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Title: Convincing Your SO....
Post by: Grogtard on June 12, 2007, 10:53:11 PM
So who has had this problem? Convincing your significant other that writing is work.

SO:  "Honey, can you (fill in blank with non-time sensitive chore)?"
Me: "I'm working."
SO: "I thought you were just writing."

Sigh.....
Title: Re: Convincing Your SO....
Post by: Matrix Refugee (formerly Morraeon) on June 12, 2007, 11:47:19 PM
Yep, that happens to me all the time. I've found my best shot at not being interrupted is in the evening when my mom is reading.
Title: Re: Convincing Your SO....
Post by: Cyclone Jack on June 13, 2007, 12:01:20 AM

Nah. I've been serious about the scribbling since my early teens. I wouldn't be with anyone who didn't take it just as seriously. :)
Title: Re: Convincing Your SO....
Post by: skaoi on June 13, 2007, 01:58:50 AM
my hubby ROCKS.  he is so understanding.  if anything, i abuse his good will.  we had about a month or so where i was completely ignoring my fair share of the domestic chores and he finally stepped up, politely cleared his throat and looked around before looking back at me.

communication is important.  he knows i would rather be writing and editing more than almost anything else, and he makes sure i get as much time as he and our daughters can spare.  he's so awesome.

 ;D


Title: Re: Convincing Your SO....
Post by: meg_evonne on June 13, 2007, 02:02:12 AM
spouse gone (X), kids gone(at least physically if not financially), write all I want.  

THEN boom my blue merle sheltie has taken it into his head to be my "writing timer".  At some unknown point in the evening he will race in from where-ever he's been sleeping and take a five foot leap into my arms on the laptop.  First it always scares me, 2nd his nails punch into my stomac and last and most irritating one of his paws inevibly hits a button or something that tosses the laptop into "panicked and locked down mode".   Luckily I do not lose what I've written but not yet saved otherwise the dog would have been sent out to plaly with the coyotes.....  okay I'm joking there.  

What bugs me is he seems to know when I have reached a stopping point or a point of not knowing where I was going in the writing.  So he's got pretty good writer's radar for when breaks need to fall.   LOL
Title: Re: Convincing Your SO....
Post by: meg_evonne on June 13, 2007, 02:04:11 AM
spouse gone (X), kids gone(at least physically if not financially), write all I want. 

THEN boom my blue merle sheltie has taken it into his head to be my "writing timer".  At some unknown point in the evening he will race in from where-ever he's been sleeping and take a five foot leap into my arms on the laptop.  First it always scares me, 2nd his nails punch into my stomac and last and most irritating one of his paws inevibly hits a button or something that tosses the laptop into "panicked and locked down mode".   Luckily I do not lose what I've written but not yet saved otherwise the dog would have been sent out to plaly with the coyotes.....  okay I'm joking there.   

What bugs me is he seems to know when I have reached a stopping point or a point of not knowing where I was going in the writing.  So he's got pretty good writer's radar for when breaks need to fall.   LOL
Title: Re: Convincing Your SO....
Post by: Murphy's Stunt Double on June 13, 2007, 02:10:32 AM
Meg - something is going wrong in your computer. This is the second string I've seen your posts duplicate themselves.

Sorry, I have no idea what's up or how to fix it, just letting you know it's happening.

On topic:

The hubby is extraordinarily supportive, especially considering I don't let him read my stuff.

My beagle, on the other hand, had the opposite radar as Meg's pup. As soon as I get on a roll, she comes up and nudges my mouse arm and begs for my attention... mostly for a trip outside. Sheesh!
Title: Re: Convincing Your SO....
Post by: Grogtard on June 13, 2007, 02:45:54 AM
My cat, very bad writing timer.  But then again cat's aren't know for their empathy.
Title: Re: Convincing Your SO....
Post by: Matrix Refugee (formerly Morraeon) on June 13, 2007, 04:25:34 AM
Meg - something is going wrong in your computer. This is the second string I've seen your posts duplicate themselves.

It's probably a forum glitch: this happens from time to time on just about every forum I've ever been on.
Title: Re: Convincing Your SO....
Post by: Mickey Finn on June 13, 2007, 12:42:27 PM
My SO is an artist. I have the opposite problem*...she wonders why I'm doing less work than her.



*Normally. She's in a slump right now, and wants attention, so it's hard for me to even use my computer for anything, let alone write. I've actually taken my laptop to work to get some things in ;)
Title: Re: Convincing Your SO....
Post by: the neurovore of Zur-En-Aargh on June 13, 2007, 03:01:44 PM
When you meet the person you marry in the first place through each other's writing, and when they are a full-time professional writer, this becomes less of a problem.  I'd recommend that approach wholeheartedly if I didn't think it would be implausibly difficult to duplicate; I certainly never would have thought when first we met that we would end up getting married.
Title: Re: Convincing Your SO....
Post by: celeber on June 13, 2007, 05:51:21 PM
It is hard when you have two writers in the house.
We understand each other and stay out of the way and help when each other's muse is calling.
What do you do when you both have the muse yelling at you to work and you both can't?
Compromise. Take turns. Etc.
Title: Re: Convincing Your SO....
Post by: RMatthewWare on June 14, 2007, 07:36:04 PM
My wife sometimes thinks I'm not doing anything when I'm writing.  Most of the time, though, she praises me for doing so well.  It just depends on the day.

Matt