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Title: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Priscellie on June 21, 2010, 12:03:24 PM
The forum has gone through a lot of changes lately, like a teenager or caterpillar.  Our goal is to stem the tide of unpleasantness that was choking the forum, making tempers flare and making the forum environment toxic.  We're requiring that folks communicate with a certain level of civility and courtesy, and we're cracking down a lot harder on the kinds of crass, deliberately goading behavior and subject matter that seemed to be the root of the problem.

It's become clear that a number of you are uncomfortable with the actions of some of the moderators, but are afraid to speak up.  That's not good.  We want to make this forum a place where you can enjoy yourself again, not where you're living in fear of the Wrath of Mod.

If you have any suggestions on how better to accomplish this, or if you feel paranoid to bring up any topic at all for fear it'll be labeled TT, LET US KNOW.  We thrive on your feedback.  Share your thoughts here, or PM the mods if you'd rather your words be kept private.  Snide remarks about the mods and admins without specific grievances will not be taken well.  Constructive criticism, however, is welcomed, even if we end up disagreeing with it.  We want folks to take an active interest in making this forum a better place.  When folks whisper behind our backs, we can't exactly do anything to anything to remedy the problem they're whispering about, can we?

So have at it!  How do you feel about the changes?
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Chiana on June 21, 2010, 01:56:15 PM
Change is scary but necessary and for the good.  I am getting used to the newness of the board and am liking the way it is set up.  I've found myself being able to navagate the different threads easier.  Overall, I say brilliant job!  And as I said over in Weird, thank you to the mods/admins/wardens who have put in a ton of work to make this forum a great place to be consumed by the sheer awesomeness that is Jim.   :)
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Rue-Sal on June 21, 2010, 03:43:02 PM
First I'd like to apologize if my comments in Weird came across as snide as that was not my intent.  I was agreeing with a fellow forum member with regards to some of the threads being quiet compared to how they were before the change.  I do think that some of the members here feel like they will feel the wrath of mod if they say or do something that crosses the line.  The problem is knowing where that line is.

The second thing is that when I made my comment about criticizing the admins and mods I should have worded that better. I don't believe that admins or mods would ban somebody unreasonably but during the change when several people were banned there were accusations of favoritism in regards to who was banned and who wasn't. Somebody did state that he/she was banned after complaining about this.  Rather this is true or not, and for the record I don't believe it is, I think that somebody hearing this may be hesitant in voicing their concerns.

As for the changes themselves, I think the forum is headed in a better direction and is much less negative than it was just a month ago.  The chatroom is great and adding the new mods was a good idea.  I also think that the new expiration policy for threads in McAnally's will help keep things civil.  All in all I think you guys are doing a good job and have made a lot of positive steps.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Shecky on June 21, 2010, 03:54:09 PM
Let's all drag something out in the middle of the floor and let the cat sniff it: "the line". I've seen a lot of people make fairly similar comments about not knowing where the line is, but, honestly, it's pretty simple: if you completely remove your own personal knowledge behind what you're saying and look at your post without having ANY reason to ASSUME to the good in any case of doubt, the resulting context-free post should be just about impossible to get ticked off over. In other words, if it stands up for itself without even possibly needing "But I meant..." or "That's reading it wrong" and still doesn't step on toes, you're fine.

Yeah, it does sound all Big-Brothery, doesn't it? It isn't; this is a private forum. Keep in mind that this is Fred's toybox and we're all here by his consent and goodwill, and he wants this to be a civil place. Note that he didn't say it shouldn't be FUN, just not uncivil. There are plenty of ways to do friendly ribbing, joshin' around, poking fun, etc. and make sure that it's OBVIOUS that it's friendly. I know some people have a loathing for emoticon/smileys, but they're INCREDIBLY efficient and useful for just that kind of purpose. Especially for sarcasm, which is obviously highly prized around here... but exceptionally slick sarcasm is hard to discern in print, and we humans need every little bit of help we can get. :)
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Rue-Sal on June 21, 2010, 04:11:30 PM
I'm not disagreeing with you in regards to the "cat sniff" test.  It's a good way to make sure that what's being said isn't going to upset or offend anybody.  And while I'm absolutely positive that you always review everything you post to make sure that it meets that standard ;) some others, such as myself, aren't in the habit of doing that and this is what I mean about walking around on eggshells.  Getting into the habit of reviewing a post to make sure it's toxin free is going to take a little time and until that happens I think some of the threads like Weird may seem a little quiet.

As for the forum being Fred's sandbox I respect that and have every intention of playing by the rules.  I shall not crap make a mess in Fred's sandbox.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: svb1972 on June 21, 2010, 04:17:52 PM
There have been a few times where I've seen the full might of the moderators fall on someone and I couldn't figure out why.

perhaps it was because the offending post was deleted or edited before I ever read it.  But sometimes it feels a little random.  That being said, I haven't really changed what I would or would not say on the forum.  Though I have done a better job of resisting Fist of Death.

I'm not so much worried about the Line.. I think for the most part the line is pretty clear.
Although Don't Mess with Texas seems to be a new by word on the forum :)

Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: odin on June 21, 2010, 04:38:47 PM
You know, I've been giving this forum and its changes a lot of thought recently.  I was thinking about it yesterday while driving down my street when I spied a police cruiser turn in right behind me.  I must admit, I immediately sat up in my chair, tried to remember if my tags were current, slowed a bit, and found my hands automatically reach for the ole ten and two.  Before I saw the officer, I was bee-bopping along, listening to music and draining a can of cola, carefree...and maybe just a bit careless.  Were we having more fun in forum, more carefree and bee boppy 6 months ago?  Yes. But some folks weren't paying near enough attention to warnings from mods, mods weren't giving habitual abusers a quick enough of a heave ho the hell outta here and things correspondingly went to hell.  Our once vibrant museum of smart, snarky delight has now had its walls covered in a yuck color of beigey restraint.  There has been a chilling effect.  Then again, maybe some folks needed to chill.  Folks used to have a bit more restraint round here, a natural balance could be felt.  That left somehow and those with little self control and a whole bucketful of bad intentions almost shut this place down for the more community-minded among us.  The whole damn ruckus makes me kind of sad.  Maybe we'll see a decrease in MOD cruisers in our neighborhoods when folks ease up a little with taking this whole fiction thing a bit too seriously and maybe then and only then, we'll be able to be-bop down the road once again.

Honestly, and with all due respect to mods and members alike,

O     
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Elanel on June 21, 2010, 04:51:08 PM
I have lurked more than posted on here. But I've seen some spectacular blowouts in some threads and even seen just how ridiculously far people are willing to go to prove that the mods here are the big bad. But I come at this from experience.

Owning my own web forum for many very loooong years now, I can sympathise with the approach the mods have had to take to bring the board past a period of instability around certain areas of the site. Forums morph into bigger entities over time. It's not a bad thing, especially where this site is concerned. More members, participation and ideas is a good representation of how well Jim's stories are being received by the masses. Unfortunately it can result in 'growing pains' for the site. You get the technical problems with servers unable to accommodate your resulting bandwidth needs and at the same time some of these new members arrive arguing religiously for their "Right to be right". It all results in a slow and unavoidable build up of pressure that let's itself be known sooner or later. It's quite interesting to see how this forum has evolved almost identically to how mine did, in terms of expanding the number of discussion forums and spreading things out for more fun & creativity. You put your members first all the time, but in doing so you effectively give yourself more places to moderate, more work to do and all so you can create a more harmonious atmosphere. It's hardly the act of people who want to stifle debate, in my opinion.

I try to maintain a level head with my site and remind people who tell me they have freedom of speech that it's a privately owned and operated site. Freedom of speech is not denied. I don't tell anyone they can't say something, I only remind people that there are limits and consequences, lines you should avoid crossing. But I'm no-one's parent or guardian. People know full well how they will be received when they start writing snarky, uninvited vitriol. Fine, I say. You made a choice and now I'll make mine, which is almost always a very dispassionate undertaking. The internet is the Wild West of our age and this website like many, many others is a growing township, founded by the Sheriff, with ever-evolving laws that help keep the town in order. As quickly as you check in, you can be checked out and that's how long you are remembered.

And here's the thing, moderators are assumed trigger-happy tools who employ their powers liberally and completely biased toward one side of the debate. Depending on how we judge an issue, we end up sitting in our zen of not being able to do anything right, whilst simultaneously not being able to do any wrong. It's difficult to convey our judgements to members, because you try to respect privacy where you can. You don't publicize what posts are reported for a reason, therefore it's impossible to show every instance where you've acted in the interests of the site, not in the interests of a clique. People will unfortunately form a very one-sided view of you, but you just have to maintain your approach and hope people get why you are doing this, even if they cannot agree with it.

It's a great website, here. Lots of good debates. Wish I had time to post more. The mods here do a great job and the fact they are willing to hear us out, to allow peoples voices to be heard if there are issues is better than a lot of places that would slam a door in your face and ban you for nothing more that suggesting a decision was wrong. No one is infallible, we all make mistakes, so the opportunity to be seen & heard is a vital one for any growing community.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on June 21, 2010, 05:20:20 PM
There have been a few times where I've seen the full might of the moderators fall on someone and I couldn't figure out why.

perhaps it was because the offending post was deleted or edited before I ever read it.  But sometimes it feels a little random.  That being said, I haven't really changed what I would or would not say on the forum.  Though I have done a better job of resisting Fist of Death.

I'm not so much worried about the Line.. I think for the most part the line is pretty clear.
Although Don't Mess with Texas seems to be a new by word on the forum :)

Frequently there will be a pattern of behavior on different areas of the forum.  An out of line crack on the thread dedicated to ham worship, an out of line remark on a spoiler section dedicated to how the Accords regulate Harry's sock drawer, etc, and a week before that an out of line comment on yet another thread.  The issues can occur all over the place where no individual member of mod might spot the matter, but we pull things together and compare notes.  We don't just look at a single poster's behavior in one section or on one topic, but their overall activity.  Eventually someone gets the "we've asked nice, the boy just don't get it" award.  It might seem like a random banhammer for one comment, but it's often something the person's been working towards for a while. 

Also, sometimes it can be just a case someone reverting to old behaviour they've been "corrected" on in the past.  A single infraction can win a vacation if it's bad enough, or occurs after the Enough of This Bullshit Lamp has been lit because of similar infractions of the same sort.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: the neurovore of Zur-En-Aargh on June 21, 2010, 05:26:05 PM
I kind of regret that the way things were set up before didn't work out; there were debates in TT that I really enjoyed, both for the joy of reasoned argument and for being enlightening and informative and helping me refine some of my own positions.  That said, I'm very aware of it being Fred's forum, and of Jim's expressed preferences, and not at all meaning to push on that. Just a bit wistful.

Wrt the on-topic parts of the forum, I'm well aware that the level of analysis and speculation I most enjoy is not something everyone enjoys - IIRC one of the motives for starting the Book Club forum in the first place was people wanting to have discussions not doing that.  And there have been a couple of times where that intensity of focus has read to other posters as antagonistic; which is very much not my intent, and for which I have apologised when I have realised it was being read that way. 

So in terms of telling where "the line" is, it's not always clear to me where the distinction will be perceived between engaging with an argument in detail in order to test the consequences of a new idea and see where it fits with other things we know about the DV, and what will be seen as antagonistic nitpicking.  Or rather, to me personally, the more time, energy and focus someone puts into giving an idea of mine a thorough workout, the more I feel that person is showing me respect, however vehemently they may disagree with me. If I, as Shecky suggested, completely remove my personal knowledge of the other poster, that is how one takes an idea seriously.  And there does seem to me a qualitative distinction between that and, say, calling someone who disagrees with you an imbecile.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Curly on June 21, 2010, 06:46:01 PM
So have at it!  How do you feel about the changes?

I'm disappointed that the mods felt that Touchy Topics was untenable. I enjoyed the banter and the exchange of viewpoints that the board allowed, and I enjoyed the relaxed atmosphere that I felt was given to Touchy Topics by the rest of the forum. I understand the problems involved but I disagree with the solution provided.

I feel slightly nervous about posting now because, although I haven't to my knowledge received a moderator spanking, I feel that my efforts to remain polite may not come across very well, and could easily go unrecognised, when I respond to interpretations of my viewpoints.


As I've said, I don't remember having been reprimanded before and so think that I  do not come across as aggressive or insensitive, so I would like to suggest that there are perhaps some posters that are overly sensitive, venture intimate details of their life, open themselves up to criticism that they would rather not receive and then complain about the "treatment" they receive.

I recognise that aggressive and insensitive posters cannot be allowed to bring down the good humour and fun atmosphere of the forum, but I'd like to point out that those who cannot cope with differing opinions on their life choices should also be encouraged to abstain from posting their private distresses, quibbles, philosophies etc if they simply want a chorus of "Seconded"s and "I bow to your touching anecdote"s.

I'm not sure if there's a nice latin phrase for what seems to me like "reverse ad hominem attacks", but it definitely seems like stabbing yourself to shame others into surrender is becoming a favorite tactic for ending a conversation, as it generally sucks the fun out of a conversation just as effectively as diving into another's personal life, but without the effect of being considered a "guilty party".

I like the boards as much as any child in Disneyland, but at some point you have to get away from Mickey, go somewhere less noisy with a glass of wine and some adult conversation. It'd be convenient if that place was in close proximity, but I understand if you don't want it in the park.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Warden John Marcone on June 21, 2010, 07:42:00 PM
This is what I had to say:

I'll just stick my two cents into the quiet discussion.  I got slapped by the banhammer's softie baby brother the banruler.  I know WHY I got slapped by the banruler (or at least I suspect what got me put in the group of banee's).  I will henceforth avoid such behaviors so as to avoid banruler passing me off to tough guy big bro.  That doesn't mean I'm going to say nothing or tip-toe on eggshells.  That means I'm going to embrace the new regime and find just as many ways as possible to party in Moscow, jump on the beds in Milan, run on the grass fields in Kansas, race through the sand on dunebuggies in the Sahara, claim I've been to Hell and back (It gets HOT in the Caymans)_and just have as much FUN as possible, all while looking exceptionally stylish in my $5000 suits and making a huge profit running my LOLcat Criminal Empire in the wacky fun world we call the Jum Botcher Biards.  And I reserve teh right to keep any typos I make while on a soapbox tangent and mangle words almost beyond recognition and expect at least two comments on just how badly I messed up Jim Butcher Boards.  Just because we can't spill blood doesn't mean we can't have fun.

*steps off soapbox and leaps up wall to mouth of volcano, snags rope ladder and flies away in a helecopter to wherever I decide to stop in the world*

I'll admit that every once in a while I slip, such as my comment in the World Cup thread (since changed).  Rather than get slapped down for it, I was politely asked to revise it.  I like how the changes are working.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Amber on June 21, 2010, 10:54:38 PM
I like the structure of the boards now.  The compartmentalized topics make it very easy to pick through the types of things that I like to read, and the types of things that I don't.

The modding has seemed kind of random to me for a long time, so I just avoid contributing anything substantive to the boards.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: meh on June 21, 2010, 11:30:02 PM

I feel that the current, revised moderation policy leaves large loopholes for thinly veiled personal jabs to slip through, and doesn't do much to address QSRI.

Furthermore,  dubious posting gambits, including strawman arguments, including arguments from personal incredulity, including arguments from ignorance, including arguments of verbosity  and red herrings, are still win buttons.

Therefore, while I understand the goal and while I respect the work being done by the mods,  I feel that the current forum structure  is still  just as unstable in itself as the last version was.

Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on June 21, 2010, 11:40:04 PM
Simple fact is, we will never be able to police everything.  There aren't enough of us to be the Debate Procedural Fact Police in every occassion.  So we focus on the worst case behavior, and address issues as people bring them to us.  Rudeness, disrespectful and offensive behaviour, etc. 

Sometimes, a body just plain doesn't like how another body argues.  Sometimes we just don't like the cut of their jib.  "Alpha Fox 6, Do NOT engage!  Repeat, do NOT engage!"  If somebody's being rude, disrespectful, report them.  But if someone just gets on your nerves because you feel their approach to a debate is improper, then don't try to win a pissing contest with a skunk.  Now, if that skunk follows you all around the damn place and is clearly acting like Max Cady in Cape Fear, jumping on everything you say... then you could have an issue to bring us.   
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Niccos Shadow on June 21, 2010, 11:41:25 PM
Disclaimer: I primarily stick to the Spoiler sections so I'm likely uninformed about a lot of things people are talking about here.

I think the rules are perfectly acceptable and I believe that by posting we are accepting and agreeing to comply with said rules/policies. However, the enforcement is sometimes lacking. Below are a few examples of what I mean:

I'm not saying these problems occur every time a mod/admin steps in. I'm merely commenting on things I have seen in those posts I have actually read, which I see as an issue.

One problem I see is sometimes Mods / Admins jump in with a remark that is, in my opinion, more snide / rude/ offensive than anything previously posted in the thread to 'warn' people that they are beginning to go down the path that will result in a Ban / Suspension / locked thread. I think it would be better in these instances for mods/admins to just PM the offending poster(s). And I understand it gets frustrating to 'police' forums, but if mods/admins lose their cool and make the same kind of posts they're trying to prevent, it doesn't really solve anything.

Another problem is when the mod/admin intervention is vague and directed at an entire thread in general. There's a difference between a friendly heated debate and a rude heated debate. There's been a few thread I was involved in in which I felt people were doing an excellent job at keeping the text passive. But after Mods/Admins jumped in, I found myself re-reading all the posts trying to find the hidden jabs and such. It kind of promotes a sense of paranoia. I don't really agree with calling people out in the open, but if you're going to jump in and slap down a thread/debate in the open, might as well be specific.

Also, when 3 + Mods jump a thread within the course of a few hours before anyone else even comments. I understand the need for authority figures to support each other, but sometimes it comes off more like people just throwing their weight around. I think if one mod is handling it and people are complying, there's no reason for 2 or more to also jump in with a bunch of caps locked threats, etc.

Also , going back to the non-specific comments. I've seen cases where multiple threads have equal "heat values", but only one gets slapped down. And since it's not specifically clear on why that one was selected to get slapped down, it tends to make one wonder if it the choice had as much to do with the posters involved as it did with the actual posts. This (I hope) is simply a by-product of not knowing exactly why one thread is being moderated and not the other(s), but as it stands it leaves a lot to interpretation.

Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: meh on June 21, 2010, 11:57:33 PM
Simple fact is, we will never be able to police everything.  There aren't enough of us to be the Debate Procedural Fact Police in every occassion.  So we focus on the worst case behavior, and address issues as people bring them to us.  Rudeness, disrespectful and offensive behaviour, etc. 

Sometimes, a body just plain doesn't like how another body argues.  Sometimes we just don't like the cut of their jib.  "Alpha Fox 6, Do NOT engage!  Repeat, do NOT engage!"  If somebody's being rude, disrespectful, report them.  But if someone just gets on your nerves because you feel their approach to a debate is improper, then don't try to win a pissing contest with a skunk.  Now, if that skunk follows you all around the damn place and is clearly acting like Max Cady in Cape Fear, jumping on everything you say... then you could have an issue to bring us.   

Oh, I understand all this quite well.       I don't expect there to be a stick to punish each and every offender.   

I am rather pointing out that there are no more carrots than there were before.    :)
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Starbeam on June 22, 2010, 12:05:33 AM
Also , going back to the non-specific comments. I've seen cases where multiple threads have equal "heat values", but only one gets slapped down. And since it's not specifically clear on why that one was selected to get slapped down, it tends to make one wonder if it the choice had as much to do with the posters involved as it did with the actual posts. This (I hope) is simply a by-product of not knowing exactly why one thread is being moderated and not the other(s), but as it stands it leaves a lot to interpretation.


For this particular instance, it could possibly be that one thread was reported while others were not.  There are so many quick moving threads in the spoilers section, that it's likely very difficult to keep track of what's being said and done where.  Which is why the mods say to report any problems.  They likely won't know about it until it's reported.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Niccos Shadow on June 22, 2010, 12:12:58 AM
For this particular instance, it could possibly be that one thread was reported while others were not. 

This makes sense.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Noey on June 22, 2010, 12:22:56 AM
If I have nothing positive to contribute, then I don't contribute, and I've never had a problem. All the mods are asking is that people stop and think. I also don't trouble myself with needing to know why one thread's being moderated and another isn't, because that's the mods' business, and they're welcome to it. We aren't going to see every single thing that happens. Like PG said, sometimes it's an accumulation, or like Starbeam pointed out it could be that only the one thread was reported, and I'm too busy getting squeeful about glitter in Weird and MSL's awesome Molly switcheroo theory to make it my business. A little bit of trust and a little bit of understanding that mods are people too can go a long way, I think.

I mean, honestly, the new rules really come down to common courtesy. That's all it is. There's no need for paranoia. Just implement Wil Wheaton's rule, and it's all good.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on June 22, 2010, 12:29:08 AM
Another factor to remember is that while 3 threads might have the same "heat value", if one of those threads has a post from someone with a history of playing with matches, that someone is going to get more attention.

One of the reasons for the public warnings is we're trying to make sure everyone understands the new standards of decorum.  Say Mickey PM's me because I'm being a big too vulgar, asks me to please not use my peers so familiar... I might ammend my behavior but others will keep doing it until they each get their own PM on the issue.  That's a lot of PM's.  But if Mickey comes over and roasts my ass, Prisc kicks dirt on it, Ashton makes me eat it, then everybody gets that calling someone a
(click to show/hide)
is a big old No Go.  Nobody likes getting their balls busted, much less in public, but we're trying to salvage a forum that was going south of cheese in a number of ways.  I can assure you there is no shortage of gentle PM advice and suggestion, but we don't always have time for it.  

Now, for us Baby Moderaptors, if you feel we make a comment or correction that's over the top or out of line, talk to Iago.  He wants to grade our driving, and needs to know if we need correction, or to be sent to play with Old Yeller.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on June 22, 2010, 12:36:31 AM
Oh, I understand all this quite well.       I don't expect there to be a stick to punish each and every offender.   

I am rather pointing out that there are no more carrots than there were before.    :)

We all pretty much have to bring our own carrots I'm afraid.  Encourage the good stuff, the grown up, the positive, the supportive when you see it.  You think somebody handles something well, defuses something that was getting a little to vinagery, send 'em a PM saying "Hey, good job with that, right decent of you."  Be courteous and classy when even when someone else isn't.  Your own credibility in debate will increase, and theirs will dwindle, people will be more interested in engaging you on your terms, and less in listening to some passive-aggressive braying.

Considering I was one of the more ill tempered posters back in the TT days, I'm getting a little dizzy and think I'll take a drink.

Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Rue-Sal on June 22, 2010, 12:45:19 AM
Considering I was one of the more ill tempered posters back in the TT days, I'm getting a little dizzy and think I'll take a drink.

Remember kids friends don't let friends mod drunk.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on June 22, 2010, 12:47:58 AM
10 Cane Rum.  It's sipping rum, not shooting rum. 

Besides, I don't get Happy Fun Drunk any more.  I go from "ah, a mite tipsy" straight to "Oh Gawd, pls kill meh... pleeeese..."

Can't drink proper no more, it's a crying shame.  Time wounds all heels I guess.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Myyrdn Eopia on June 22, 2010, 01:24:54 AM
Remember kids friends don't let friends mod drunk.

HAH.  Tell that to the game servers I moderate with a group.  One guy gets drunk off his butt more often than not. 


On a more serious note, I realize that many times when I post moderating comments, it can be taken as rude.  That's not my intention—I'm just not as eloquent about it as PG, Priscellie, and the others are about it.  That's partly due to my background, and force of habit—to say it as concisely as possible, with small and easily understandable words.  Messages that can be read in 3-4 seconds, usually.  Blunt, to the point, and yes, able to be taken as rude.  It's a flaw I have, and I'll work on it.  Thanks for pointing it out, guys.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Shecky on June 22, 2010, 01:25:50 AM
For this particular instance, it could possibly be that one thread was reported while others were not.  There are so many quick moving threads in the spoilers section, that it's likely very difficult to keep track of what's being said and done where.  Which is why the mods say to report any problems.  They likely won't know about it until it's reported.

And even more to the point, there are a lot of things going on behind the scenes that simply don't get seen. Mods try to take the long view, and that includes trying to keep up on posters' behavior over time and through multiple sets of stimuli. We ain't perfect. Also, when we see someone who damn well should know better, especially after having gotten a number of friendly reminders or introductory warnings, both public and private, we do tend to get a mite tetchy. Downright rude, even. Or when one mod's tried a non-nuclear public statement and gotten flamingly ignored, the others will pile on.

Combine all the above with, for example, a bunch of off-stage arguing against a request to tone things down, and you've gotten someone who needs to have their attention thoroughly gotten. Does that attention-getting venture over the line itself sometimes? Yup. Consider it similar to "Dammit, son, what the HELL is WRONG with you? You KNOW better."

In short, one poster may see what seems to be a bolt from the blue or a merciless piling-on. Just try to keep in mind that more times than you might think, it's simply the tip of the iceberg, the straw that broke the camel's back.

Sometimes, this stuff's enough to drive me to quit drinkin'. :D
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on June 22, 2010, 01:32:32 AM
Fear the Sober Dwarf.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Niccos Shadow on June 22, 2010, 07:37:28 AM
And even more to the point, there are a lot of things going on behind the scenes that simply don't get seen. Mods try to take the long view, and that includes trying to keep up on posters' behavior over time and through multiple sets of stimuli. We ain't perfect. Also, when we see someone who damn well should know better, especially after having gotten a number of friendly reminders or introductory warnings, both public and private, we do tend to get a mite tetchy. Downright rude, even. Or when one mod's tried a non-nuclear public statement and gotten flamingly ignored, the others will pile on.

Combine all the above with, for example, a bunch of off-stage arguing against a request to tone things down, and you've gotten someone who needs to have their attention thoroughly gotten. Does that attention-getting venture over the line itself sometimes? Yup. Consider it similar to "Dammit, son, what the HELL is WRONG with you? You KNOW better."

In short, one poster may see what seems to be a bolt from the blue or a merciless piling-on. Just try to keep in mind that more times than you might think, it's simply the tip of the iceberg, the straw that broke the camel's back.

Sometimes, this stuff's enough to drive me to quit drinkin'. :D

This makes sense too. But "tip of the iceberg" or not, it's still wrong IMO. "One law for the ruled, another for the ruler" isn't going to work if you expect the members not to grumble and eventually disperse.And there is the whole "lead by example" thing. My understanding of the policies/rules is that there isn't any justification for violating the rules.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Shecky on June 22, 2010, 10:39:28 AM
This makes sense too. But "tip of the iceberg" or not, it's still wrong IMO. "One law for the ruled, another for the ruler" isn't going to work if you expect the members not to grumble and eventually disperse.And there is the whole "lead by example" thing. My understanding of the policies/rules is that there isn't any justification for violating the rules.

That's as may be. Why, then, do the rules keep getting violated when mods ask pretty please with sugar on top over and over and over again? I don't like coming down harshly on an offender. I've never liked it. It would be easier and probably more efficient just to ban the offender; the extra effort to get through to the person seems like such a waste when most offenders just wind themselves up more over the affront of being called to task for their actions. In short, the rules' enforcers following their own enforced rules to the letter rarely works. It would be simpler all around just to ban the offenders outright instead of trying extreme ways to get through to them.

Wouldn't it? Shouldn't we just follow the rules rigidly and never go above and beyond to try to supply that cosmic cold-water-in-the-face in order to persuade a person to do the right thing?
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: the neurovore of Zur-En-Aargh on June 22, 2010, 04:09:41 PM
This makes sense too. But "tip of the iceberg" or not, it's still wrong IMO. "One law for the ruled, another for the ruler" isn't going to work if you expect the members not to grumble and eventually disperse.

It's fine by me, speaking as one of the ruled in this metaphor, for what that may be worth; I do not see that, as a poster and participant who is not a mod, not temperamentally suited to be a mod, and not taking on the responsibilities of being a mod, that I have necessarily earned exactly the same rights as someone who is contributing all the extra work the mods do has.

There's a basic information dynamic here that I don't think is superable.  If you know from their past ten thousand posts that someone is generally a civilised and constructive poster, it gives you information to allow you to know that three hot-tempered posts on one day are most likely just a bad day.  It's not possible to make as informed a judgement when those three posts are the only interaction that person has from the board, so it seems unreasonable to me to expect the standard  to be the same.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: the neurovore of Zur-En-Aargh on June 22, 2010, 04:13:45 PM
One of the reasons for the public warnings is we're trying to make sure everyone understands the new standards of decorum.  Say Mickey PM's me because I'm being a big too vulgar, asks me to please not use my peers so familiar... I might ammend my behavior but others will keep doing it until they each get their own PM on the issue.  That's a lot of PM's.  But if Mickey comes over and roasts my ass, Prisc kicks dirt on it, Ashton makes me eat it, then everybody gets that calling someone a
(click to show/hide)
is a big old No Go.

It seems to me that if a thread is locked in the latter case, with a fairly severe warning as the last post in it, it doesn't leave any immediately obvious way to say "Message received" and/or apologise if one has crossed a line in error.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Warden John Marcone on June 22, 2010, 04:18:09 PM
I think a good rule of thumb is to remember that the "Report" button is your friend.  If three threads have equal heat and only one is hosed down, most cases it's because nobody reported the other two.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Shecky on June 22, 2010, 04:33:27 PM
It seems to me that if a thread is locked in the latter case, with a fairly severe warning as the last post in it, it doesn't leave any immediately obvious way to say "Message received" and/or apologise if one has crossed a line in error.

PMs suffice. In fact, in the case of a thread that's gotten so toxic that it needs to be shut down, PMs are BETTER than open-forum apologies/acknowledgements; allowing anyone to reply at that point, when emotions are highest, is tantamount to playing with fire. Best to remove the temptation.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Enjorous on June 22, 2010, 04:41:08 PM
PMs suffice. In fact, in the case of a thread that's gotten so toxic that it needs to be shut down, PMs are BETTER than open-forum apologies/acknowledgements; allowing anyone to reply at that point, when emotions are highest, is tantamount to playing with fire when everyone is covered in gasoline. Best to remove the temptation.

Fixed in my opinion.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Niccos Shadow on June 22, 2010, 06:05:59 PM
That's as may be. Why, then, do the rules keep getting violated when mods ask pretty please with sugar on top over and over and over again? I don't like coming down harshly on an offender. I've never liked it. It would be easier and probably more efficient just to ban the offender; the extra effort to get through to the person seems like such a waste when most offenders just wind themselves up more over the affront of being called to task for their actions. In short, the rules' enforcers following their own enforced rules to the letter rarely works. It would be simpler all around just to ban the offenders outright instead of trying extreme ways to get through to them.

Wouldn't it? Shouldn't we just follow the rules rigidly and never go above and beyond to try to supply that cosmic cold-water-in-the-face in order to persuade a person to do the right thing?

There's nothing wrong with the cold-water-in-the-face. I mean, if someone slips up a few times over the course of thousands of posts, there's nothing wrong with a polite slap on the wrist. But if it goes to the point where an admin/mod feels the only way to get through to the offending person is by "stooping to their level", I think a ban (even a temporary one) is in order.

I like the debates, but I don't want to see them dissolve into petty bickering any more than the next person. But, at the same time, I don't want to read constant exasperated "I'm so sick of you people" posts by admins. It boils down to either the offending poster(s) that are annoying said admin(s) need to be banned, or said admin(s) are over reacting. If the former is correct then ban the offending poster(s) and let the forum be happier for it. If it's the latter, then perhaps said admin(s) require some cold-water-in-the-face as well.

In all honesty, there has been a few times in which I actually considered hitting the "report to moderator" button on admin posts to point out these things. But frankly, I thought it might cause more problems than it solved. Not because I doubted the validity of my claim, but because the temperament of the post left me expecting a response of "don't like how things are done, leave".
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Warden John Marcone on June 22, 2010, 06:13:46 PM
That's as may be. Why, then, do the rules keep getting violated when mods ask pretty please with sugar on top over and over and over again? I don't like coming down harshly on an offender. I've never liked it. It would be easier and probably more efficient just to ban the offender; the extra effort to get through to the person seems like such a waste when most offenders just wind themselves up more over the affront of being called to task for their actions.

The example I call to refute this is myself.  Ask any of the regular posters from when I joined, I was one of the nastiest SOB's around.  A good chewing out from when I stepped over the line once too often, a good knock over the head for smarting off, and I shaped up (I like to think) into the sort of guy that loves to be around and people like having around.  If I'd been banned outright when I stepped over, it wouldn't have happened, I'd have stayed a beligerant smartass.  I understand that I'm the exception, but (again, I like to think) it's the exception that proves the rule.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Shecky on June 22, 2010, 06:27:32 PM
The example I call to refute this is myself.  Ask any of the regular posters from when I joined, I was one of the nastiest SOB's around.  A good chewing out from when I stepped over the line once too often, a good knock over the head for smarting off, and I shaped up (I like to think) into the sort of guy that loves to be around and people like having around.  If I'd been banned outright when I stepped over, it wouldn't have happened, I'd have stayed a beligerant smartass.  I understand that I'm the exception, but (again, I like to think) it's the exception that proves the rule.

(Psst: The bit you were responding to was preceded by "It would be easier...")

There's nothing wrong with the cold-water-in-the-face. I mean, if someone slips up a few times over the course of thousands of posts, there's nothing wrong with a polite slap on the wrist. But if it goes to the point where an admin/mod feels the only way to get through to the offending person is by "stooping to their level", I think a ban (even a temporary one) is in order.

I like the debates, but I don't want to see them dissolve into petty bickering any more than the next person. But, at the same time, I don't want to read constant exasperated "I'm so sick of you people" posts by admins. It boils down to either the offending poster(s) that are annoying said admin(s) need to be banned, or said admin(s) are over reacting. If the former is correct then ban the offending poster(s) and let the forum be happier for it. If it's the latter, then perhaps said admin(s) require some cold-water-in-the-face as well.

In all honesty, there has been a few times in which I actually considered hitting the "report to moderator" button on admin posts to point out these things. But frankly, I thought it might cause more problems than it solved. Not because I doubted the validity of my claim, but because the temperament of the post left me expecting a response of "don't like how things are done, leave".


Prejudice. Literally. You're assuming that a major chewing-out of one person who's stepped WAY over the line is going to equate to your getting pissed on if you pose a reasonable, private question to the mod. Plus, and I repeat, you still don't have anywhere nearly all the information. I've SEEN massive chewings-out. They're a sort of compliment - they mean that the person getting chewed out at least seems to have the POSSIBILITY of straightening up and flying right, becoming a contributing member of the forum. WJM is a perfect example. He was (sorry, WJM, but I think you'll agree) pretty damn dickish. He got a thorough chewing-out and now he's a member in fine standing here - because, as he said, he didn't just negligently get booted but was actually ADDRESSED, actually given more than just "You screwed up" to show him how and how BADLY he had stepped over the line.

This goes hand in hand with how you don't "want to read constant exasperated 'I'm so sick of you people' posts by admins" honestly misses the point. Yeah, the mods could just boot people. Do you really think they'll learn? Especially when they're repeat offenders who have more than once entirely missed the point about HOW they're offensive? If a punishment is to have any effectiveness, it must be strong enough to catch and HOLD the attention of the person receiving it. They have to know in absolutely NO uncertain terms WHAT they did, WHY it's wrong and WHY it's not fit for polite society. And when there's a whole freakin' flood of people doing that, are you honestly surprised that there are "I'm so sick of you people" mod posts?

And finally, aren't you exaggerating a lot with the "constant" description? Happened a handful of times, and anyone who honestly claims that those times were quiet and peaceful and NOT exasperating as hell needs to see a surgeon to fix that rectocranial inversion. :D
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Niccos Shadow on June 22, 2010, 07:18:19 PM
You're assuming that a major chewing-out of one person who's stepped WAY over the line is going to equate to your getting pissed on if you pose a reasonable, private question to the mod.

Threats are designed to cause fear, it's unreasonable to make open ban-threats directed at a thread at large and then expect people to accurately interpret who they were meant for. Personally, in those instances, I assume that everyone is included in said threat/warning regardless of having violated rules or not. I'm not a mind reader, it's not up to me to assume or figure out who was being chastised and who wasn't. So I find it only reasonable for me to make that assumption.

Plus, and I repeat, you still don't have anywhere nearly all the information. I've SEEN massive chewings-out. They're a sort of compliment - they mean that the person getting chewed out at least seems to have the POSSIBILITY of straightening up and flying right, becoming a contributing member of the forum. WJM is a perfect example. He was (sorry, WJM, but I think you'll agree) pretty damn dickish. He got a thorough chewing-out and now he's a member in fine standing here - because, as he said, he didn't just negligently get booted but was actually ADDRESSED, actually given more than just "You screwed up" to show him how and how BADLY he had stepped over the line.

This goes hand in hand with how you don't "want to read constant exasperated 'I'm so sick of you people' posts by admins" honestly misses the point. Yeah, the mods could just boot people. Do you really think they'll learn? Especially when they're repeat offenders who have more than once entirely missed the point about HOW they're offensive? If a punishment is to have any effectiveness, it must be strong enough to catch and HOLD the attention of the person receiving it. They have to know in absolutely NO uncertain terms WHAT they did, WHY it's wrong and WHY it's not fit for polite society. And when there's a whole freakin' flood of people doing that, are you honestly surprised that there are "I'm so sick of you people" mod posts?

And finally, aren't you exaggerating a lot with the "constant" description? Happened a handful of times, and anyone who honestly claims that those times were quiet and peaceful and NOT exasperating as hell needs to see a surgeon to fix that rectocranial inversion. :D

I can't really comment on the example of WJM since I didn't witness the events in question. However, whether or not I have all the information is irrelevant if I'm being subjected to the end result. Keep in mind, I'm not passing a judgment which requires me to have the full information, I'm commenting on things which admins/mods have chosen to expose me to by openly posting it.

Even if member_01 went off calling me every name under the sun resulting in me reporting the post, I still would have no desire to witness a mod/admin beat them down. And if an open post was required by said mod/admin, I would prefer it to be assertive yet still mature and respectful. I don't believe in calling in a bigger bully to beat up the smaller bully; if they're both bullies, they're both wrong.

As to my use of the term "constant", I believe it was fitting in regards to posting proportions. For example: if admin/mod_01 makes 10 administrative posts in a week and 9 of those are offensive, I'd call that constant. And in my opinion, this has been the case in some instances, maybe not throughout the course of a week, but the example is still valid.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Shecky on June 22, 2010, 07:31:49 PM
An "open ban-threat" means one of two things: 1) there were multiple offenders and the mod doesn't want to single any one of them out for fear of being accused of favoritism or 2) there were more offenders than not. And if you can't figure out whether your posts were or weren't in line with the rules, chances are they weren't - you don't have to be a mind-reader, just a reader. And yes, it IS up to you to analyze your OWN actions. This is not a hand-holding pre-school; it's alleged to be a congress of adults who are self-aware and, hopefully, able to be self-critical. The rules have been laid out pretty clearly, and it's, frankly, kind of small to refuse to self-examine. A participant in any group has just as much obligation to be a contributing part of the group as the group has to the participant.

*shrug* It's been explained by multiple mods to great extent; if you still choose to believe it to be bullying or offensive in light of those explanations, that's certainly your right. I'd still like to see specific examples instead of broad brushstrokes.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Niccos Shadow on June 22, 2010, 08:05:50 PM
And if you can't figure out whether your posts were or weren't in line with the rules, chances are they weren't - you don't have to be a mind-reader, just a reader. And yes, it IS up to you to analyze your OWN actions.

I acknowledge the fact that it's possible for someone to read a problem with one of my posts even if I can't imagine what the problem was. I can proof read a post 1,000 times but since we're communicating solely through text, it's not going to guarantee that someone wont find an issue with it. If i do something wrong, I personally have no problem accepting the consequences, but it's only right that I be told what I did wrong. Honestly, I don't know if I've annoyed any mode/admins or not. I've never been contacted directly about anything, but a few debates i was involved in have been generally stepped on. So do I assume I was right and continue on as I was, or do I try to completely change the way I normally explain myself to be on the safe side?

Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Shecky on June 22, 2010, 08:14:22 PM
I acknowledge the fact that it's possible for someone to read a problem with one of my posts even if I can't imagine what the problem was. I can proof read a post 1,000 times but since we're communicating solely through text, it's not going to guarantee that someone wont find an issue with it. If i do something wrong, I personally have no problem accepting the consequences, but it's only right that I be told what I did wrong. Honestly, I don't know if I've annoyed any mode/admins or not. I've never been contacted directly about anything, but a few debates i was involved in have been generally stepped on. So do I assume I was right and continue on as I was, or do I try to completely change the way I normally explain myself to be on the safe side?



Don't assume. Never assume. If you can't be certain you're capable of looking at a post objectively, don't make the post. If your grandmother wouldn't call your post rude without knowing it was you, you're probably fine. If she would, then start thinkin'.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on June 22, 2010, 08:19:12 PM
If you haven't gotten a PM or had a mod quote your post in Public Smackdown Reply, then you're probably ok, just a bystander who got some splash.  Although if your tone of voice was rising along with everyone else's in the thread that got Mod Swarmed, then it'll be a good idea to gentle it down some.  

If you have to ask yourself, "Do I need to relax this thing?", then the answer is probably "Yep."  
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Katty on June 22, 2010, 08:50:05 PM
Prejudice. Literally. You're assuming that a major chewing-out of one person who's stepped WAY over the line is going to equate to your getting pissed on if you pose a reasonable, private question to the mod.

Shecky, this is the crux of the problem, and one that I think the mods are having a hard time understanding.  Yes, we think that.  I can certainly say I think that.  Because the "on-air" modding in the threads tends more towards the heavy handed.  (Obvious disclaimer, this is only what I've seen, and I'm sure it's not every moderated thread on here.)  It tends towards the snarky.  It tends towards the yelling.  Is there something wrong with that?  Not necessarily, no.  Some people aren't going to get it unless you apply the clue by four upside the head.  And then get a tank to make sure they got it.

However.  That doesn't create a great atmosphere for people to feel like they can PM a mod.  I think it's very possible to be as firm as you need to, and still be polite.  I'm on another board that does this.  If we're not allowed to do something, I don't think the mods should be able to do it in a reply.  Even in an administrative reply.  THAT is what will build a great relationship between all of us.  You don't have to be sweetness and light all the time, but you have to be fair, and you have to be polite. 

I do think that's possible.  I certainly hope it is.  But getting to that point takes time, and requires patience.  On both sides.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Niccos Shadow on June 22, 2010, 09:03:03 PM
I'd still like to see specific examples instead of broad brushstrokes.

I'm not trying to start a public lynching. But since you're a mod and it's my hope that this conversation has some positive result, I PM'd you a few examples.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Amber on June 22, 2010, 09:56:34 PM
Shecky, this is the crux of the problem, and one that I think the mods are having a hard time understanding.  Yes, we think that.  I can certainly say I think that.  Because the "on-air" modding in the threads tends more towards the heavy handed.  (Obvious disclaimer, this is only what I've seen, and I'm sure it's not every moderated thread on here.)  It tends towards the snarky.  It tends towards the yelling.  Is there something wrong with that?  Not necessarily, no.  Some people aren't going to get it unless you apply the clue by four upside the head.  And then get a tank to make sure they got it.


I have personally sent a few notifications, and I always find the mods to be fair and reasonable off-board, even when it seems like they're being heavy-handed and mean on-board.  FWIW.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: ashton on June 23, 2010, 12:01:03 AM
As I'm usually Uncle Heavy, and seem to attract my fair share of complaints about how I operate, I'll just make it clear here: I publically post as a moderator in a thread to indicate that the thread is in my opinion salvageable, but that more than one poster has either come dangerously close to the line or crossed it entirely. It's up to the people in the thread to get it back on track. In general, I try to indicate where and how it's gone off the rails so that people can adjust their behavior accordingly.

When I publically chastise or ban someone, it's an easy way to say "that behavior? Don't be like that." so that everyone can see where the line is and have an object example of what crosses it.

Finally, though, as users of the board, you're just going to have to accept that you won't see the whole story. Very often, what you see is the culmination of a series of actions, starting with gentle correction and ramping up through more aggressive warnings, temp bannings, and finally the Hammer of God. Ask any of the new moderators what it was like having their eyes opened to the behind-the-scenes action that comes with being a moderator, and they can tell you: it's night-and-day. No banning happens in a vacuum, and there's always a back story. Very often, revealing that backstory would be completely counterproductive. In other words, you see a small part of the situation, and that's by choice on the moderators' parts.

That is not going to change.

I think I have about as good a perspective on the moderation here as anyone but Iago, because I was the first assistant moderator drafted back when McAnally's was a mailing list. Moderation here has never and will never be random, whimsical, or prompted by personal grudges on the parts of the moderators. We simply do not operate that way, and any perception of personal bias is, in my considered opinion, a phantom of the imagination.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: OnlyElise on June 23, 2010, 12:14:07 AM
I think it's worth my time to point out that the mods ARE working extremely hard on keeping everything civil; the amount of work that PG puts in every night as I try to drag him to bed is astounding and he's doing it FOR FREE.

That means that he's going through the threads, making sure everything is going along happily, talking to the other mods, figuring out how to deal with good and bad posters, and basically helping this forum to run smoothly, along with all the other mods and minimods. Knowing how much work they're putting into talking to people first, then warning them to stop acting like jackasses, then having to deal with the backwash of ill will when they point out to someone that they're behaving in a way that no one, including Iago, the owner of the site, and Jim, the INSPIRATION of the site, would want to deal with. It's easy to say that everyone understands this is Iago's playground, but when it comes down to it, the mods are doing the best they can to keep the forum civil and happy, so why SHOULDN'T they be able to get a little snarky when someone is just not taking the hint?
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: David one Mutts Friend on June 23, 2010, 12:37:37 AM
No, I really do not like the changes. Maybe because I was painted with the ban hammer brush and feel that no matter what I say it will be looked at more closely than it would have before.

I know how Harry felt with the Doom over him and Morgan looking over his shoulder every second.

David
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Niccos Shadow on June 23, 2010, 12:38:29 AM
If the general response is "This is the way it works, deal with it" and/or "It's ok for mods/admins because their forum experience is more stressful, deal with it". Then what is the point of asking for member feedback?

I understand all too well the work involved. I've seen and dealt with junk in other online communities that make the rudest post I've read here look like a pleasant conversation over tea (including stuff in TT). But I've never seen a forum/community where it was acceptable for the administration to break the same rules they were trying to enforce, regardless of how stressful or burdensome their task becomes.

There's nothing wrong with "Ok, this person was banned because <insert reason>". But there's a big jump between that and "Wow you guys are ignorant children. Stfu or i'll ban you... on second thought, I'll just ban you now!". That kind of thing is unnecessary and promotes the same kind of issues that the administration is trying to prevent. And it just plain looks bad.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: OnlyElise on June 23, 2010, 12:40:49 AM
I'm not a mod, nor is anything I wrote attributed, or approved of, by a mod. I'm saying this is their coloring book. I shall color inside the lines, or I will  need to go get my own coloring book.

As far as favoritism goes, I happen to know that when they feel they may be taking someone's writing too personally, they will hand off the issue to another mod who is detached.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Amber on June 23, 2010, 12:48:07 AM

There's nothing wrong with "Ok, this person was banned because <insert reason>". But there's a big jump between that and "Wow you guys are ignorant children. Stfu or i'll ban you... on second thought, I'll just ban you now!". That kind of thing is unnecessary and promotes the same kind of issues that the administration is trying to prevent. And it just plain looks bad.

This.

I think it's all cool that we don't see what goes on behind the scenes.  We may not see the 250 personal messages asking the person to calm down or the 15 pages of posts between mods discussing what to do.  That really doesn't, however, excuse the mods being nasty and childish themselves when they finally post a banning or a comment in a thread.  I've seen alot of that in the past, though nothing recently, but I just post around media favorites mostly, so I might just be missing the threads.

However, I've not often reported it to Fred when I thought a mod was being childish, etc.  As was said with everyone else's posts... they can't know it's a problem if no one complains.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Katty on June 23, 2010, 12:49:25 AM
Onlyelise,

I don't think anyone here thinks that the mods don't put in a ton of time, and are generally shat upon in general.  (I don't, and let me say publicly I appreciate everything that they do.)  And getting snarky is one thing.  One could argue gentle snark is part of the lifeblood of this board.  Being rude to a poster is another.  My comment was that if a poster isn't allowed to go over the line, neither is a mod.  To do otherwise sets up an "Us vs. Them" mentality, and that doesn't do any of us any good.  

ashton,

Thank you very much for posting.  I do know we often don't see the whole story, and we can form wrong impressions from the part we do see.  How we change that...I'm not sure.  Something to think about and remember, maybe.

I think we're all having growing pains, and we all need to be understanding of each other on both sides.  Because in the end, we're all here because we like the board, the books, and Jim, right?  So there's a way to work through this, IMO.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: OnlyElise on June 23, 2010, 12:50:06 AM

I think we're all having growing pains, and we all need to be understanding of each other on both sides.  Because in the end, we're all here because we like the board, the books, and Jim, right?  So there's a way to work through this, IMO.

Agreed. Everything is going to calm down here, sooner or later. I think we should all try for "sooner."  :)
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on June 23, 2010, 12:50:42 AM
No, I really do not like the changes. Maybe because I was painted with the ban hammer brush and feel that no matter what I say it will be looked at more closely than it would have before.

I know how Harry felt with the Doom over him and Morgan looking over his shoulder every second.

David

Actually there aren't just enough of us to go all Morgan on you or anybody else for that matter.  If somebody has a history of doing the same thing, we look harder when a new complaint hits our box.  And when we get a complaint, if a post is out of line, we'll crawl back over the last day or two's posts by that poster to see if it was an aberration, simple slip up, or a part of an escalating pattern.  There's too much traffic for us to eyeball everythread outside those that we just have an interest in.  Other than that, we don't come running unless somebody calls.  I don't even have the manpower to stalk Mila Jovovich properly, much less any particular forum member.  (One exception being new threads with titles that scream "INCOMING", say something political or likely to cause precludious and dispositional behaviour, like "Will Harry Find Jesus and blow up BP"?  That'll grab our attention Real Good.)  

Point being, nobody's gonna come gunning for you personal like, just be wary of slipping into whatever behaviour was an issue before.  If you think a post might be pushing it, ease up and let it simmer for a while before posting it.   
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: OnlyElise on June 23, 2010, 12:51:36 AM
 I don't even have the manpower to stalk Mila Jovovich properly, much less any particular forum member.

<smacks PG>
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Blaze on June 23, 2010, 12:52:03 AM
Please, keep in mind that your moderators are people, and volunteers.  Please keep in mind that when you have a complaint, and it looks like the Mod is not acting upon it immediately, it is because there may be discussion happening regarding that complaint.  

Also, keep in mind that while you may be sending one mod six PMs, that Mod may have seven other people sending them ten PMs, and some of these may carry an opinion totally contrary to the one that you are voicing.  It takes time for a Mod to read through everyone's opinions, read and reread the thread and posts involved and then make a call.

When I have had to make (or even simply pass on) a decision, I have had people who took it very personally, as if it was an aimed decision.  I have seen that mods are working hard to base all decisions on policy not opinion.

The knee jerk reaction of some people is to be defensive, offensive, angry when they get told that a decision was made that was not in their favor (or just not what they wanted.)  People then cool off after an hour or a day, and then apologize. While this is nice, it really doesn't change the fact that while a Mod is trying to help keep the board functioning, in addition to the TCB PMs, we have to read through the venting PMs, as well as do the job...

Venting is fine.  May I suggest this?  Write your venting PMs and hang on to them for 24 hours.  After that, if you still feel the need to send them to the Mod you took exception to, do so. I think you may find that holding off puts things in perspective.

And if you really think a Mod is not behaving properly, do tell Ashton or Iago!  Because, all the mods are people...  and people are fallible.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on June 23, 2010, 12:57:13 AM
<smacks PG>


Yeah.

I deserved that. 
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: OnlyElise on June 23, 2010, 12:58:16 AM
You totally did.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on June 23, 2010, 12:59:38 AM
This is why our wedding was referred to as Operation Yes Dear.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Katty on June 23, 2010, 01:07:24 AM
So if we have complaints on your modding, PG, we send them to onlyelise?   ;D
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: nthnclls on June 23, 2010, 01:11:04 AM
The forum has gone through a lot of changes lately, like a teenager or caterpillar.  Our goal is to stem the tide of unpleasantness that was choking the forum, making tempers flare and making the forum environment toxic.  We're requiring that folks communicate with a certain level of civility and courtesy, and we're cracking down a lot harder on the kinds of crass, deliberately goading behavior and subject matter that seemed to be the root of the problem.

It's become clear that a number of you are uncomfortable with the actions of some of the moderators, but are afraid to speak up.  That's not good.  We want to make this forum a place where you can enjoy yourself again, not where you're living in fear of the Wrath of Mod.

If you have any suggestions on how better to accomplish this, or if you feel paranoid to bring up any topic at all for fear it'll be labeled TT, LET US KNOW.  We thrive on your feedback.  Share your thoughts here, or PM the mods if you'd rather your words be kept private.  Snide remarks about the mods and admins without specific grievances will not be taken well.  Constructive criticism, however, is welcomed, even if we end up disagreeing with it.  We want folks to take an active interest in making this forum a better place.  When folks whisper behind our backs, we can't exactly do anything to anything to remedy the problem they're whispering about, can we?

So have at it!  How do you feel about the changes?

Honestly, I thought that the forum was very well run and more-or-less free of flames before the recent changes, although that's entirely a matter of personal opinion, and it's Iago's opinion that counts.

However, since the changes, I've only seen one thread-locking that I was a little weirded out by, and that's when a topic in the DF spoilers section was locked because they were arguing about very specific details.  I'm still not sure why that was a problem, when the posters were on topic, even though they were getting very theoretical and delving into minor, almost insignificant details.  It still seemed like discussion of the books to me, which is, afterall, what the section is for...I'll stop now before I go off on a rant.  I'm sorry if this seems too snide, but I'm really not sure how to word it better.

Anyway, that raises the question (for me, at least) of how specific we are allowed to get, since I didn't see much difference between that thread and many others that have taken the same path.

DISCLAIMER:  I'm not a mod on any site, nor have I ever been.  Any site that has me as a mod would probably close within minutes.  :P

Btw, are we allowed to name names on this forum?  For example, could I have actually mentioned people's names in the above paragraph instead of saying "a mod" and "the posters"?  I'm only asking because another forum that's pretty much free swinging is rather strict about no unwanted attention, and I sort of do it out of reflex now...didn't even realize it until I looked back at what I had written.  :P
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Kali on June 23, 2010, 01:17:28 AM
I have noticed almost zero difference.

But I never was the type to go looking for things to get in fights over, and once I identified the drama-seekers and attention hos in the "old" forums, I was quite capable of avoiding them.  I still continue to wistfully long for an "ignore" feature, but I soldier on womanfully.

The only thing I've noticed is a slight increase in some threads being relocated to boards that seem odd.  Once in a while, I've seen a thread locked, was completely unable to determine why it was locked by reading the thread, and there was no explanation given.  This may be uncharitable, but frankly I chalked it up to new middle managers flexing their muscles to prove they have them.  I don't mean to be insulting really, it's just what happens anytime you get a new 'boss'.  They get the job, make a bunch of changes, and after awhile everything settles down as the shiny wears off.

So aside from a slight increase in middle manager syndrome, and that merits nothing more on my part than a smile and a shake of the head, nothing's changed.  All to the good, as far as I'm concerned.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Chiroptera on June 23, 2010, 01:22:56 AM
Quote
The only thing I've noticed is a slight increase in some threads being relocated to boards that seem odd.  Once in a while, I've seen a thread locked, was completely unable to determine why it was locked by reading the thread, and there was no explanation given.  This may be uncharitable, but frankly I chalked it up to new middle managers flexing their muscles to prove they have them.  I don't mean to be insulting really, it's just what happens anytime you get a new 'boss'.  They get the job, make a bunch of changes, and after awhile everything settles down as the shiny wears off.

Some of the threads in The Bar?  If that's what you mean I think it's just due to the "rapid expiration" policy they've taken on the general chatter type threads.  I think they lock them after a week, even if they are active.  It doesn't mean anyone did anything wrong.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on June 23, 2010, 01:42:35 AM
So if we have complaints on your modding, PG, we send them to onlyelise?   ;D

Actually, go to Iago and Co first, they don't scare me as bad.  If you reaaaaaaaally get pissed at me, then tell Elise.  And if she cheeses you off, report the hell out of her, just not to me.

she knows where I sleep.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Priscellie on June 23, 2010, 01:43:12 AM
If the general response is "This is the way it works, deal with it" and/or "It's ok for mods/admins because their forum experience is more stressful, deal with it". Then what is the point of asking for member feedback?

I understand all too well the work involved. I've seen and dealt with junk in other online communities that make the rudest post I've read here look like a pleasant conversation over tea (including stuff in TT). But I've never seen a forum/community where it was acceptable for the administration to break the same rules they were trying to enforce, regardless of how stressful or burdensome their task becomes.

There's nothing wrong with "Ok, this person was banned because <insert reason>". But there's a big jump between that and "Wow you guys are ignorant children. Stfu or i'll ban you... on second thought, I'll just ban you now!". That kind of thing is unnecessary and promotes the same kind of issues that the administration is trying to prevent. And it just plain looks bad.

Why are we asking folks for feedback?  We want to clear the air.  We want folks who are harboring frustration and resentment to come forward and speak their piece, and know that their concerns are being heard and taken into consideration.  We may or may not change our policies, but the knowledge of what mod behavior triggers negative reactions in our membership may inform the way we go about our duties.  And if we can help you folks understand our process, so you might have an appreciation of the complexity of thought and action that goes into our decisions, all the better.

I must say, though, I'm scratching my head over your last paragraph.  Your perception of the level of mod civility on this forum is so wildly different from mine that I don't even know how to approach your complaint.  Can you PM me with a link to the specific example to which you refer?  


The only thing I've noticed is a slight increase in some threads being relocated to boards that seem odd.  Once in a while, I've seen a thread locked, was completely unable to determine why it was locked by reading the thread, and there was no explanation given.  This may be uncharitable, but frankly I chalked it up to new middle managers flexing their muscles to prove they have them.  I don't mean to be insulting really, it's just what happens anytime you get a new 'boss'.  They get the job, make a bunch of changes, and after awhile everything settles down as the shiny wears off.

That's part of the automated thread-cleanup initiative.  Threads of a certain age are locked, then eventually deleted.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Myyrdn Eopia on June 23, 2010, 01:45:24 AM
Okay, first off, I know that while I'm not exactly new, I've also not built up a reputation like the others—which has led to some questioning why I was asked to bartend.  Which also means people aren't sure of my personality, or how I generally react to posts, PMs, etc.

Fair enough.

That being said, you don't know until you try.  In my earlier post, I recognized and apologized for a couple of my flaws—I'm only human, after all—and have given those some thought over the past couple days.

As to the specific and non-specific warning posts, there are a couple reasons, voiced by other mods, which I will [try to] reiterate here, for sake of clarity.  

For those posts that are general, seeming to be addressed to all posting in a thread:  1) There are a number of offenders, and the mod does not wish to call out all of them, 2) the topic of the thread has derailed to a Touchy Topic or otherwise, and 3) quips and gibes at other posters can be implied from comments.

1.  In these scenarios, it is up to the member to determine in their best judgment whether or not anything they said could be taken as over the line.  Such a judgment is not always black and white, yes and no; it is again up to the poster to determine if they are out of line, and if so, how far out of line they are.  If you are still unsure as to whether you were out of line, send the mod a PM asking if it was or not.

2.  In the one occasion I have had to post about this, yes, it was a reiteration of something another barkeep had already said.  But that was due in part to some of the members posting after the barkeep's comment either didn't read his statement, or ignored it, at which point I added a reminder.

3.  The cases I have seen of this have been fairly one-sided, though just as often, both parties are contributing.  In these cases, oftentimes I will post a comment as well as send a PM.  Overkill?  Maybe.  Something else for me to think about.

As to the sheer amount of moderating posts being made, keep in mind what Iago said.  The boards did not immediately revert to the level of moderation before the renovation.  On the contrary, he made it very clear [to me, anway] that there would be an increase in moderation over the course of a month or so, and an increased awareness of potential fires.  Which is why some campfires have been stamped on—the attempt to prevent another forest fire.

Myyr
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on June 23, 2010, 01:46:31 AM
I have noticed almost zero difference.

But I never was the type to go looking for things to get in fights over, and once I identified the drama-seekers and attention hos in the "old" forums, I was quite capable of avoiding them.  I still continue to wistfully long for an "ignore" feature, but I soldier on womanfully.

The only thing I've noticed is a slight increase in some threads being relocated to boards that seem odd.  Once in a while, I've seen a thread locked, was completely unable to determine why it was locked by reading the thread, and there was no explanation given.  This may be uncharitable, but frankly I chalked it up to new middle managers flexing their muscles to prove they have them.  I don't mean to be insulting really, it's just what happens anytime you get a new 'boss'.  They get the job, make a bunch of changes, and after awhile everything settles down as the shiny wears off.

So aside from a slight increase in middle manager syndrome, and that merits nothing more on my part than a smile and a shake of the head, nothing's changed.  All to the good, as far as I'm concerned.

Actually, we Bartenders can only lock or modify threads in the Bar.  Not in "Mac's" or any of the other sections like "Spoilers" and the like.  Outside that  http://www.jimbutcheronline.com/bb/index.php/board,1.0.html , it's The Bigg'ns.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Myyrdn Eopia on June 23, 2010, 01:47:43 AM
Actually, we Bartenders can only lock or modify threads in the Bar.  Not in "Mac's" or any of the other sections like "Spoilers" and the like.  Outside that  http://www.jimbutcheronline.com/bb/index.php/board,1.0.html , it's The Bigg'ns.

Except for Blaze, who lairs in the "I Made an Art" board, and myself in the FAQ boards.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on June 23, 2010, 01:58:37 AM
I stand corrected.

Even so, I remain infallible and mad with power.  At least in the Bar.  Well, a little bit anyway.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Mickey Finn on June 23, 2010, 02:36:45 AM
"Honestly, I don't know if I've annoyed any mode/admins or not."

I can state unequivocally that you have not annoyed me.

A few points:

*I've been fairly sparse from the public side of the boards the past month due to work (and this will likely continue another few weeks), but I've been poking around behind the scenes and I can say that IMHO, the bartenders have not been flexing their muscles and are very wary of appearing to be doing so. I say IMHO because I'm not seeing all their modding posts, just their comments and questions in the back. As noted, if anyone has any concerns, raise them.

*People seem to have zero problems sending me a PM as a mod. (On a side note, I'm giving another shout out that if there's a code issue, don't PM me, I have no access, that's Iago & Priscilla)

*If you ever consider the boards may turn into our private stomping ground, there's something you need to remember...the rules of play nice trickle down from Jim's wishes. We're held to the same standards, and if it ever became happy-power-mod-trip-ago-go, Jim Would Not Like It. So we do answer to a higher power here, folks. Report it if a mod of any level goes weird. We all have bad days.

Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: nthnclls on June 23, 2010, 02:40:49 AM
Btw, are we allowed to name names on this forum?  For example, could I have actually mentioned people's names in the above paragraph instead of saying "a mod" and "the posters"?  I'm only asking because another forum that's pretty much free swinging is rather strict about no unwanted attention, and I sort of do it out of reflex now...didn't even realize it until I looked back at what I had written.  :P

This is something I would like answered...
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Myyrdn Eopia on June 23, 2010, 02:42:31 AM
This is something I would like answered...

That'd be a question for the full-grown-senior-modling-types.  :D
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Shecky on June 23, 2010, 02:49:05 AM
In short, I've said this privately to a number of people (thanks for the PMs, by the way; it's always best to keep potentially sensitive topics out of the public eye where no one can tick themselves off over something): yes, some mods have occasionally come down extremely hard in a very public, very visible/audible way. I can only assure you that the severity of the public spanking is in direct correlation to the severity of the willfully horrid public behavior. Does this make the forums less of a happy-rainbow, shiny-unicorn place of love? Yes... for that moment. When it happens, it's intentionally done in directly proportional response to the level of the infraction's (or infractions') nastiness - for the purpose of painting in giant, day-glo, Technicolor letters of eldritch fire, "WE'VE TOLD YOU AGAIN AND AGAIN NOT DO NOT FREAKING DO THIS OR WE'LL RIP OFF AN E-BODY PART SELECTED AT RANDOM." Because the approach of "Sir, my deepest regrets go into broaching this sensitive subject with you, but would you be so kind as to grant us the boon of moderating ever so slightly the connotative inflection of your postings? It would seem that all are not quite in harmonious accord with the register of your speech" has already been tried. More than once and in more than one way. Just banning somone simply doesn't have the necessary deterrent effect sometimes; the Big Gesture has to come out to play then.

Because while many seem to think that it's all about the punishment, I can tell you in all honesty that the O-Mods (Original Mods, if you'll pardon my pseudo-hip speech, yo) have the good of the forums overall in the forefront of their minds. And that includes preemptively trying to persuade potential offenders of the folly of importing fresh new attitude when there's already more than enough lurking as it is.

Hell, people, I was one of those people who got the ban-SCUD from over the horizon once. Because I wasn't frakkin' listening when a mod told me more than once that my behavior was clearly and excessively over the line, and I ignored it because of Quivery Self-Righteous Indignation. I took my lumps... and I learned from it. Am I the soul of sweetness, light and reason now? Nah. But I can personally testify that it did make me think twice every time afterwards that I contemplated telling someone exactly what I thought of their Silly Ideas. Sometimes, just sometimes, when the self-appointed victim is hard-headed enough to ignore warnings Because I'm Right, the only thing that's GOING to work is a semi-permanent treadmark on the butt from Ashton's Big Damn Ban-Boots. And I know for a fact that that boot to the head DID get the attention of more than one other person. It works - for the very reason that it's honestly shocking to a lot of people. It gets the necessary attention when nothing else has proven up to the task. It sure worked in my case.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Kali on June 23, 2010, 02:52:33 AM
I stand corrected.

Even so, I remain infallible and mad with power.  At least in the Bar.  Well, a little bit anyway.

You are, it's true.  But since your avatar is from the best, weirdest Angel ever, we forgive you.

I'll try to make a note of the next quietly-and-inexplicably locked thread I find.  I know the ones in the Bar expire; I even explained the process once (sorta).  This wasn't that.  I've only noticed it twice that I remember.  Like I said, for the most part, the changes have been invisible to me which is exactly what they should be for any poster who gets the whole 'behave as you would if your grandmother was in the room' thing.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Amber on June 23, 2010, 03:01:40 AM
The old True Blood thread was locked in media favorites, and I never knew why, other than that it was quite old.  *shrug* I just started a new one.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on June 23, 2010, 03:08:07 AM
You are, it's true.  But since your avatar is from the best, weirdest Angel ever, we forgive you.

I'll try to make a note of the next quietly-and-inexplicably locked thread I find.  I know the ones in the Bar expire; I even explained the process once (sorta).  This wasn't that.  I've only noticed it twice that I remember.  Like I said, for the most part, the changes have been invisible to me which is exactly what they should be for any poster who gets the whole 'behave as you would if your grandmother was in the room' thing.

Thank you my dear.   ;D 

Which grandmother?  One grammaw was a proper Scott, but Grammaw Crow would be sitting there with shotgun pointed at my head if she thought I was gonna sass. 
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Priscellie on June 23, 2010, 03:08:46 AM
Yeah, the old "Even Hand" thread was locked in the Spoilers section.  I unlocked it.  Hope that doesn't mess anything up. :D
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Sully on June 23, 2010, 06:04:01 AM
RE: Bans, transparency:
http://www.forumopolis.com/showbans.php

Not always the best descriptions.  And the modding in general is a bit more active and transparent there(though that's definitely a touchy subject there, too) IMO.

But that page does tend to alleviate a lot of concerns, and 'huh? what's going on?' posts.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Chiana on June 23, 2010, 02:08:24 PM
I have found myself being on the forum more since the changes came about.

This place reminds me of a huge family.  Siblings (us members) playing with each other nicely, then getting into spats with each other.  The kids pushing the limits with the parents (mods and admins). The parents trying to keep the peace and make a happy home for everyone as well as disciplining the kids.  Then you have the crazy uncles........ ;D

Thanks again to those in charge, who make this place work!
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Curly on June 23, 2010, 02:31:36 PM
Question: Have you considered taking a few contentious threads and posting them -highly redacted, locked and stickied and highly redacted again-as examples of "What not to do"?

For example,

Quote from: ExtremelyRudeMember
I'm trying to be very polite, so I'll refrain from calling you an idiot

Quote from: BannedMember
!"£%!$^!$^%!^!$£^

and so on and so forth.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Shecky on June 23, 2010, 03:39:23 PM
It's called The Book of Don't. Just Don't. by Greyson Payne. And every story ends with, "And Ashton killed him."

... I wasn't creative enough to come up with this idea; PG's already done it. :D
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on June 23, 2010, 03:54:45 PM
Work in progress, release date TBA.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Curly on June 23, 2010, 03:59:51 PM
Oh ...ok...


I'm telling you, if they hadn't already been invented I'd have given the world U-bends for toilets, Credit cards, the battery operated Torch and the multi-light-switch system and the "Don't, just don't" thread. sigh...
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Landing on June 24, 2010, 06:50:56 PM
I have to say I think the site is going great, adding the new mini mods seems to have been a good idea. More people to put out tiny fires that naturally pop up from time to time. Before I think it might have just been too much area for the older mods to cover. So small fires would pop up and start getting out of control before anyone could get to them. The mini mods are doing well so far. You can never tell how someone will react when they are first give mod power. Some people will step up and turn into real moderators, while some people just turn into posters with extra powers. We are all lucky that the people that were selected went the first rout.

 I can’t say I have ever seen any moderating done by mods that I would disagree with. Even the few times I have been slapped down myself have been for things that after a few minutes to calm down about I could see I was being a d*ck over. But then I have always been good about looking at things from an outside perspective once I have calmed down.

As for the issue I have seen some people raise about moderators not being as polite as they could be when they a slapping people down, I guess I can kind of see what is meant. No one wants to be told they are doing things wrong and telling them in such a way that it seems that the mod is out of control, insulting, or rude can only make that person more upset and resentful. Of course like some of the mods that have replied have said sometimes people need a quick sharp slap and asking them nicely with sugar on top wont get that done. So I guess it comes down to the mods deciding what is the best tone for getting things done and what is needed to get a persons attention.

All in all I guess I would have to give a solid A for how things are going now. (except for Shecky I give him a B just because I can)  ;D
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Shecky on June 24, 2010, 06:57:49 PM
HEY!
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Murphy's Stunt Double on June 24, 2010, 06:59:50 PM
I have found myself being on the forum more since the changes came about.

This place reminds me of a huge family.  Siblings (us members) playing with each other nicely, then getting into spats with each other.  The kids pushing the limits with the parents (mods and admins). The parents trying to keep the peace and make a happy home for everyone as well as disciplining the kids.  Then you have the crazy uncles........ ;D

Thanks again to those in charge, who make this place work!


I agree! The only thing that's really bothered me lately is that mom seems to be REALLY stressed out and the least little "HE BREATHED ON ME!" heard from the back seat gets us all pulled over to the side of the road for whippin's!

I imagine it will all smooth out eventually.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Priscellie on June 24, 2010, 07:00:30 PM
I will give Shecky lots of Bs!

(http://theninemuses.net/rubbish/beekeeper.gif)
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Shecky on June 24, 2010, 07:16:19 PM
Apparently, people like their Shecky like they like their coffee: COVERED IN BEES.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Enjorous on June 24, 2010, 07:29:13 PM
Pris it seems like you've been a busy little bee :P
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: OnlyElise on June 24, 2010, 08:52:31 PM
Apparently, people like their Shecky like they like their coffee: COVERED IN BEES.

Either that, or strong, rich, and thrown over the back of a mule like Juan Valdez.  :D
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Chiana on June 24, 2010, 09:00:36 PM

I agree! The only thing that's really bothered me lately is that mom seems to be REALLY stressed out and the least little "HE BREATHED ON ME!" heard from the back seat gets us all pulled over to the side of the road for whippin's!

I imagine it will all smooth out eventually.

True!  Now if we can only get Shecky to quit BREATHING ON EVERYONE, we will be golden!   ;D :P
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Murphy's Stunt Double on June 24, 2010, 09:17:58 PM
*snickergiggles*
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on June 24, 2010, 10:04:43 PM
It's the licking that creeps me out.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Priscellie on June 24, 2010, 10:05:29 PM
Relax, he only does that to people he likes.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Shecky on June 24, 2010, 10:25:49 PM
It's to mark non-targets for the bees. You'll thank me later when my apian minions begin their conquest.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: meh on June 24, 2010, 10:40:37 PM

"Policy Changes: How do you feel?"



*Is totally tempted to say "Bit of reflux at the moment and need a run to the bathroom, thanks"*
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: El Diablo on June 29, 2010, 10:34:51 PM
Personally? And yeah, I sat and thought about this before posting. I think for public modding when folks act up the Ashton Boot stomp works best. I've never been a fan of watching a conversation about what is and isn't acceptable go back and forth between a mod and a soon to be banned poster when an Ashton Boot Stomp (ABS&trade) can prevent it by ending it at the beginning, rather after the fuel has been arrived, deployed, and steadily pumped into said flare up.

I think Public lectures and Public lashings and Public debate tend to create a divisive atmosphere amongst people who might not exactly share the viewpoint presented by the mod, and can erode said credibility.. If you are asking for input, I'd say, examine the behavior, run it by the Longtimers, Decide if it's a boot, to the head, or a PM - and go from there.

Also, And I do have a specific thread in mind, I spoke privately to Mickey about it, when there is modding going on where things get changed, interjecting a quippy comment while modding may also fan the fire. Especially if it's political in nature, and a quippy comment could be extended into a direct but opposite response to the comment that had just been modded.

I'm trying. I also attempt to help. I would of said nothing publically if this thread had not asked.


my 2 cents



Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Dina on July 02, 2010, 04:07:28 AM
Well, my 2 cents.
First: I like the thread changes and the new organization.
Second: I don't know many of the things you are talking about because I wander mostly on the spoilers section.
Third: Even bbefore the changes, I always considered this forum a little...more sensitive than other forums I use to visit. But I decided that probably that was my fault. I think people from USA are more concerned with political correction  that we are (I am from South America). I remember being angry with a poster, told them I hate him and being almost instantly scolded by two moderators. I never though that anybody could think that I really hated a person for a spoiler. I asume that anybody will understand that was a matter of speaking and nothing else. Well, I tried to learn from that. So the next time I have a problem with the word "hate" I send a PM to Iago (who had used this word) and he answered me very clearly and very politely. I am still tryng to think about my posts and the way they are read. I even send a PM to Prisc because I was afraid to said something in public. It was about a spoiler tag, and she was wonderful (true godess, she is :-))
BUT, I still found some topics locked without a reason I can understand. My personal opinion for a public forum is that discussion is good and shouldn't be cut by rhe roots, but people should be allowed to excersise and practise discussion and argumentation. But this is, as you said, Fred's. So if he and his mods think that is a too-risky policy, well, I understand and I'll do my best to play by the book. I still go with the others who ask that mods be polite themselves. Teaching by example, if possible, is the best way to teach (yeah, I know. Mods are human too. Nobody's perfect)
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on July 02, 2010, 05:54:41 AM
Actually the big thing is that Jim himself wants this to be a pleasant venue.  Relaxed and friendly, where misfits can feel comfortable and mellow and nobody has to fumble for their blood pressure pills.  The Be Nice Rule starts not with Iago, but with The Man Himself.  

A topic can be locked a few ways.  Some forums, like the Bar, have an automatic 7 day expiration at which point the thread locks.  There were epic long threads gumming up the machinery, and when a personality conflict arose therin, it would often fester out into the rest of the forum.  So if a thread gets so angry and ornery that it's pretty much become so bitter and toxic that it's not worth cleaning up and returning to the original topic, it'll be put down.

Moderators will lock a topic for violations of the prohibition on Touchy Topics like relgion, politics and the like.  

Open up a thread about your favorite economic system, or your least favorite president, and boom!  that thread's done.  (Add stuff like that to someone else's thread, and you'll find your post getting editational snipping or deletion.)  Couple of reasons for that.  The fighting and ill will invariably spreads from the politics thread over to thingsup totally unrelated like a thread about Toot Toot and kittens.  And the forum members utterly uninterested in politics find themselves getting spattered by the pissing contest.  "I don't care about Republocratarianists!  I just wanted to read about Mouse and say how neat I think what Harry did in Book XYZ!"  

Another reason, and this is pure assumption  on my part, is that Jim & Iago aren't interested in having their community become politicized in general, nor become associated with any political faction.  Remember, this is my personal impression, not Word of Jim nor Writ of Iago.  

Take the Baen Book's site, it is pretty much a Conservative Stronghold, for example.  Got some liberal authors in the Baen stable, but the forums are Hard Right.  So liberal fans understandably feel unwelcome there.  As are moderates if they open their mouths on teh non-conservative side of things.  I've also been to other book or media forums where the roles were reversed, political correctess ruled, and those with even moderate, center/right views on any topic were unwelcome.  In those cases, people who wish to join that community are rejected because they do not hold the "proper" belief systems.  (For example, on teh Baen forum I had a person literally follow me to every area I visited to find something to criticize, even to the "movies we can't do without" thread.  Boy had to much time on his hands, took his hatin' too serious.  All because on a thread in the political section, I invoked my 10 years in a Combat Plans experience to offer criticism of a warplan used by a politician he liked.  That is a darn good reason to reject political topics for a foum like this one.  

Preventing befaviour like that is why some topics are cut out by the roots.

Jim's got fans of all factions, and every gradient in between.  So I have the impression that he wouldn't like to see one faction make the others feel unwelcome.  Doesn't want one batch of his fans chasing away the others.  He wants all his fans to be able to meet and enjoy and make friends without political affiliation becoming an issue, in an environment that's pleasant and relaxed.  He wants his friends to get along.

Accorded Neutral Territory, just like this bar Jim writes about.  
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: horsehearted on July 02, 2010, 06:18:11 AM
I like how polite everyone is being. There's still that feeling of comfort, but its like everyone has put on their Sunday best and are remembering to say "Please" and "Thank You". It makes me happy! And I think the mods are doing a great job! I haven't seen any issues/spats/disagreements since I've been back.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Chiana on July 02, 2010, 12:16:56 PM
Actually the big thing is that Jim himself wants this to be a pleasant venue.  Relaxed and friendly, where misfits can feel comfortable and mellow and nobody has to fumble for their blood pressure pills.  The Be Nice Rule starts not with Iago, but with The Man Himself. 

Accorded Neutral Territory, just like this bar Jim writes about. 

This is exactly what I like about the forum and how I hope it can continue to be!
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Priscellie on July 02, 2010, 12:22:05 PM
Yup.  Since the changes have been implemented, the overwhelming majority of locked threads have been time-related, as PG mentions.  We want to keep the board lightweight to run and minimize downtime.

Generally, we won't lock a thread because one poster made a political joke.  It's only when we feel a thread has been so derailed into TT territory or bitter sniping that there's no going back, and it would just be simpler to clear the air by locking the existing thread and asking folks to create a new one.  When this happens, a mod will pretty much always post and explain the situation.  

If a thread is locked without explanation, it's almost certainly a time-related locking.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Noey on July 02, 2010, 12:34:22 PM
Some of it might also be explained by the OP locking the thread. I've seen that happen a few times, when for various reasons the OP felt the thread was done with and explained it in a last post. So, when a thread is locked, it might've been the original poster instead of a mod, for whatever reason explained or unexplained that got into the OP's head.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on July 02, 2010, 12:48:44 PM
Ammended my post to clarify and reflect what Prisc said... If you start a political thread, it'll die.  If you add a political or otherwise TT to a thread, your specific post will get a visit from the Snip Fairey.  Whole threads only get the grinch if they've degenerated into unsalvagable battlegrounds.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: horsehearted on July 02, 2010, 03:20:34 PM
FREEEEEEEEEEEDDDOOOOOOOOOOOMM!
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on July 02, 2010, 03:36:49 PM
Only if you've got the blue face paint on, a kilt, and are prepared to entertain us with lighting bolts from yer bum.  Lightning bolts, not fireballs, mind you.

 ;D

Now if you'll excuse me, I have to gather the Rohirim.

Forth, and fear no darkness! Arise! Arise, Riders of Theoden! Spears shall be shaken, shields shall be splintered! A sword day! A red day! Ere the sun rises!

*Now feels compelled to re-read the Elder Edda.  Again.*

See what you made me do there?
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Chiana on July 02, 2010, 04:52:41 PM
bitter sniping

Bitter sniping=badbadbad.

Simple, yes?   :D
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Noey on July 02, 2010, 05:34:11 PM
Bitter sniping, bad.

Butter sniping, awesome with croissants. Pew pew!
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Lisa™ on July 04, 2010, 02:25:35 PM
Bitter sniping, bad.

Butter sniping, awesome with croissants. Pew pew!

Jam or nothing!  :D
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: LordMelvin on July 04, 2010, 02:41:26 PM
Quote from: Bilbo_Baggins
What have I got in my pockets?

Jam or nothing!  :D
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on July 04, 2010, 03:12:08 PM
Nasty, sticksye hobbitses
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Shecky on July 04, 2010, 05:44:01 PM
Nasty, sticksye hobbitses

We nomz dem!
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: the neurovore of Zur-En-Aargh on July 04, 2010, 06:02:52 PM
Jam or nothing!  :D

Always jam tomorrow.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Lisa™ on July 04, 2010, 06:26:23 PM
Veering toward "Jam the radar" would be soooo easy...
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Blaze on July 04, 2010, 06:27:01 PM
Thinking about toe jam myself...  But I do lurves the cheese!
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Shecky on July 04, 2010, 07:40:40 PM
Thinking about toe jam myself...  But I do lurves the cheese!

Not I. Toe cheese is just as bad as toe jam.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Chiana on July 06, 2010, 05:24:09 PM
Ewwww!  Toe jam.  Blech.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Warden John Marcone on July 06, 2010, 07:48:33 PM
Just a quick question.  When a thread is deleted, do our post counts reflect the deletion?  As in will my post count be decreased when a thread I've posted heavily on is deleted?
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Priscellie on July 06, 2010, 07:54:19 PM
Just a quick question.  When a thread is deleted, do our post counts reflect the deletion?  As in will my post count be decreased when a thread I've posted heavily on is deleted?

Fred and I aren't clear on what sort of algorithm is used to count posts, but so far, I haven't seen any change.  The post counts seem to have been unaffected by the initial massive purge, so I'm guessing it'll hold true for subsequent ones.  No guarantees, of course.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Warden John Marcone on July 06, 2010, 07:55:57 PM
xie xie goddess.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Murphy's Stunt Double on July 06, 2010, 07:58:21 PM
Fred and I aren't clear on what sort of algorithm is used to count posts, but so far, I haven't seen any change.  The post counts seem to have been unaffected by the initial massive purge, so I'm guessing it'll hold true for subsequent ones.  No guarantees, of course.

I must say, I've seen a bit of change. I was up just over 20,000 posts before the purge. It set me back almost 500 posts.

Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Priscellie on July 06, 2010, 08:14:07 PM
That's odd.  I wonder if it counted some boards and not others?
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Murphy's Stunt Double on July 06, 2010, 08:18:58 PM
Or perhaps some boards got outright deleted (like word association used to) and some got compressed and archived?

I mean, to be honest, if everything that seemed to have gotten deleted really got deleted, I shouldn't have even over 10,000 posts left, because I've never been a big poster on the books discussion side. 2/3rds of my stuff has always been in Mac's in some way shape or form.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Warden John Marcone on July 06, 2010, 08:21:36 PM
Or perhaps some boards got outright deleted (like word association used to) and some got compressed and archived?

I mean, to be honest, if everything that seemed to have gotten deleted really got deleted, I shouldn't have even over 10,000 posts left, because I've never been a big poster on the books discussion side. 2/3rds of my stuff has always been in Mac's in some way shape or form.

ditto
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Der Sturmbrecher on July 07, 2010, 09:14:41 PM
The new board organization looks good, and I like it. Mainly, I'm just peeved that it had to happen. I wasn't even aware of much badness going on until it was flattened by the B-17 81st Airbourne "Mods."

Overall, I've always thought the quality of modding and admin on this board was very good, and I still think so. So far, only a couple of decisions made rankle me.

The Angst corner. Used properly, it made the community healthier, and I know it was definitely a good way for some members of the board to get much needed support and care. I hope that not too far down the road the members of this forum will be deemed responsible enough for that to be brought back.

Touchy Topics. I wasn't a member back when it was around, but it sounds like it would have been both fun and informative. Political correctness doesn't suit me, and I confess to be being annoyed that the new changes seem to support it. Also, it doesn't seem very Dresdenish (Dresdenic?). Voltaire got it right: "I do not agree with what you say, but will defend to the death your right to say it."

However, being a lay member, I acknowledge that I don't know everything which was going on. I feel the mods do an excellent job (kudos to you all!), and if select of the forum were abusing their rights, then the decisions, while regrettable, make sense to me. Hopefully we can get the cookie jar back again soon.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on July 07, 2010, 11:01:58 PM
Not a "Political Correctness" issue so much as a "Jim don't want to hear you guys arguing about this when you're sitting on his couch drinking his beer."  The new policy applies to both Left and Right, and everything in the middle.  As for the Be Nice Or Go policy, that's not about sensitivey cuddlesomeness, it's just abiding by our host's standards of behaviour.  Manners, basically.

You weren't here for the Epic Pissing Matches that spawned in TT.  We've got people on the Left, Right, Middle, as well as some people who are Extreme Left on a couple issues, but also Extreme Right on others.  Even I, paragon of genteel and respectful conversation, from time to time, once in a great while, would upon rare occassion. say things that might be considered sarcastic, unpleasant, even snarky.  We had some good discussions, good points, thought provocationey things.  And for every one of those conversations, there'd by 6 where things just kept going south of nasty.  Then the "debates" would spill over into unrelated threads about the books, kitty cats or cheese.  This happened more and more. 

Back to the biggest thing though, is that and Jim just wasn't comfortable with his house becoming politically factionized.  What often happens in politically mixed interweb communities is that one faction or the other achieves an impression of dominance by shouting loudest, and then drives all the others away.  Jim don't much like the thought of Fans from Group A (Whoever they are) chasing off his fans from Group B (Whoever they are).  So he likes it better when we leave political and social issues outside.  That, and it just made a big, whomping pile of A + Ass Ache for the Admin and his lonesome few mods.

We still have the Advice Corner, where people can to get help and support, (as opposed to just bitch).

Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Priscellie on July 07, 2010, 11:05:15 PM
That is, if Jim drank beer. :D  Perhaps a Coke?
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on July 07, 2010, 11:12:35 PM
More homebrew for me.

 :P
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: horsehearted on July 07, 2010, 11:26:42 PM
Rootbeer? Doesn't everyone love rootbeer?
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on July 07, 2010, 11:34:15 PM
Whatever works for ya, luv.   ;D
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Der Sturmbrecher on July 07, 2010, 11:48:42 PM
Not a "Political Correctness" issue so much as a "Jim don't want to hear you guys arguing about this when you're sitting on his couch drinking his beer."  The new policy applies to both Left and Right, and everything in the middle.  As for the Be Nice Or Go policy, that's not about sensitivey cuddlesomeness, it's just abiding by our host's standards of behaviour.  Manners, basically.

Darn it, I missed the beer too!

You weren't here for the Epic Pissing Matches that spawned in TT.  We've got people on the Left, Right, Middle, as well as some people who are Extreme Left on a couple issues, but also Extreme Right on others.  Even I, paragon of genteel and respectful conversation, from time to time, once in a great while, would upon rare occassion. say things that might be considered sarcastic, unpleasant, even snarky.  We had some good discussions, good points, thought provocationey things.  And for every one of those conversations, there'd by 6 where things just kept going south of nasty.  Then the "debates" would spill over into unrelated threads about the books, kitty cats or cheese.  This happened more and more. 

That's what I heard, and I understand why it happened. I just regret that it had to.

We still have the Advice Corner, where people can to get help and support, (as opposed to just bitch).
I’m very glad that was left in there, but sometimes you really do need to let it out and have someone get you through it. I guess I’m just too idealistic about humans’ capability of interacting peacefully. Wow. When did I become an optimist?

Thanks for the response.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Dina on July 08, 2010, 03:01:22 AM
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I understand the political angle, but what about ethical issues? I don't think there are "factions" only people with opinions, like "I don't like Changes' ending" or "I think
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"
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: snowbank on July 08, 2010, 04:10:14 AM
I understand the political angle, but what about ethical issues? I don't think there are "factions" only people with opinions, like "I don't like Changes' ending" or "I think
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"

I thought those were still around, although people did get strongly opinionated about Susan.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Priscellie on July 08, 2010, 04:17:15 AM
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We try to keep Dresdenverse discussions strongly grounded in the Dresdenverse and leave real-world ethics at arm's reach.  It's the difference between "I think
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" and "I think
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."
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Curly on July 08, 2010, 06:00:26 AM
But Priscellie,

People here like to explain their views and hear explanations of other people's views. Take the
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thread, would it really be interesting to have 60+ pages of people saying " I think X did it" without giving any reasons?

Would it even be possible to discuss Dresdenverse ethics without indicating one's real-world beliefs?

Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Shecky on July 08, 2010, 10:13:01 AM
When in doubt, it's always safer to err on the side of caution: "If it were me, I'd ___" as opposed to "Anyone who doesn't _____ is a menace to society", y'know.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Priscellie on July 08, 2010, 12:26:03 PM
Curly, "I think X did it, and here's why" falls safely into the category of Dresdenverse discussion.  You're discussing in-universe characters with in-universe politics and in-universe motives.  That's exactly the kind of discussion we want to generate!  "I think X did it, because Obama is a Muslim" is not.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on July 08, 2010, 01:23:13 PM
"Ethics" is how some people spell "morals" and "politics".  It's not hard to find a fictional discussion to turn into a soapbox from which to snipe on Real World politics, morals, etc.  "I think X had a right to know about Y, and Z was wrong for withhlding that info" is one matter, but that's quite different from "discussing the Dresdenverse" by saying "Killing a sentient being is never right"  "Harry is wrong to eat meat or drink coke".  Those are examples of stuff that will generally hop right over to real world Touchy Topics Arguementation.  Likewise for even arguements like the ever popular "there is/is not any such thing as Free Will."  You think religious zeolots are fun, you should see Philosophy Zealots tear into each other.  They're more vicious than PHD's when one of their Respected Collegues has left the room.  So we do have to be careful that such things stay focussed on the Dresdenverse. 

Obama, holding a puppy, in front of the Lincoln Memorial, therefore, the Laws of Magic and the Accords are not relavant to the events of the short story Harry Eats A Sammich.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Curly on July 08, 2010, 09:10:59 PM

(http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_3IfqL9DOqoo/SVFVw_StEcI/AAAAAAAAF5g/nfH4Gxdeke0/s320/Jack%2520Nicholson%2520James%2520Dale%2520Mars%2520Attacks.jpg) (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_I_oV0qd_IY)
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Lash Dresden on July 08, 2010, 11:02:55 PM
I don't miss the arguments discussions from touchy topics (even though I did enjoy participating in some of them).  I do miss some of the people who were generally only here to participate in those discussions, and who have been mostly MIA since TT went away.  Having said that, I think the actions taken were unfortunately necessary.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Dina on July 09, 2010, 02:58:01 AM
WARNING, CHANGES SPOILERS


We try to keep Dresdenverse discussions strongly grounded in the Dresdenverse and leave real-world ethics at arm's reach.  It's the difference between "I think
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" and "I think
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."

I understand that. I am saying that not necessaryly touchy topics are all about politics. IMO the stress in that subject ("we don't want politics") is not right. It would be in "we don't want people feeling hurt or offended, so we wish that people was civil and well-mannered."
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on July 09, 2010, 03:13:37 AM
We tried that.  When political, social, economic, environmental issues, morality, religion and the like came up, civil and well-mannered went away.  Usually, civil and well mannered went away crying and it would take weeks to coax them out from under the stairs were they sat quietly rocking with their face to the wall.

"Politics" has a tendancy to gather all the other Touchy Topics I've mentioned under it's skirts, so we tend to use the term in generic fashion.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: El Diablo on July 09, 2010, 04:18:55 AM
I think what it should boil down to in basic terms, is that some people with opinions cannot and should not have them challenged on a forum where the fallout will not be tolerated.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Dina on July 09, 2010, 05:56:32 PM
"Politics" has a tendancy to gather all the other Touchy Topics I've mentioned under it's skirts, so we tend to use the term in generic fashion.
Ah, all right. I understand it now.

(Also: I change my profile. This is the debut of my new look)
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: shades of grey on July 09, 2010, 10:24:50 PM
The changes have happened (ironic I know).  I for one am just glad there was a forum to come back to.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: lash on July 10, 2010, 02:03:46 AM
We all knew who the jerks were.
If we didn't want to deal with them...we just avoided them.
It's like life.
Now, everything is so sterilized.
I don't need to be protected.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: El Diablo on July 10, 2010, 02:10:32 AM
Some people do.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Warden John Marcone on July 10, 2010, 10:58:45 PM
In regards to TT being shut down, I can understand why.  I didn't approve, but I understood.  Things would get heated and spill over into the main bar, and that wasn't acceptable.  And the Bob Rule was too little too late.  But from what I've heard of some of the arguments from teh book and spoiler sections, TT was mild in comparaison.  That's why I like the changes.  It's not just TT, it's EVERYBODY that being subjected to the new regime.  Maybe, after things have settled down a bit (I'm dreaming I know, but a guy can hope), TT will be sanitized, remodeled and reopened with stricter rules and a kid-friendly atmosphere.


Like I said, I'm dreaming, but MAYBE it's a remote possibility.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Ms Duck on July 11, 2010, 07:13:09 PM
Some people do.

Ouch. ED ol debate partner mine..just ouch.

the problem seems to me is that some people took these debates personally; and second, we have no real way of knowing how old or mature any individual poster is. So lets say we have a thread that gets into emotional terrioty, such as a thread on what the white god is or is not responsible for, and in walks some kid, maybe 12-13, who is looking to find out who will get the thrid sword because they are a big fan, and WHAMMO face full of over wrought emotional angst and junk.

What im trying to say is we have to keep it pg13 or so because we have those members, quite a few of them.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on July 11, 2010, 07:24:47 PM
And there's manners.  Or lack thereof.  Go into most bars or cafes, and they'll have standards of behaviour.  Go to different people's homes, and the host there will generally have certain expectations of how his guests should conduct themselves.  In a frathouse or some dive bar, it might be considered normal to walk up to some people sitting at table and drop trou, then fart in their faces.  Most bars, it's not acceptable.  In Jim's House, it's not acceptable.  You can't "Just avoid" the jerks in a forum like this, they come to you, and why should the guests who do behave in a civil and pleasant manner be forced to put up with those who simply refuse to?
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Chiana on July 11, 2010, 11:37:13 PM
I really agree PG and like thinking of this place as Jim's House.  We should behave as guests in his home.  For me, that means politeness, friendliness, and as PG said, manners.  Good manners.  For me, it is that simple.  :)
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: ashton on July 14, 2010, 01:33:37 AM
I think what it should boil down to in basic terms, is that some people with opinions cannot and should not have them challenged on a forum where the fallout will not be tolerated.

I think what it boils down to is that people should stop being assholes. Anything beyond that is overthinking the situation.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: lash on July 16, 2010, 02:16:16 AM
You can't "Just avoid" the jerks in a forum like this, they come to you, and why should the guests who do behave in a civil and pleasant manner be forced to put up with those who simply refuse to?

Yeah- I can see your point.
I guess I never had any problems with anyone because the ones who weren't very nice people I just stayed away from.
Remember "janie sings" ????
Ekkkkk - fingernails on the blackboard of my soul!  :o
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Murphy's Stunt Double on July 16, 2010, 02:37:45 PM
Jamiesings. with an *m*.

Quite the character, eh?
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on July 16, 2010, 02:38:49 PM
A character who is not here to defend herself.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Priscellie on July 16, 2010, 03:57:42 PM
Yup.  Speaking ill of past posters is just as unwelcome here as speaking ill of the current crop.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Curly on July 16, 2010, 04:09:46 PM
How about the Future newcomers, and the imaginary ones?  :P We have to rip on someone surely... :'(
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: snowbank on July 16, 2010, 07:22:20 PM
How about the Future newcomers, and the imaginary ones?  :P We have to rip on someone surely... :'(


^^Perhaps something is being lost in translation...^^

 ???
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on July 16, 2010, 07:31:50 PM
How about the Future newcomers, and the imaginary ones?  :P We have to rip on someone surely... :'(

In the words of Homer, when dealing with broken dreams and unfulfilled life desires, "Just wad it all up tight into a tight little ball, and push it way down in your stomach so no one will ever know it's there."



Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Murphy's Stunt Double on July 16, 2010, 08:58:47 PM
May I point out that I kept my actual comment neutral? You will all read into that what you like, as apparently you have.

Personally, though she could be trying at times, I had a soft spot for Jami and knew her from other places besides this board.

She was, in fact, quite a character.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on July 16, 2010, 09:10:54 PM
I realize that, MSD, but I wanted to keep this from spinning up into a gripefest regarding her.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Curly on July 16, 2010, 09:14:43 PM

^^Perhaps something is being lost in translation...^^

 ???

Vat? U say mai langwich is incomprehensible 2 u? Fhmmmff...
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Murphy's Stunt Double on July 16, 2010, 09:21:19 PM
I realize that, MSD, but I wanted to keep this from spinning up into a gripefest regarding her.

I understand. Sorry if I'm touchy today.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on July 16, 2010, 10:00:34 PM
I understand. Sorry if I'm touchy today.

That's ok.  I shall now poke you.

Poke.

 ;)
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Rue-Sal on July 16, 2010, 10:10:52 PM
That's ok.  I shall now poke you.

Poke.

 ;)

 :o
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: snowbank on July 16, 2010, 10:40:31 PM
I'm still waiting for a picture of MSD's new cat.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Murphy's Stunt Double on July 17, 2010, 04:14:28 AM
*pokes Paynesgrey back and proceeds to tickle him madly, yet chastely, because OnlyElise deserves fearsome respect*

 :P

wwww, snowy. I tried taking a picture of him. Little brat kept closing his eyes at the flash!  ::)
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: OnlyElise on July 17, 2010, 05:40:59 AM
Damn straight.



Carry on.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Murphy's Stunt Double on July 17, 2010, 03:01:31 PM
*places plastic sheet on the floor in case he pees.*

*Pokes and tickes PG more*

Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on July 17, 2010, 03:42:35 PM
Why do I suddenly feel like I'm in a German driver's training video?
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Murphy's Stunt Double on July 17, 2010, 04:09:41 PM
Really? I was going more for that old "Lethal Weapon" feel.
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Compass Rose on July 19, 2010, 10:59:33 PM
I have no problems with the changes, although I too miss some of the stuff in TT. Oh well, there's still lots and lots of other parts of this site to visit and read through pages and pages of posts. And I have seen several forums go down in flame wars because the moderation wasn't consistent, or even was nonexistent. The only other board I now visit regularly is just as heavily modded as this one is, and truthfully, I prefer it that way. There were a few boards I really enjoyed and it wasn't fun watching the crash landings.  ;D
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Ms Duck on July 28, 2010, 12:11:34 AM
Damn straight.



Carry on.

Im still afraid of you

Oo

Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: OnlyElise on July 28, 2010, 12:17:56 AM
Who, me?    ;D
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Frogge on July 28, 2010, 01:05:47 AM
I don't really know what happened while I was away for a while.  Have a few inklings and a couple of clues.
Don't really want to know much more than that. 

I'm glad for the concern of the moderators and appreciate what they do (and have done) to keep this forum the wonderful place it is.

It's good to be back!
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Paynesgrey on July 28, 2010, 01:27:39 AM
We're all glad to have you back!   ;D
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Frogge on July 28, 2010, 04:09:34 AM
Thank you!
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Priscellie on July 29, 2010, 03:31:33 PM
Welcome back, Frogge!
Title: Re: Policy Changes: How do you feel?
Post by: Frogge on July 31, 2010, 05:45:18 AM
Thank YOU, Priscellie!