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For guys and clever women.... help
JustinGD:
I don't think it comes down to mind reading...just different communication styles. ;)
DragonFire:
--- Quote from: JustinGD on February 03, 2008, 09:25:04 PM ---One thing my wife has taught me, is that when a woman says something, it usually means that the words are not as important as the situation that they are said in and the body language that she is using while saying them...I have also learned not to get my feelings hurt so easily
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Yes, but it would be nice if it worked both ways.
I've found with my ex's (and I'm not saying all women do this, or that men don't. I sure men do do this, I've just never dated any), that most arguments come from her point of view, and anything that doesn't agree, like my point of view, is irrelevant.
Hence, it leaves me, often, feeling like my feelings and thoughts have no validity, and that tends to make me angry and arguments escalate.
I honestly don't see how it's that difficult to say 'sorry I did a thoughtless thing, caused by my own forgetfullness, and it caused you some minor pain and irratiation'.
Again, I'm not saying all women do this, or that men don't.
meg_evonne:
*okay, I started this thread and I (and many authors) have gotten a lot of great material. Please keep it coming. I do think though that a side-by-side thread would be a good idea at this point for writers as well... Check out--Back from the edge, turning on your partner.
THETA:
Well, i'll just be severe on my own sex. I see so many girls do this it's insane.
-Getting too personal too quick. Guys really don't want to hear about how your sister's having problems with your mom's new boyfriend who she recently found out has been in a gay relationship.
Man, i can't stand when other girls whine to me and i'm sure most guys don't either unless you get one of those "need to be needed" guys.
the neurovore of Zur-En-Aargh:
--- Quote from: THETA on March 25, 2008, 10:16:51 PM ----Getting too personal too quick. Guys really don't want to hear about how your sister's having problems with your mom's new boyfriend who she recently found out has been in a gay relationship.
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This is not a gender thing, IME; some people open up fast, others slowly, pretty much regardless.
Oh, and tell your sister to stop being silly.
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