, you torture him (just like Jim likes) and then at the end you give him back an ally who's now capable to stand beside him.

But who knows... 12 Months left me even more on the limbo than Battle Ground did about the direction of the series, tbh.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: KurtinStGeorge on February 02, 2026, 05:49:35 AM
What was wrong with Lara kissing Harry and not getting burned?

It appears to me most readers who don't like this scene go to Mab's explanation of how True Love Protection can fail and find fault with that.  I already wrote my take on Mab's explanation, so there is no point in beating that dead horse. 

In finding fault with Mab's explanation, some readers are saying it made far more sense for Lara to get burned when she kissed Harry.  I think it was Mira who said, "Lara should have gotten her face burned off."  That may be going a bit too far, but in general I don't disagree with those opinions.  But there is something else going on this scene that everyone seems to have missed, and this missing element is the real problem.  When I put this together, I realized there was an alternative scenario Jim could have written that would have made Mab's tortured explanation of true love protection unnecessary.  In fact, it's so obvious to me that maybe Jim considered taking this route but for some reason rejected it and we got what we got.  I'll get to that point last.

Ask yourself this question.  How did Lara know she wouldn't get burned when she kissed Harry?  Before you start coming up with possible explanations, think about the last time you accidentally touched a hot stove or the last time or you touched a casserole dish or any other food container that you took out of a hot over with pot holders, but a few minutes later you accidentally brushed your hand against it and it was still hot enough to raise a blister on your skin.  We have all done something like that at sometime in our lives and it is something we try our best to avoid doing and with good reason.  Even minor burns are annoyingly painful.

So either Lara would have had one hell of a good reason to accept burning herself or she would had to have known Harry's love protection was gone.  The problem is, while I can think of a couple of ways to explain how Lara could have known Harry was no longer protected, in different ways I think each of these explanations are just as unsatisfying as Mab's explanation of why Harry's true love protection broke down.

First, there is no way Lara could physically detect that Harry was no longer protected.  We can put that possibility out to pasture.  The White Court has had over two thousand years to work on this problem and Lara getting burned by Harry in Peace Talks tells us they haven't figured out a way to do so at this time.

Perhaps Lara could have bargained with someone with enough information to know if Harry was still protected.  Of course I'm talking about Mab.  There are a couple of problems with this.  While Mab appears to know the nuts and bolts of how true love protection works and why it may fail to work, would she have known that Harry was no longer protected?  She might have known, but we can't be certain.  Even if Mab could have reasoned out that Harry was no longer protected, that is the kind of information Mab doesn't hand out for free.  But there is another problem to consider.  Even if Lara could offer Mab something in return for this knowledge, even asking about it would be an open admission from Lara that she planned to enslave Mab's knight for her own ends.  It is far too obvert a move for Lara to make.  That alone should end this line of thought.

OK, perhaps Lara's understanding of how true love protection works told her that Harry was no longer protected.  I don't think this explanation works either.  First, true love protection is supposed to be rare to begin with.  Lara would not only have to know that a person who longer feels worthy of being loved can become vulnerable to the White Court, she would have to know with certainty that this applied to Harry.  Knowing that Harry was in grief and suffering from PTSD might be a clue that Harry was vulnerable, but it wouldn't give Lara certainty that she wouldn't get burned if she laid a massive kiss on Harry.

As I suggested above, Jim actually laid the groundwork for an alternative scenario that I think works much better than what we got.  It has to do with Lara's blue eyes, which in the past we have only seen described as being grey to silver and once white.  Lara told Harry she'd fed extra heavy before their first date.  Her hunger being satiated was why it wasn't trying to feed on Harry and Lara didn't get burned when she casually touched Harry with her hands.  It made Lara look less dangerous than normal.  It didn't have to be that way.

Jim could have given Lara a second reason for giving her demon an extra heavy feeding.  Extra feeding for her demon should also give Lara more vampire mojo if she got into a serious fight and needed to heal quickly, without having to immediately feed again.  In this scenario Lara's blues eyes don't make her less dangerous, they make her more dangerous.

So when Lara gets annoyed with Harry at her party, when she gives Harry the kiss, he has the same reaction we saw in the book, but this time Lara pulls back in sudden pain as blisters break out on her lips and the skin closest to her lips.  Then Lara gets a determined look on her face, the blisters disappear, her eyes are still blue, but a lighter shade of blue than before and Lara kisses Harry a second time and he's powerless to stop her.  When Lara again pulls back in pain; maybe she curses, but again she heals herself and her eyes are now dark grey.  Harry is all but on his knees at this point.  Then Lara tells Harry pretty much the same thing she said in the book, but somewhat modified.  Lara tells Harry that she understands he is in pain, that he isn't at the top of his game, but she needs him to focus on the task at hand.  Both of them are in danger, and if she needs to do so, Lara can enslave Harry without taking him to bed in order to get him to do his job.  Lara gets more energy with sex included, but it isn't necessary when her main goal is just to gain control of someone.  Lara tells Harry that just a couple more kisses will do the trick and she could do that right now, but she doesn't want that.  Lara tells Harry she doesn't want to offend Winter and she thinks Harry will be more effective "if you can think for yourself." 

This way we could have had a more dangerous Lara and avoided Mab's clunky explanation of how true love protection can fail.  We know it was going to fail if or when Lara and Harry get married. I don't think much was achieved by having it fail in this book.  Plus, the reversal of fortune when Harry unknowingly addicted Lara to Winter would have hit that much harder.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Dina on February 02, 2026, 01:59:24 PM
Mm, this is interesting but I think Harry's deal with Mab prevented her for some things, even if her host obligations have been challenged by the Winter Knight behaviour.

Small digression: I don't actually think what Harry did was so bad from the Supernatural etiquette point of view. He did not say "I am going to kill you" he said "die". I think words matter,  forms matter, and a supernatural member wishing another one ill should not be a problem. A direct threat would have been more complicated. In my opinion, not so bad either unless Harry said "I am going to kill you right now", which of course would have been unacceptable.

Back to the point. I think Lara began kissing Harry thinking she was not going to feed from him, her hunger previously seated, so was not worried about the burnt. Then. I don't know, he smelled Harry or something and her instincts took off and she began feeding. And it suprised me that she was not surprised herself by the not burning.

Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on February 02, 2026, 03:00:47 PM
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I have no idea which answer is true; and theoretically, they could both be lies or both be partially true.  Example: Jim could have made the decision to kill Murphy off after he finished writing Blood Rites; or any other novel before Turn Coat, in which case both statements are false.  On the other hand, Jim may have always known he was going to kill off Murphy but he didn't decide which novel it would happen in until after Turn Coat was released.  In that case both statements contain part of the truth.  I would guess the second scenario is probably the correct one, but only Jim knows for sure.

  This is a guess, but a logical one I think, but I think Jim decided or began to contemplate that Murphy had to die once she was off the police force.  Characters in fiction often take on a life of their own and don't always go in the direction the author intended.  Given the personality that Jim gave Murphy, which fitted her as a cop perfectly, it didn't fit being a Holy Knight, it didn't fit her becoming a vigilante, and it didn't fit her being a security guard for Vadderung either.  Making her Harry's lover made a lot of readers happy, but in my opinion it didn't do much for the story.  What I disliked about it was, for all her toughness, Murphy tended to come off more like she was Harry's mother than lover in my opinion.  I found myself more and more rolling my eyes when she was on page because of her constant preaching to Harry.  Whether it works out or not, I so far have liked Harry's relationship with Lara, I liked it back as early as Blood Rites, why?  Harry and Lara really do treat each other as equals, they respect that both are very dangerous, they respect that both are also very intelligent, they talk things out as equals.  That was missing between Murphy and Harry, I got tired of her claiming she had the moral high ground over him on many subjects and she clearly didn't.  That's one aspect that I wish Jim had addressed before he did kill her off, what he never addressed was Murphy's big screw up when she got a Holy Sword broken.  Yeah, it turned out okay in the end for the Sword, but the reason it got broken is Murphy's idea that she was morally superior to everyone, including the Almighty, and thus could judge Nick. 
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Xamion on February 03, 2026, 06:07:44 PM
While Mab appears to know the nuts and bolts of how true love protection works and why it may fail to work, would she have known that Harry was no longer protected?  She might have known, but we can't be certain.

You forget, that Twelve Months explicitly confirmed on page, that Mab *knows* *exactly* what Harry thinks and *feels* at a given moment. Mab would 120% *know* whether Harry is protected or not, otherwise, her plan to get her (Lara) addicted to Harry wouldn't be even possible in the first place.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Bad Alias on February 03, 2026, 06:29:42 PM
You forget, that Twelve Months explicitly confirmed on page, that Mab *knows* *exactly* what Harry thinks and *feels* at a given moment. Mab would 120% *know* whether Harry is protected or not, otherwise, her plan to get her (Lara) addicted to Harry wouldn't be even possible in the first place.
I think she is only sometimes aware. She's often surprised by what Harry does or says to her.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Xamion on February 03, 2026, 09:24:46 PM
I think she is only sometimes aware. She's often surprised by what Harry does or says to her.
It's quite likely that she has to actively focus or deliberately recall such information post-facto, but it is definitely firmly established, that such knowledge is absolutely part of either her "natural" abilities or her Winter Queen intellectus.
But this fact, combined with the fact that she knows more about the "mechanics" of true love protection against White Court vampires, is enough to understand that she absolutely knows whether Harry is or isn't protected at any given point in time.

In regards to Mab often being surprised by Harry's (re)actions, that's quite logical, because even people themselves don't really know how they will act, based on what they think or what they (think they) feel, much less other humans. What Mab most certainly can do (and does all the time) is calculate (and far better than most humans can) based on the thoughts and feelings of others, since while she no longer experiences those things exactly the same way humans do, like she said: "[she] was mortal once."
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on February 03, 2026, 10:43:58 PM
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In regards to Mab often being surprised by Harry's (re)actions, that's quite logical, because even people themselves don't really know how they will act, based on what they think or what they (think they) feel, much less other humans. What Mab most certainly can do (and does all the time) is calculate (and far better than most humans can) based on the thoughts and feelings of others, since while she no longer experiences those things exactly the same way humans do, like she said: "[she] was mortal once."

True, and over a millina or so Mab, if she hasn't seen it all, has seen a lot of it as far as human nature goes.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Bad Alias on February 04, 2026, 12:54:20 AM
such knowledge is absolutely part of either her "natural" abilities or her Winter Queen intellectus.
...  she absolutely knows whether Harry is or isn't protected at any given point in time.
I don't think the case is that strong. How she knows what Harry is thinking isn't known.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: LaraBeck on February 04, 2026, 09:47:40 AM
Jim could have given Lara a second reason for giving her demon an extra heavy feeding.  Extra feeding for her demon should also give Lara more vampire mojo if she got into a serious fight and needed to heal quickly, without having to immediately feed again.  In this scenario Lara's blues eyes don't make her less dangerous, they make her more dangerous.

So when Lara gets annoyed with Harry at her party, when she gives Harry the kiss, he has the same reaction we saw in the book, but this time Lara pulls back in sudden pain as blisters break out on her lips and the skin closest to her lips.  Then Lara gets a determined look on her face, the blisters disappear, her eyes are still blue, but a lighter shade of blue than before and Lara kisses Harry a second time and he's powerless to stop her.  When Lara again pulls back in pain; maybe she curses, but again she heals herself and her eyes are now dark grey.  Harry is all but on his knees at this point.  Then Lara tells Harry pretty much the same thing she said in the book, but somewhat modified.  Lara tells Harry that she understands he is in pain, that he isn't at the top of his game, but she needs him to focus on the task at hand.  Both of them are in danger, and if she needs to do so, Lara can enslave Harry without taking him to bed in order to get him to do his job.  Lara gets more energy with sex included, but it isn't necessary when her main goal is just to gain control of someone.  Lara tells Harry that just a couple more kisses will do the trick and she could do that right now, but she doesn't want that.  Lara tells Harry she doesn't want to offend Winter and she thinks Harry will be more effective "if you can think for yourself." 

This way we could have had a more dangerous Lara and avoided Mab's clunky explanation of how true love protection can fail.  We know it was going to fail if or when Lara and Harry get married. I don't think much was achieved by having it fail in this book.  Plus, the reversal of fortune when Harry unknowingly addicted Lara to Winter would have hit that much harder.

Yeah, at the end of Battle Ground (which is like a week after the Battle of Chicago), Lara is wearing gloves, clearly she doesn't know that the true love protection is gone. When they go on their first date, however, she has feed well, so she was preparing for... whatever she needed to do, either try to start seducing Harry and being "available" to it, or to be ready for a fight.

So, this scenario you're proposing would have made much more sense to me.

I really don't appreciate how muddy JB made the concept of the true love protection in this book, or how it felt like a clumsy but deliverate attempt to mess with the memory of what Harry and Murphy had. I feel it was unnecessary.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on February 04, 2026, 02:44:53 PM
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I really don't appreciate how muddy JB made the concept of the true love protection in this book, or how it felt like a clumsy but deliverate attempt to mess with the memory of what Harry and Murphy had. I feel it was unnecessary.

But the concept has been muddy from the beginning in my opinion, not just between Murphy and Harry, but between Harry and Susan as well.  A really cool concept at the beginning of the series, but as the series has progressed has gotten in the way of the whole story.  So now Jim is turning himself and poor Harry into a pretzel trying to fix and blur what were supposedly hard fast rule about something than isn't black and white to begin with.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Avernite on February 08, 2026, 05:03:42 PM
Obviously it'd all have been a bit easier if PT/BG had not forced in the True Love between Harry and Murphy. Early installment weirdness or not, it was treated as a minor Big Deal that Harry had found True Love, because it was rare. A side story had given us the werewolfy True Love on the side, but overall, it was rare so any explanation could explain why Harry wasn't protected here.

Obviously we had no way to go back there, so yeah, here we are.

I, personally, would've found the fact that Harry was dating-for-marriage a perfectly fine excuse why he was no longer truly committed to his True Love, but the book didn't go there.
All in all, bit disappointing. But the book was fine, so I'll just class this as 'weird, probably wrong by old canon, but eh.'
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Dina on February 09, 2026, 03:38:15 AM
As I said before, there are many, many instances of TRUE LOVE to be such a rare, super special thing.
Harry-Susan
Harry-Murphy
Thomas-Justine
Inari-boyfriend (I don't remember the name)
Avernite mentioned werewolfy, I don't remember. Will and Georgia?
Also, given their sons, I bet Maggie-Malcolm had True Love too (That is headcanon, not proven in the books, but come on, you know I am right).
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on February 09, 2026, 02:02:47 PM
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In finding fault with Mab's explanation, some readers are saying it made far more sense for Lara to get burned when she kissed Harry.  I think it was Mira who said, "Lara should have gotten her face burned off."  That may be going a bit too far, but in general I don't disagree with those opinions.  But there is something else going on this scene that everyone seems to have missed, and this missing element is the real problem.  When I put this together, I realized there was an alternative scenario Jim could have written that would have made Mab's tortured explanation of true love protection unnecessary.  In fact, it's so obvious to me that maybe Jim considered taking this route but for some reason rejected it and we got what we got.  I'll get to that point last.

I was speaking metaphorically, not literally, but in any case, it might have been better if Jim had the relationship what it always had been between Harry and Murphy.  So ongoing hints that they loved one another, but not to the point where they actually went to bed with one another.  Since sex with another other than the person you love, even a violent attack like rape can break true love's bonds, maybe if Jim had made it that only sex with the loved one can seal it.  Then the explanation as to why it didn't work now but did back when Lara was burned even five years after Harry and Susan broke up.  However it's a little late now for that, it is what it is.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Dina on February 09, 2026, 03:05:59 PM
But only sex with the loved one can seal True Love, right?
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on February 09, 2026, 06:22:25 PM
But only sex with the loved one can seal True Love, right?

 I don't think that's been spelled out, but sex with another can ruin it.  Before he fell in love with her Thomas did have sex with Justine because that's when he fed off of her.  However once there was true love between them it was mentioned more than once, specifically I remember a rubber suit of some sort Justine was wearing so she and Thomas could snuggle without him burning her.

So it's hard to say. ???
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Dina on February 09, 2026, 07:05:07 PM
But that is what I meant. It has been clearly established but in order to have True Love protection you need to be very, very, very in love with someone who loves you in return AND have sex with that person. That is when you got the Protection achievement. Then, if you have sex with someone else, willingly or not, that is broken. I imagine if you just stopped loving someone or get in love with someone else, that breaks the protection too.
That is why is so difficult to explain what happened to Harry's protection, he was protected in BG. Then he is not. Murphy died, but that is never given as an explanation for the protection breaking, and Harry clearly did not sex with everyone unless he did it and forgot (not the first time it would happen in the show) or stopped loving Murphy. That is why Mab explained the thing about Harry not feeling worthy and being guilty and all that. And...that is what many of us don't like.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on February 10, 2026, 12:59:58 PM
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That is why is so difficult to explain what happened to Harry's protection, he was protected in BG. Then he is not. Murphy died, but that is never given as an explanation for the protection breaking, and Harry clearly did not sex with everyone unless he did it and forgot (not the first time it would happen in the show) or stopped loving Murphy. That is why Mab explained the thing about Harry not feeling worthy and being guilty and all that. And...that is what many of us don't like.
Yes, while Harry may fully have loved Murphy, she loved him, but may still have had some reservations, maybe going back to Proven Guilty when she turned him down the first time.  The reason I say this is Mab sort of hedged as well.  While no, she didn't say Murphy didn't love him, her answer to Harry when he asked was, "perhaps."  Then she says she couldn't see into that part of Murphy's mind, but do you really believe that?  I don't, and while Mab cannot directly lie, she can deceive or hedge.  The clincher is when she tells Harry that Murphy made her own decisions and her own woman.  So I think that Mab didn't want to outright upset her Knight or argue with him because her object is to get him together with Lara, so she came up with her vague explanation and answered with a "perhaps." 
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Dina on February 10, 2026, 07:28:24 PM
I would agree, but Harry burnt Lara in PT/BG.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Bad Alias on February 10, 2026, 07:58:05 PM
Yeah. Whatever True Love is in the Dresden Files, Harry and Murphy had it.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on February 11, 2026, 01:39:12 AM
Yeah. Whatever True Love is in the Dresden Files, Harry and Murphy had it.

And it faded very quickly..
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Bad Alias on February 11, 2026, 04:25:31 AM
And it faded very quickly..
Yep. I think most of the posts here are people arguing with what we see in the books because it's not what we thought it was. What happened in 12 Months isn't inconsistent with anything we've read in the Dresden Files or anything I've seen Jim say elsewhere.

Did I think True Love Protection could be broken by death and/or depression (perhaps a very specific kind of depression)? No. Can I find anything in the books to say otherwise? Also no. And I tried.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Dina on February 11, 2026, 09:31:42 AM
I need to reread 12months yet. Was Lara afraid of burning in 12M? If she isn't , we can safely say that True Love is broken by death of the person you loved. If Lara was still worried about burning, even after Murphy's death, then we know death alone cannot destroy True Love.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Bad Alias on February 11, 2026, 02:09:02 PM
I need to reread 12months yet. Was Lara afraid of burning in 12M? If she isn't , we can safely say that True Love is broken by death of the person you loved. If Lara was still worried about burning, even after Murphy's death, then we know death alone cannot destroy True Love.
She seemed to be on their first date, but not on the Halloween date.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on February 11, 2026, 02:28:08 PM
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Yep. I think most of the posts here are people arguing with what we see in the books because it's not what we thought it was. What happened in 12 Months isn't inconsistent with anything we've read in the Dresden Files or anything I've seen Jim say elsewhere.

Did I think True Love Protection could be broken by death and/or depression (perhaps a very specific kind of depression)? No. Can I find anything in the books to say otherwise? Also no. And I tried.

The thing is, all that was needed was a one night stand for Harry and all this debate would be unnecessary.  Yes, it can happen to even a grieving guy who had just lost his true love.  Harry has been drinking a bit of late, his body still responds to stimuli like any other normal male body.  All Jim had to do is have one of guys from the Bean Army or even staying at the castle talk Harry into going to a bar with them.  Harry drinks more than he should, hooks up for one night with an attractive lady, who might even look a bit like Murphy.  Poof, protection gone!  Also add one more thing for Harry to feel guilty about, when he shouldn't!

Oh and it could have been something Mab set up to make sure there were no obstacles to Harry and Lara getting together.  She won't tell Harry about it either until much later.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Dina on February 11, 2026, 06:23:04 PM
Yes, I considered Harry could have been mind-wiped.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on February 12, 2026, 02:12:43 PM
Yes, I considered Harry could have been mind-wiped.

I don't think mind-wiped would have worked with true love, but that's a good question.  Would mind wiping have taken away his protection? 
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Dina on February 12, 2026, 05:43:53 PM
No, I meant mind-wiped into not remembering that he had sex with someone else.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Lord Kinbote on February 12, 2026, 09:38:19 PM
  We all know that true love burns a White Court Vampire, that true love before the first feeding can block or kill the Hunger Demon, who happens to be an Outsider all together. Why?  That never has been fully explained.

I'll be surprised if we get any explanation that's satisfying.  Well, beyond a long internal monologue by Dresden that rests on a foundation built on a reading of 'All You Need is Love.'  I'm not expecting the readers will get anything close to an explanation of how the universe Butcher has built all works and comes together logically (even one that's at the descriptive/predictive/Newton level and not at the fundamental/'why does it work that way' level). 

After Twelve Months, I have a creeping feeling that the conclusion of the Dresden Files will reveal that the entire series was 'True Love Conquers the Outsiders.'  If that's all there is, then let's just keep reading and hope for a rollicking, enjoyable remainder for this yarn even if at the end we're left with a lot of Lost-esque unresolved loose threads.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on February 12, 2026, 09:42:22 PM
No, I meant mind-wiped into not remembering that he had sex with someone else.

I know what you meant, and yes, I can see Mab being capable of that.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Dina on February 12, 2026, 10:02:18 PM
I'll be surprised if we get any explanation that's satisfying.  Well, beyond a long internal monologue by Dresden that rests on a foundation built on a reading of 'All You Need is Love.'  I'm not expecting the readers will get anything close to an explanation of how the universe Butcher has built all works and comes together logically (even one that's at the descriptive/predictive/Newton level and not at the fundamental/'why does it work that way' level). 

After Twelve Months, I have a creeping feeling that the conclusion of the Dresden Files will reveal that the entire series was 'True Love Conquers the Outsiders.'  If that's all there is, then let's just keep reading and hope for a rollicking, enjoyable remainder for this yarn even if at the end we're left with a lot of Lost-esque unresolved loose threads.
I am ok with True Love Conquers the Outsiders but I hope the unresolved loose threads are not "a lot".
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Bad Alias on February 13, 2026, 03:50:06 AM
There's so many loose threads, I don't see how he ties them all up. Even if a vast majority of loose threads were tied up, I think that would still leave room for a lot of loose threads.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Lord Kinbote on February 13, 2026, 02:30:54 PM
I am ok with True Love Conquers the Outsiders but I hope the unresolved loose threads are not "a lot".

Maybe I could be OK with 'True Love Conquers the Outsiders' (though I much prefer a resolve that's less of a trope), but so far only True Romantic Love has proven to have a negative effect on Outsiders.  The love for one's children hasn't been shown to have any effect on White Court Hunger, and the lore certainly doesn't suggest that it does.  True Romantic Love, maybe also required to be reciprocated and the relationship consummated, as the Outsiders' silver bullet would certainly be an interesting choice.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on February 13, 2026, 11:32:50 PM
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Maybe I could be OK with 'True Love Conquers the Outsiders' (though I much prefer a resolve that's less of a trope), but so far only True Romantic Love has proven to have a negative effect on Outsiders.  The love for one's children hasn't been shown to have any effect on White Court Hunger, and the lore certainly doesn't suggest that it does.  True Romantic Love, maybe also required to be reciprocated and the relationship consummated, as the Outsiders' silver bullet would certainly be an interesting choice.
 

Problem with that, what Thomas and Justine have is supposed to be true love yet she is possessed by Nemesis or an Outsider.  So because she had a one night bisexual stand so she and Thomas could have sex, all protection was lost?  Or was she possessed before, and true love didn't protect her from being possessed?  Also if what Thomas said was right in Blood Rites, the Hunger Demon is only burnt out by true love if the host had never has that first feeding, especially until death. I would have to go back an read, but the killing of the victim if I remember was a key factor on whether or not the Hunger Demon can take control.  However if the host merely nibbles and not kill, does the demon still survive but the drive to feed not as urgent?  I am thinking that the true love thing might be merely a rabbit hole that we are being sent down.

One more point;
The fact that Justine is possessed by Nemesis puts an end to the theroy some have had that Outsiders or Nemesis cannot possess humans. 
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Dina on February 14, 2026, 05:43:19 PM
Yes, you are right Mira. It is clear that True Love does not protect from nemfection, or that previously nemfected people cannot feel True Love and be protected by it. About the burning, I think true Love killed the hunger in the unexperienced vampire, no matter if they killed the first feed or not. Only, it is very difficult for that vampire not to kill, as he has not experience in control.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on February 14, 2026, 07:19:30 PM
Yes, you are right Mira. It is clear that True Love does not protect from nemfection, or that previously nemfected people cannot feel True Love and be protected by it. About the burning, I think true Love killed the hunger in the unexperienced vampire, no matter if they killed the first feed or not. Only, it is very difficult for that vampire not to kill, as he has not experience in control.

 As I said, have to go back and reread, but I am almost positive that the emphases was on the killing part of the first feed.  That's why he and Lara were so worried about their little sister, because Lord Raith would get them worked up at about the age she was, nothing was said about that feeding could lead to killing, and that killing would forever enslave them to the Hunger Demon.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Bad Alias on February 14, 2026, 10:22:07 PM
If their first time is True Love, then the Hunger dies. It doesn't matter if the first feeding is fatal. Irwin and Connie didn't have true love, but the feeding didn't kill Irwin because he has so much life force.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on February 15, 2026, 01:11:05 PM
If their first time is True Love, then the Hunger dies. It doesn't matter if the first feeding is fatal. Irwin and Connie didn't have true love, but the feeding didn't kill Irwin because he has so much life force.

I just reread the parts of Blood Rites where Thomas talks about the first feeding, he says that the first feeding is always fatal. 
That White Court kids are like any other kids until their Hunger wakes up, then the danger comes to them, but apparently there is a choice. However that's a bit vague, Thomas says they are forbidden under Lord Raith's orders to explain that to the kids, so they have that first feeding, killing the victim and are hooked.  So apparently Jim altered that explanation. I could include quotes but don't have time this morning but I will if you want.  Harry did burn Inari when she tried to feed on him and Thomas explained that one as well.  He said that if true love passed between him and in this case Susan during sex though it was over a year in the past at the time Blood Rites came out and he was with no other women, he was protected by that love.  So you'd think because Harry and Murphy had sex in Peace Talks that Harry should still be protected, but he isn't.???

Connie didn't kill Irwin because he had too much life force?  Really?  You'd think it would be a banquet for Connie's Hunger Demon and it would want even more.  I thought that was the point when Harry fed Lara's Hunger demon, so is Connie now slave to Irwin?  We know from Summer Knight that Harry was severely depressed after Susan left him and felt guilt and self loathing because he couldn't find a cure for her, this went on for months, yet the true love that passed between them the last time they had sex was enough not only to burn Inari, but to burn Lara five years later.. So Lara's claim that she had just fed and canceled out the protection doesn't compute, neither does Mab's explanation that Harry's current state of grief, self loathing, and guilt hold up.  Only other explanation is that true love hadn't passed between Harry and Murphy that last time.  Something had changed, no final reading on the soul gaze because she died before Harry could get a reading on how she really felt.   Yeah, that one left vague on purpose, you'd think the first thing Harry saw as brief as it was would be her final thoughts of love for him.  One thought is maybe getting a Holy Sword broken in her own arrogance and being so badly injured had altered Murphy's feelings somewhat, maybe enough to affect the true love she supposedly felt for Harry.  Makes sense if you go with Mab's explanation, maybe Murphy was going through some guilt and self loathing of her own in those last days.  Wouldn't be the first time, she took to the bottle for a while after Nightmare got finished with her. 

 Also in the final pages of Blood Rites, it is explained to Harry that if Inari and her boyfriend truly love each other during that first sex act, it will block her Hunger demon, and apparently just burn it out, freeing her forever from it.  Which if what Lara says in 12 Months is true, it has, Inari is happily married with three normal vanilla kids.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Bad Alias on February 15, 2026, 06:36:46 PM
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“The first time they feed, they don’t really know it’s coming. They have no control over it, no restraint—and whoever they feed on dies as a result.”
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“Because the last time I helped Irwin out, I remember being struck by the power of his aura when he was only fourteen. A long-term draining spell that should have killed him only left him sleepy
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“My point is,” I said, “the kid’s got a life force like few I’ve seen. When Connie’s Hunger awakened, she fed on him without any kind of restraint, and he wound up with nothing worse than a hangover. Could be that he could handle a life with her just fine.”
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“It means that what his father told him was a lie. It means that maybe he didn’t have to be like he is. It means that he’s been lying to himself. About everything.” River Shoulders spread his hands, palms up, as if presenting the fact. “That kind of father has to make his children in his own image. He has to make the lie true.

What Thomas said doesn't matter. If a White Court vampire feeds on a human without restraint, the feeding is fatal. Every first time is without restraint because they don't know to restrain themselves. It's possible that the first feeding doesn't have to be fatal at all. It's a lie told to every member of the White Court. Most probably even believe it.

The reason Connie's first feeding wasn't fatal is that she didn't feed on a human. She fed on a Bigfoot with an insane amount of energy.

Connie could be enslaved to Irwin, but I think the direct feeding without sex that she's doing with Harry is different. Like the difference between a liquid diet and eating solid food. Her Hunger can't get that kind of feeding even if she kills.

Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: TrueMonk on February 16, 2026, 10:20:32 AM
I think the true love protection is not removed by not loving one self, but is put in a non-functional state. Perhaps especially in this case where Harry does not feel he is worthy of Murphs love, because he feels responsible for her death. So if the kiss is not enough to loose it, perhaps it is back by the end of 12 months, now that he can love himself and feel worthy of love.

When Susan becomes infected at the end of grave peril, book 3, it is not untill blood rites, book 6, that we know he is protected by true love. There is no way to know if he was protected when he was at his lowest in the year following grave peril.

Regarding Mabs comment about it happening twice. I would have to listen to it again, but I think it referred to how it was the second time that felt responsible for the death of his love (third time if we count Lash, and for a long time je also thought he killed Elaine). That problably has an effect on whether or not one feels worthy of being loved.

Regarding the rarity of true love protection. As far as I remember the only place the rarity of it is mentioned is Thomas saying something along the lines of "it is rarer than you think" when him and Harry first talks about it. I think that also has something to do with the humans the white court interacts with. If they targeted normal couples living like the Carpenters they would problably encounter it more often, but they target young people at night clubs and powerfull people.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on February 16, 2026, 12:53:39 PM
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What Thomas said doesn't matter. If a White Court vampire feeds on a human without restraint, the feeding is fatal. Every first time is without restraint because they don't know to restrain themselves. It's possible that the first feeding doesn't have to be fatal at all. It's a lie told to every member of the White Court. Most probably even believe it.

But that's the point, Lord Raith doesn't allow that information to get out to the young, so it is always fatal.

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The reason Connie's first feeding wasn't fatal is that she didn't feed on a human. She fed on a Bigfoot with an insane amount of energy.

You have to wonder then why the White Court doesn't keep a number of Big Foots in their herd?
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Connie could be enslaved to Irwin, but I think the direct feeding without sex that she's doing with Harry is different. Like the difference between a liquid diet and eating solid food. Her Hunger can't get that kind of feeding even if she kills.

We don't know do we
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I think the true love protection is not removed by not loving one self, but is put in a non-functional state. Perhaps especially in this case where Harry does not feel he is worthy of Murphs love, because he feels responsible for her death. So if the kiss is not enough to loose it, perhaps it is back by the end of 12 months, now that he can love himself and feel worthy of love.

But Harry didn't get over feeling worthy of Susan's love either, still he remained protected

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When Susan becomes infected at the end of grave peril, book 3, it is not untill blood rites, book 6, that we know he is protected by true love. There is no way to know if he was protected when he was at his lowest in the year following grave peril.

Susan became half turned in Grave Peril
Harry extremely depressed and felt responsible and nearly killed himself trying to find a cure for her. Summer Knight

Blood Rites Inari gets burned trying to feed..  While Harry got past feeling depressed, no evidence that he had gotten over feeling responsible

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Regarding Mabs comment about it happening twice. I would have to listen to it again, but I think it referred to how it was the second time that felt responsible for the death of his love (third time if we count Lash, and for a long time je also thought he killed Elaine). That problably has an effect on whether or not one feels worthy of being loved.

While Harry has been with several women, only twice that we know of that he got true love's protection, Susan, and briefly Murphy.  Then again those are the the only times we know of that a White Court Vamp tried to feed off of him.. However true love doesn't protect against all White Court Vamps, some feed off of totally different emotions.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: TrueMonk on February 16, 2026, 01:30:29 PM
But the point still stands that we do not know if he would have been protected by true love between the end of book three and the beginning of book six. Especially between end of book three and end of book four where he starts feeling better.

As a result I do not see Harry's love relationship with Susan as being treated differently than than the one with Murphy's in regards to the true love protection.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Dina on February 16, 2026, 05:00:56 PM
I think the true love protection is not removed by not loving one self, but is put in a non-functional state. Perhaps especially in this case where Harry does not feel he is worthy of Murphs love, because he feels responsible for her death. So if the kiss is not enough to loose it, perhaps it is back by the end of 12 months, now that he can love himself and feel worthy of love.

When Susan becomes infected at the end of grave peril, book 3, it is not untill blood rites, book 6, that we know he is protected by true love. There is no way to know if he was protected when he was at his lowest in the year following grave peril.

Regarding Mabs comment about it happening twice. I would have to listen to it again, but I think it referred to how it was the second time that felt responsible for the death of his love (third time if we count Lash, and for a long time je also thought he killed Elaine). That problably has an effect on whether or not one feels worthy of being loved.

Regarding the rarity of true love protection. As far as I remember the only place the rarity of it is mentioned is Thomas saying something along the lines of "it is rarer than you think" when him and Harry first talks about it. I think that also has something to do with the humans the white court interacts with. If they targeted normal couples living like the Carpenters they would problably encounter it more often, but they target young people at night clubs and powerfull people.
This is a very clever approach. I actually hope someone makes this known to Jim, just in case he has not thought of this  :)
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Bad Alias on February 17, 2026, 12:23:58 AM
You have to wonder then why the White Court doesn't keep a number of Big Foots in their herd?
Probably because of River Shoulders's reactions in the short story. And I don't think the White Court has much info on them. They appear to have been in the Americas since shortly after River Shoulders's birth. The White Court started in Italy, probably after that. In Peace Talks, it appears that the Forest People don't really interact with the supernatural community. Connie's dad didn't seem to know what he was getting into.

So either they don't know about them, or they do and that's why.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: g33k on February 17, 2026, 06:56:36 PM
But only sex with the loved one can seal True Love, right?
IIRC, there is WoJ somewhere that having sex isn't essential to get the protection; it's just the easiest and most-common way for it to happen.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: LaraBeck on February 17, 2026, 09:13:09 PM
IIRC, there is WoJ somewhere that having sex isn't essential to get the protection; it's just the easiest and most-common way for it to happen.

There's also recent WOJ (from last year or January) where he says that both needs are necessary, the physical and the spiritual. So... I dunno if Jim is 100% sure himself how this is supposed to work. Not True Love but True Love Protection™, the second one being the byproduct of physically acting on the first one.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: g33k on February 17, 2026, 10:09:36 PM
... Connie didn't kill Irwin because he had too much life force?  Really?  You'd think it would be a banquet for Connie's Hunger Demon and it would want even more.  I thought that was the point when Harry fed Lara's Hunger demon, so is Connie now slave to Irwin? ...
Connie was feeding on Irwin's "life-force."  He just has a huge amount of it... more than her Hunger was capable of eating.
Harry was feeding (since Harry kept control, I'd suggest he was force-feeding) Lara's Hunger with magic:  the raw stuff of Creation itself (and, likely, a dusting of Winter (or so says Mab; and if she says it, then she believes it (though she can still be mistaken))).

It's like the difference between a poppy-seed bagel, and heroin.

But... your point isn't entirely wrong, I think.

I don't think Irwin's life-force can "enslave" Connie, precisely; but I suspect something on the habituation-addiction spectrum is at least theoretically possible (fortunately for Connie, Irwin is genuinely a good guy, and unlikely to take advantage if it happens!) .
 
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: g33k on February 17, 2026, 10:43:31 PM
... After Twelve Months, I have a creeping feeling that the conclusion of the Dresden Files will reveal that the entire series was 'True Love Conquers the Outsiders.' 
Doubtful.

"True Love" conquers the Raith-style lust-Hunger.
But it takes True Bravery to conquer a Skavis, True Hope to conquer a Malvora.

Those are specifically Hunger-Demon Outsiders, however:  not "Outsiders" in general; we've never seen any of that being particularly potent against other Outsiders.

I think the key won't be "True Love" but mortal "Free Will."
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: g33k on February 17, 2026, 10:44:35 PM
There's also recent WOJ (from last year or January) where he says that both needs are necessary, the physical and the spiritual ...
Huh.
If you could turn that one up for me, I'd be grateful!
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Dina on February 18, 2026, 02:41:19 AM
I remember clearly like many years ago there was a WoJ that said that sex was needed for achieving the Protection because something something related with the potential of creating life. Then, later, someone asked him if that meant homosexual couples could not be protected, so Jim backpedaled, mentioned that Protection is not an exact science, that it could be achieved by not penetrative sex and things like that. So, he mostly forgot about the creating life thing.
Title: Re: True Love's Protection
Post by: Mira on February 18, 2026, 02:03:12 PM
I remember clearly like many years ago there was a WoJ that said that sex was needed for achieving the Protection because something something related with the potential of creating life. Then, later, someone asked him if that meant homosexual couples could not be protected, so Jim backpedaled, mentioned that Protection is not an exact science, that it could be achieved by not penetrative sex and things like that. So, he mostly forgot about the creating life thing.

Yes, I think as I said when he first wrote it, the true love concept sounded so cool.  However having said that I don't think in his series outline that Jim fully thought out the can of worms he opened and the problems it presents fifteen or so books into the series.